Why do some people become "loners" just after getting married?

Being bound by family, you will unknowingly keep a certain distance from your friends when you first get married, because you have a close partner and you want your partner to stay with you longer; after you have children , the time you spend with your children will become longer, and your friends will become fewer and fewer, maybe only one or two left.

The difference in self-worth. When we first graduate, we all seem to be a blank slate. However, after spending a few years in society, you will find that the opportunities in life are different. Some people get promoted and make a fortune, while others People who are unknown and want to chat together are always not as innocent as they were when they were students.

Speech also makes a difference. Friends may also drift further apart or slowly lose contact.

Actually, you only need one or two close friends. If you have more friends, you really don’t have much energy to maintain them. The more women reach middle age, the more they feel that they don’t have enough time.

Because you have too many things to do, besides work, you also have children and family. Friends can meet up occasionally, chat, and talk to each other about trivial matters at home, just one or two.

After getting married, there are too many things you can’t help yourself with, and because you are already married, you will put more emotion and energy into your family. Before we got married, we had relatively free time. When we had nothing to do, we could just call some of our friends out to hang out. But once you get married and have a family, you have a kind of bondage. Especially after you have children, you have more ties. You can't go out without saying anything. And with two friends, if you have time, she You may not have time. When she needs you, you may not have time. In short, the intersections are getting less and less. For this reason, the contact between the two people is also less. It is natural that they will gradually become unfamiliar.

Secondly, with today’s advanced communication technology, two people can face each other face to face without going out. However, this kind of face-to-face is still not as real as a real meeting, just like a couple in a long-distance relationship. Even if they call, send messages, or even video chat every day, it is not as real as a couple who can see each other every day. Therefore, this method of communication also widens the distance between two people, making them become strangers without knowing it.