The Growth of Mengwa (4)—— Grandma came to Shanghai

? Why did you write this article about grandma coming to Shanghai? Because grandma has never been out of Jiangxi Province before you came to Shanghai for the first time 1. Shanghai should be the farthest place your grandmother has been in the past 50 years.

? Your grandmother is the person who has the greatest influence on Ma Ma's life. My studies and my marriage were all completed with the help of your grandmother. Although she once hated your grandmother, now Ma Ma gradually understands that everything is for Ma Ma. Because your grandmother's life is too hard, she hopes that Ma Ma will marry well and live happily, instead of working as hard as she does. I think mothers all over the world will have a great influence on their children's lives.

Grandma 1 went to Shanghai in May of 20 1 1. She didn't trust Babama to take care of you, so she took her grandfather to Shanghai to see you. This is her first time to take a bullet train and come with her grandmother's father (your great-grandfather). The dried Chinese medicine collected from the mountains will treat eczema for you. They only lived in Shanghai for one day, then hurried back the next day, and didn't go anywhere.

On the day you sent your grandparents home, mom got amnesia. Let Baba hold you, Mama bought a subway ticket and went straight into the subway. Baba said afterwards that he called me desperately in the back, so I couldn't hear him and left in a hurry. In fact, Ma Ma got on the subway, but I can't find you and Baba, and my mobile phone is not in arrears. I wonder, did you go back by subway with you first? So I hurried on the subway and hurried home. After getting off the subway, Ma Ma found a newsstand to charge the phone bill, and her mobile phone was restored. When I called you, I was so angry that I scolded Ma Ma. You and Baba are still at Hongqiao Railway Station, but you didn't get on the subway. All the money is here. I can't get through to Bama, but I have no money on me. You let the horse go in tears. I'll hurry back to pick you up and Baba. Because of this, you haven't talked to Ma Ma for several days. You are too young, you are not considerate. I didn't know it was amnesia myself. Later, Ma Ma mentioned it to a customer of Ma Ma, only to know that it was postpartum amnesia. Because it is too hard and stressful, Ma Ma has a little intermittent amnesia. But after this time, such a serious thing never happened again.

The photos of grandma's visit to Shanghai were not saved, but were deleted by the computer grid.

Let's say that grandma went to Shanghai for the second time in May of 20 12, which is 1 year later. You and your uncle's family came to Shanghai with grandma this time. My uncle took you to Shanghai for a trip. At this point, my mother just left Deyou Real Estate, which is in naked resignation and has just moved to another house.

This is your mother taking you to the Chenghuang Temple and taking a group photo in front of the gold and silver building of the old temple.

At that time, you liked eating fingers very much, so you always chewed your fingers in your mouth.

Grandma lost more than 20 Jin with you. Grandma was a little fat when she was young, but now she has obviously lost weight.

Look, how happy your grandmother is! Grandma said that her greatest achievement in this life was to give birth to Ma Ma and her uncle, and then Ma Ma married her uncle and had you and her sister. Grandma was very satisfied and always said that we were her greatest happiness.

? Sister wants to hug her mother, but baby, you won't let her hug you. No matter how Ma Ma tempts you, you just don't want to. At this time, you always look like you refuse to stay away from numbness. Are you complaining about mom?

You loved this pacifier the most at that time. You can't sleep at night without it. Maybe from the moment mom left you for grandma and went back to Shanghai, she planted the seeds of anxiety for you.

? Baby, you look serious.

? Uncle and grandma look alike. Do you have rice?

Mom and grandma are also very similar, right? In fact, my mother looks like my grandparents, but my mother and uncle don't look alike. It seems that grandma's genes are very strong!

Grandma came to Shanghai for the third time, very close to the second time, 2065438+July 2002.

Baba took an annual leave to visit you in Jiangxi. Excited to go back, but I don't know Baba. Don't Baba, don't even let Baba touch it. This matter is a great blow to you. He decided to take you and your grandmother back to Shanghai, so that you can cultivate feelings with us and let you and your grandmother come to Shanghai again.

The night you arrived in Shanghai, you got out of the taxi, looked around and refused to enter the house. Grandma put you on the ground, and you took grandma's hand and walked in the opposite direction of the taxi, crying and saying, "Go, go, go home, I want to go home." No matter what grandma tells you, you just won't come into the house. You ran back by yourself, ran a long way, and saw that grandma didn't go with you. You ran back and cried and pulled your grandmother and said, "Grandma, go home." Point in the opposite direction. Now I have forgotten how I finally got you into the house, but then you will cry when you refuse to take a taxi.

This is a 1 half-story attic with no windows. This is the worst rental house Babama has ever lived in Shanghai. There is no bathroom, and she has to pour the spittoon herself. Eating and drinking Lazar is in this house, and grandma can't understand the numbness. Why don't you go back to Jiangxi in this accommodation environment?

Living in such an environment, I feel that your grandmother is not very happy every day, which may be a true portrayal of all the old people who wander away for their grandchildren. Mother looked at all the photos of grandma and forced a smile.

? Your grandmother likes peppers very much. She can't eat without Chili. Every time grandma cooks, she hears the whole building coughing, which makes your grandmother feel particularly annoyed. Cooking in that narrow stairwell, grandma closed the door and thought about the smell. How uncomfortable it was! Only people who have lived in the old Shikumen house in Shanghai have a deep understanding of this taste.

? Now you are willing to take a photo with your mother and set up a pos.

Mom is looking at this photo now, and your grandmother is not very happy.

This dress grandma is wearing was bought by her mother in Qipu Road in May. Mom takes your grandmother to the mall to buy clothes. Your grandmother scared her away when she saw the tag and refused to try dressing again. Mother had to take her to visit Qipu Road. As soon as we arrived at Qipu Road, your grandmother was happy and didn't want to come back. She said it was just like visiting the county farmer's market. It was really delicious. Your grandmother has been frugal all her life.

Why did you put this picture of the baby? Because Ma Ma thinks the baby's expression in this photo is particularly like your grandfather's. You look like dad, your aunt, and your grandfather. Your grandfather's genes are really strong. Hehe _

? Hongqiao railway station waiting room, can not but play. You are like a boy, not afraid of life at all, running around, so happy.

? Unconsciously, you and your grandmother have been here for more than 1 month, during which you are both at work. Every time grandma takes you home alone, Ma Ma will tell her a lot. Your grandmother is a person who seldom travels far. Every time her mother goes out, she will tell her, "Don't walk around, don't talk to strangers, and don't eat what strangers give." When your grandmother heard this, she was always a little unhappy and said, "I'm not a fool." Do you think your mother is a fool? " But mom still doesn't trust your grandmother to go out. In fact, your grandmother is far more independent than Ma Ma imagined. She takes you to People's Square and People's Park every day. She chats with others and foreigners. The foreigner took a photo of you, and your grandmother was very happy to come back and share it with Ma Ma. Neighbors also buy food for you, and neighbors will say hello to your grandmother when they go out to buy food. Your grandmother said proudly to Ma Ma: "See? Your mother and I are still very good at communicating. "

? Hongqiao railway station waiting room.

Look at this photo of Ma Ma. My stomach is so big. Looks like I'm pregnant again, but I'm not. But after all, Ma Ma is still very young, with a full face of collagen, hahaha ~ ~ ~

On the day I sent you back to Jiangxi, you were so reluctant to part with you and never gave up.

Look at this picture of grandma. She is angry with her mother.

Two nights before you went back, you cried and went out to play in the middle of the night. Your grandmother has been coaxing you, but you still keep arguing and crying. Your grandmother asked me to turn on the light. I slept in a daze, climbed into bed and turned on the light for you. Suddenly fell out of bed and scared your grandmother. I got up from the ground and said with some resentment, "mom, if she wants to go out, you can take her out for a walk." Did she stop crying? " I was really careless at that time, but your grandmother got angry and hugged you and went out. I went back to sleep. Now that I think about it, your grandmother must have been very sad. When I got up the next morning, your grandmother ignored me and told her not to eat, as if she were crying. I really regret saying those words and breaking your grandmother's heart.

The day before you went back, your grandmother took you to the park. You almost fell down when you walked there. Your grandmother pulled your hand and dislocated it. You've been crying there. Mom had a rest for a day, just cooked a meal, you came back for dinner, and your grandmother came back crying with you. Ma Ma asked what was going on. Your grandmother told me everything, so I said, "She is so young that she can't walk steadily. How can you let her walk away? " Mom, this is really a natural reaction. Your grandmother took it to heart again, thinking I was blaming her, and she was unhappy again. After taking a taxi to the hospital to see her hands, grandma kept clamoring for me to buy her a ticket back to Jiangxi. She left on the same day, so she bought a ticket to Nanchang the next day, and there was no ticket.

In this way, you ended your trip to Shanghai in a hurry.

? Now think about Ma Ma, what a careless person. After you and your grandmother went back, when my mother was sorting out the photos, I saw your grandmother's expression and realized that your grandmother was still angry with her when she left. She left in anger. But mom knows nothing about it. Think about her more than a month in Shanghai. Ma Ma's focus is on you, and she seldom pays attention to your grandmother. Usually, I always buy what I like when I buy food, and I never ask my grandmother what she wants to eat. I didn't buy her anything she likes to eat. Think about how hard she tried to help her mother take care of you, but her mother didn't do her duty as a daughter.

? Are all mothers and daughters "loving and killing each other" mothers and grandmothers?

Grandma pays a lot for her mother, and her mother appreciates her help, but when she really lives together, she always quarrels. Mother's words always hurt grandma, and grandma is always angry with her. I often think of what my grandmother said to Ma Ma: "Everyone is qualified to say me, but you are not. In this life, my most worthy person is you. "

In fact, the person who has paid the most for your grandmother is your uncle. The whole family knows that your grandmother prefers boys to girls. She has always been partial to your uncle and never said anything about your uncle. This has always been a thorn in Ma Ma's heart. Because mom is a daughter, it is natural for her to help mom take care of you, and it is natural for her to help uncle take care of the children. However, mother is not angry with grandma. After doing hemp, she found it difficult to be a mother. Grandma is willing to help Ma Ma take you, which is Ma Ma's greatest blessing.

? Ma Ma often thinks in her mind: Will Ma Ma and her baby be like this in the future?

? Since then, your grandmother has never been to Shanghai. On the one hand, she is really busy and has no time, especially after your cousin was born. On the other hand, I wonder if your grandmother is still sad about going to Shanghai for the third time?