You can't meet everyone's expectations. It's better to live the life you expect.

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When I was young, before I formed my own judgment, every child always tried to do everything his parents expected.

Parents said: you should study hard, so you dare not slack off, just to get a good grade that your parents like.

Parents said: You should be obedient and don't make a fuss. So I don't cry or make trouble just to get praise from my parents.

Parents say: You should be polite, so greet your elders when you see them. Just to see your parents smiling at you happily.

Parents' expectations are naturally based on their children's good, but sometimes, the starting point is good, but the practice is not necessarily right.

Later, as you grow up, you gradually realize that no matter how hard you try, sometimes you just can't meet the expectations of your parents and peers. Why? In fact, it's just that your parents are demanding more and more from you, and there are more and more companions. Everyone has different expectations of you.

In fact, you already have your own judgment. You know what is good for you and what is not necessary for you. But you will still work hard for the expectation of others, even if you don't understand it sometimes. But sometimes I still feel wronged, why I work so hard, but I can't get an affirmation.

You know that you work so hard to fulfill other people's expectations, not only to get a compliment, but also to care about this person who has expectations for you. Or just because of inferiority, so live in other people's opinions.

But you forget that you live for yourself, not for others.

0 1.

There was a couple, two people riding on a donkey. Passers-by saw it and said, "So cruel, two people riding on a donkey." So the wife came down to let her husband ride the donkey, and then a passerby said, "It's cruel, I won't let my wife ride." After they listened, the husband came down to let his wife ride, but passers-by were still dissatisfied: "It's stupid, only let his wife ride." Finally, they decided to take the donkey home, but it was still not satisfactory. Another passerby said, "It's silly of you not to ride any donkey."

I believe everyone has heard of this little story. You can't meet everyone's expectations. If you only live in the expectation of others, I'm afraid you will never be satisfied.

We were not born to please others. We have our own thoughts, opinions and values. Why give up the life we originally wanted for others?

02.

The little ice fire in the super speaker some time ago.

Because of ugliness, she has been treated unfairly since kindergarten.

No matter how clean the table is, she won't be rewarded. Those beautiful girls have cakes to eat even if they do nothing. Her only friend is still supported by pocket money; She is pushed out everywhere, always ridiculed, and no one wants to believe her just because she is ugly.

I thought there would be a turn for the better in junior high school, but that was the beginning of her nightmare. She is still excluded, and even teachers will criticize her indiscriminately. She also wanted to commit suicide to prove her innocence.

You have to be treated so unfairly because you are ugly? This world of looking at faces is sometimes so realistic.

Because I can't stand the unfair treatment of this world and the strange eyes of people around me. Xiao Bing 17 years old chose plastic surgery, and had done 13 plastic surgery before and after, twice nose, twice chin and once temple. She lost weight from 180 kg to 95 kg, slimming, liposuction, stomach cutting and exercise. She used to have a man's face, but now she looks like a hybrid. Since then, everything has changed. People around her have completely different attitudes towards her. Even the shop assistants didn't like her before, but now even strangers want to talk to her. She used to chase her first love, and no matter how hard she tried to be nice to him, he was not rare, but now she has become his boyfriend.

She has become what most people expect, but sometimes she vaguely feels that everything around her is so unreal. She used to live in hell, but now she seems to live in a fairy tale.

Some people call her a plastic surgery ghost, saying that her face is fake, and the goodwill and love gained by her face are also fake.

She once succumbed to the world of judging people by their appearances, and she became what others expected. She did get a lot of things that she couldn't get once, but she was also abused.

After becoming beautiful, she began to share her experience of losing weight and plastic surgery. She wants more girls to be confident and fewer people to take detours. While sharing the cosmetic experience, she gradually fell into obesity and caused depression. She is drunk, and she is afraid that people will not believe her because she is fat. These are the prices she paid for caring too much about others' eyes and living in others' expectations.

But she didn't give up and became what she expected. She no longer gives in to the world, and the repeated failures of starting a business have not knocked her down. She tried to stick it out to the end; The distress of weight gain did not crush her, and she relied on her perseverance to lose weight healthily; She invests in herself, studies professional makeup classes and weight-loss classes, constantly adjusts herself and chooses the path that suits her.

Now she is strong enough not to mind the discordant voice from this world. After all, she got what she wanted. What she got was also earned by her own efforts and adventures. Once she lived in the expectation of others, but now she lives out her own expectation.

03.

When I was in college, I met a friend who likes to do sales and has his own plans for his life. The first time I chatted with him, he told me his plans and goals. I thought he had always been a lively and cheerful person, but I didn't expect him to be a very introverted person before.

When he first entered the university, he was as ordinary and insignificant as most people. At that time, he fell in love with a girl, so he got up the courage to confess to that girl. The ending was not as good as expected and was rejected. So he was decadent for a while, but not for long. From then on, he began to make up his mind to make himself a better person. When he becomes excellent and becomes what he expects, everything will not be so difficult.

He began to study sales hard, tried to build his own team, and used actions to help those who had the same upward spirit as him.

But it backfired: his father thought he should study hard in college instead of doing something unimportant. Although he was opposed by his father, he didn't flinch. He doesn't want to live as a person who only pays attention to learning in his father's eyes. The important thing is that he is not keen on his major, but he loves sales.

In order to prove that he is not wrong, he invested his part-time salary, learned sales knowledge and accumulated experience on the basis of ensuring stable academic performance. During his freshman year, he successfully transformed and became the envy of many people. This year, he experienced failures and sad moments, but he survived. This year, he got the olive branch of the company with his own efforts, but he chose to give up. He knows what he wants, his strength is not strong enough, and now entering the company is far from what he expected.

During the summer vacation, he still didn't relax. He took a summer job and was determined to achieve economic independence in his sophomore year by his own efforts. In the end, his father chose not to oppose him.

We should all understand that we can't always live in the expectation of our parents or anyone else, but should choose our own way, the expectation of live high. In the future, we will be more satisfied. Even if we are not satisfied, we don't have to complain about anyone, because our parents only give us the right direction when we deviate from the right path. Try to be close to what you expect, and it won't be so bad.

Living in the expectation of others, I am very tired and confused.

When we try to meet everyone's expectations, it's only for the recognition of the world. However, everyone's expectations are not the same. No matter how hard you try, you may not be able to achieve this goal. Since we can't meet everyone's expectations, why not meet our own expectations? We are not recognized by the world because we are not strong enough. First of all, you have to recognize yourself, and then try to achieve what you expect, so that you can be recognized by the world, right?