Several subconscious behaviors of a child betray his "low emotional intelligence". How should parents teach their children to cover up?

Several subconscious behaviors of a child betray his "low emotional intelligence". How should parents teach their children to cover up?

1. Losing your temper casually

In terms of interpersonal communication, one of the most taboo things is to lose your temper casually. Because after entering the society, no one can tolerate your mood. It is very likely that your parents will be willing at home, but out of the society, learning to control your emotions is one of the most important skills.

When a child loses his or her temper habitually, it will leave the impression that he or she cannot take a joke, has a bad temper, or is difficult to get along with. In the long run, most people will Invisibly, instead of being alienated, we entered the social media dilemma. Parents should teach their children to control their emotions. When they hear thoughts that they do not agree with, or have opinions that criticize themselves, or their requirements have not been met, they should think about the following three questions immediately: < /p>

1) Why does this happen? 2) Is there something I didn’t do well enough? 3) Is there any solution? When children have the mentality to think about these three issues, they will become relatively objective, and the brain will not be controlled by the mentality, and the brain can better solve and digest the mentality.

2. Participate in discussions about other people's weaknesses

There is a saying on the Internet that "gossip" is the best way to get closer. Some children want to integrate into small groups. When others discuss other people's weaknesses, they will be particularly interested and participate in the discussion.

Maybe this method will actually work, but you need to remember that most people have "double standards". The other party may think you are interesting at first, but later they will find you the opposite. , why are you so used to discussing other people's shortcomings?

And the bigger the child does this behavior, the more people will know about it, the information will spread quickly, and the information needs to undergo a qualitative change in the process of dissemination, and it will reach the ears of the person being discussed, even if What may start out as a small opinion may eventually be discredited as a very exaggerated criticism.

It is precisely because of this that parents should pay special attention to preventing their children from subconsciously participating in the communication of other people's weaknesses. Remember, praising others behind your back can always gain a sense of belonging from the person involved rather than criticizing them.

3. Joking without restraint and without any sense of restraint

"Why are you like that? You can't even make a joke." "It's nothing, it's casual." Tell me, why are you unhappy?" Does this sound very uncomfortable? Some children like to speak freely and make fun of other people's shortcomings without any sense of propriety.

Maybe in your eyes, it is quite funny, but in the eyes of others, every time the shortcomings are solved, the wound will hurt. But if you play with it repeatedly, how can you get other people to have deep sex with you? ? That is what parents must teach their children. Some parents themselves are such people. They must first gradually change themselves personally so that their children can feel it. This is the real role model around them.

4. Deny others whenever they have opinions

No one is a sage. A truly smart person will know how to accept other people’s criticisms and opinions, and use them to learn lessons and improve themselves. However, some children cannot withstand any criticism. As long as others have some opinions about themselves, no matter how small the opinion is, they will subconsciously deny it and continue to find excuses for their shortcomings, making it easier for them to develop opinions on each other. Argue again.

This kind of child is actually a sign of low emotional intelligence. Parents should teach their children to listen to opinions with an open mind. Only in this way can they be trained to withstand stress mentally, and their emotional intelligence and IQ will gradually increase.

5. Low perception

Children with low emotional intelligence also have a very obvious manifestation, which is low perception. When others share their bad emotions or sad experiences with their children, the children feel nothing at all and make excuses, even criticizing the other person for not being under pressure.

Imagine, if it were you, and you encountered such a sharing target, after this experience, would you continue to want to share with such a person next time? Obviously, it's not easy for the average person to want.

Children with low perceptual abilities will treat problems in a very simple way, either/or. Such a solution can only hinder the child. Parents must correctly guide their children to learn to put themselves in others' perspective, so that they can feel empathy and understand the emotions of others in the process. Only in this way can they comfort the other party more deeply and gain recognition from others.