What kind of experience is it to find an unreliable nanny in today's society?

User 1: It's already 7: 40 when I get home from work today. I told my mother that I would go home for dinner and ask the nanny to get ready in advance, and then go home before 8 o'clock or a little after 8 o'clock. This is the premise. Then I came home, and there was no one at home. I know my mother took the nanny out for a walk, but neither of them brought their cell phones. I waited for them at the door until half past eight, and the two of them came back slowly. I ran over and said, "How did you get there and know that I didn't eat or have a key? Why did you come back now? " My mother grabbed the nanny and said, "You can't blame us, how can you blame us?" You don't have a key, and we have no obligation to care whether you eat or not. " My nanny went to the front without saying a word. I was in tears. My mother and nanny took a look at me and hurried upstairs. I cried in the opposite direction and called my friends and dad by the way. I feel quite wronged, because I never bring my keys. I only have a complete key at home and gave it to the nanny. There is something wrong with the other key. It is difficult to open the small door key without the door key, so I seldom bring the key. But it's not a day or two since my mother took care of the nanny. Yesterday, too, I had to move two big suitcases, and it was very difficult to move them out of the house. I motioned to my mother to ask the nanny to get one for me. My mother said loudly, "Why don't you just move a few more times?" I was left shivering alone.

In fact, in my mother's world view, if a nanny wants to be good to herself, she must be like her sister, so my mother tells her everything, scolds me in front of the nanny and hits me more often, which leads to the nanny's special love for publicity, that is to say, my mother has deviated the atmosphere at home and made me the lowest person in the family. My mother often speaks ill of my father in front of the nanny and says that I don't live up to expectations. Actually, it's a very common sentence, but it really belittles me and my father. Nanny is lazy now and often plays the fool. Not long after my mother finished the operation, she kept washing clothes, brushing shoes, making quilts, going out to buy things and get money, and so on. Occasionally, my mother asked the nanny to help with the laundry, and the nanny said, "Ah, you've been washing your own clothes. I won't wash your clothes myself. " Speaking of which, let me sum up that it is a sense of distance. Nanny is an awkward position. In fact, the live-in nanny should be working all the time (at least during the day, not counting the lunch break), but the family is very relaxed, so it is good for everyone to have a sense of distance, so that the nanny can not feel that "I can relax" and create a business-like attitude of "the nanny is working".

Netizen 2: Tell me about my personal experience. 1. Be sure to talk about your job responsibilities first, 2. Have a good communication, 3. Measure when you encounter small contradictions, and communicate well to solve problems. Make up your mind, don't be instigated or encouraged, otherwise the relationship will be difficult. My experience is a lesson. Looking back now, neither my nanny nor I handled this relationship well. First, her fault: she shouldn't ask about family privacy and shouldn't participate in family conflicts. It is agreed that she will only be responsible for cooking, washing and sweeping the floor, and I will take care of the children at home full time. My mother always helps her with housework, and the nanny is never late, but my mother always prepares breakfast and puts it on the table before coming. The nanny comes in and washes her hands every day and begins to have breakfast with us! Breakfast is rich, with fruits and vegetables, 10 is diverse. My mother always chats with her. After a long time, she stopped treating herself as an outsider and chased my mother to ask me and my husband about their income, which she should never ask. Besides, the nanny also meddled in my private affairs. My husband and I had a quarrel about how to take care of the children (it's our fault and we shouldn't quarrel in front of outsiders). As a result, the nanny told my mother that your uncle is much more considerate than your daughter. My mom wasn't angry either. After hearing this, I always feel that I have taken the disadvantage in family disputes. Told me several times in private. From then on, once my husband and I have an argument, my mother is here, and whether it makes sense or not, I will prevail. The relationship between the couple is very bad. My mistake. My mother is at my house. My husband and I shouldn't quarrel in front of old people. We should settle this in private.

Second, my fault: I can't handle relationships, listen to others, and I am more and more dissatisfied with nannies. The door-to-door service of the prolactin requires several pots of hot water, all of which are poured by the prolactin himself in the bathroom, and the nanny is resting. I've been here several times in a row, and it's always like this. The prolactin whispered to me that your nanny is too lazy. She should have a rest when she comes. She should pour water. Every time I see her, how can she rest? Originally, I didn't have any ideas, and I felt that I had wasted money. Gradually, I was dissatisfied with the nanny and moved to dismiss her. Actually, I can't handle this relationship well. I can ask the nanny to pour water for the prolactin. Or, ignore the words of the prolactin, because the prolactin comes to the door once for 500-600 yuan. If my family doesn't have a nanny, shouldn't she also pour her own water? The nanny should share the housework for the employer, but it does not mean that she is obliged to serve other paid service personnel of the employer, such as the prolactin. Looking back now, I feel that I really can't help being provocative. Without a steelyard, listening to the wind is rain. In the future, you should judge for yourself and don't accept the interference of others easily. It seems that the nanny is idle all day and does nothing. After she was dismissed, I found that there was still a lot of housework. I am tired enough with the children, and I have no energy to cook and clean the floor. Alas, my brain doesn't work, and I deserve it. It is said that the premise of cultivating children is to cultivate themselves first. The ability to deal with problems is very important, which directly determines what kind of life you can live. ) The nanny was neat and diligent at first. Later, there was a problem with each other. Finally, it broke up in discord. If I can do it again, I will do it better. Affirmation: 1. Clear responsibility, 2. Respect each other, 3. Communicate well.

Netizen 3: I have twins at home, and my staff is not enough. I want to start looking for a nanny in advance for my future work. Looking for four months, I changed five nannies. I finally booked a sixth one recently. Tell me how I feel. It is necessary for the eldest sister with the highest ranking to say ten things. In the process of changing nannies, I deeply feel that the quality of the domestic nanny market is mixed, especially compared with Yue Yue, all people who have no technical experience and professionalism think that as long as they are individuals, they can be nannies. From the beginning, we made it clear to the nanny that we only need to take one baby, wash the baby's clothes and take care of the baby's bath. Don't worry about anything else, but even so, it's hard to find a nanny who meets the requirements. Nanny number one, not bad at first, very diligent. After a week, she felt that she had a firm foothold and began to be lazy. Hold the baby and let it cry until my family takes over. If we repeat it until we can't stand it, the nanny will go to bed by herself. She is definitely not incompetent. When she first arrived at my house, there was nothing wrong with the child in her hand. The lazier you get to the back, the more you talk on the phone for an hour. Silence, fired.

Nanny two, she is very capable and diligent, but she likes to take care of my family's affairs too much. The family said a topic that had nothing to do with her at all. She always interjects from a distance, and she is also concerned about when and how pregnant women eat a nutritional product. How to raise a child? She expects us to listen to her, but she doesn't have the knowledge and ability to match her, and she has strong self-esteem. She resigned after being criticized once. Nanny three, as soon as he comes, praises his son for doing business, and he can earn 10 million for four months a year. Why did you come to my house as a nanny? It doesn't matter if you brag, as long as it doesn't affect your work, but kung fu is all in your mouth. The time she spent washing children's clothes was unbelievable. As a result, she didn't wash them completely. After drying, she can smell the milk on her clothes. Doing things is perfunctory. I have been brushing my mobile phone with my child in my arms, but it is very nice. Every day, "Oh, baby, you have worked hard to breastfeed" and "Mom has worked hard" are endless. I resigned two days later, auntie. You'd better go back and enjoy your son's 10 million. Four nannies, average ability and average diligence, but carelessness is unbearable. On the first day, the child went to bed at noon, and without saying hello, she went to her master's bed to take a nap. After that, there was basically no bed in my house that she hadn't slept in. She was sleepy on the sofa, so she slept on her side and we couldn't sit down. We were drunk.

Some people say that nannies should be treated as family members. From my personal experience, this is the highest realm rather than the threshold requirement. Being a nanny has been working at home for a long time, and the work at home can be entrusted to her, so that she can gradually become a family member, instead of asking the main family to treat her as a family member at the beginning. In addition, I think any job should have basic professionalism, professionalism and leisure, and so should a nanny. The advice to the new nanny is to define the scope of work from the beginning, and ask her to do things within the scope, pay attention to her tone, and don't be bossed around, but don't be led by the nanny for fear of offending the nanny. Where a nanny can help on the basis of knowing her responsibilities, she can still help conveniently. After all, the relationship between people still needs some flexibility. In addition, please pay more attention to the nanny's personality rather than experience. Experience can be cultivated and personality is hard to change.