How many people see a person clearly because of a disease?

A serious illness is enough to make you see that the world is cold and human feelings are warm and cold.

Seven years ago, I was in a coma for three days and three nights in the intensive care unit because of brain stem bleeding. It may be that "Yan Ye" saw that he was too young to live, so he sent him back without taking him in.

In the difficult years of recovery, I clearly saw my value and significance in the hearts of many people. A good friend who once promised a lifetime is really fleeting! What impressed me even more was that there was a little boy who, in an encounter, saw that the distance between the two sides was less than 2 meters. I thought he would comfort himself. As a result, he quickly took out his mobile phone, raised his head and pretended to answer the phone, talking loudly, and then passed me by.

I swear, for the rest of my life, I will never have any contact with this boy again.

A few years later, we met again under unexpected circumstances and said to me, "I heard that you were ill, and I always wanted to take time to see you, but I was too busy!" " "I know he is an excuse. At that moment, I was just coping.

In the cold and dreary atmosphere, I haven't communicated, but I have a faint smile on my lips. I know I'm fake, and so is he.

A few years later, the mobile phone slowly recovered from the "dead" state and gradually rang the bell, but it taught me to re-examine the people around me. Some people, who miss it, may be a lifetime, but I have no regrets.

Pay tribute to the seven-year rehabilitation road I have traveled, and thank you for letting me know a lot of people clearly because of this serious illness!

More than 30 years ago, when my husband and I got married, his brother was only in the first grade. At that time, my parents-in-law didn't want to send their youngest son to school on the pretext that they had no money at home. My husband is a brother, and I don't want my brother's future to be affected by this, so I took on the burden of sending my brother to school without hesitation.

My husband and wife have been paying 12 years for his brother, including the two-year re-education fee. In order to provide for my brother to go to school, four people in our family scrimped and saved, and finally trained him to graduate from college. Even when he got engaged and got married, we both gave him money. After he got married, he was naturally so grateful to us and drifted away from us like an enemy.

Five years ago, my husband unfortunately suffered from cholangiocarcinoma. My husband was lying on a stretcher after anesthesia while he was doing a bile duct dredging stent. Director Liu of the Department of Gastroenterology sees that my son is the only one in my family. Director Liu stepped forward to help carry the stretcher. It's about a mile from the digestive department to the operating room. Director Liu carried the stretcher with difficulty. I am grateful to see it in my eyes. Director Liu went to the operating room to operate on my husband. My son and I waited outside the operating room. I told my son that when his father came out, Director Liu could not be allowed to carry a stretcher. Doctors have no responsibility. You ask your grandpa four (my husband's brother) to carry your dad. My son calls him grandpa four. In less than half an hour, my husband's younger brother drove over, and I told him about my third brother's illness. When my husband returned to the ward after completing the stent, my husband's younger brother told me that he would give him100000 yuan in front of a room full of people.

A month later, I accompanied my husband to Nanjing Gulou Hospital for bile duct tumor resection. After two months of treatment, all items have reached the surgical standard. The doctor finally fixed the time for her husband's operation. On the day of the operation, our whole family, including her husband's younger brother and his second brother, were waiting outside the operating room. I heard from the doctor that I have to be sent to the intensive care unit for observation for a few days after the operation, and the daily medical expenses are as high as 10 thousand yuan. Medical insurance can't reimburse these expenses. I'm afraid I don't have enough money with me. I remembered that my husband and brother were going to operate on the third brother100000, so I said to my husband and brother, "Little brother, you said you gave the third brother100000, now you give it to me, and I'll pay for the operation. It costs a lot of money for your third brother to go to the operating room for surgery, and it costs a lot of money to come out of the intensive care unit. " Husband and brother were silent after hearing these words. I said it three times, but he still didn't say a word, and I got angry at once. It cost hundreds of thousands. Now I won't ask you for money. I can borrow money from you anytime. I'll pay you back when your third brother is discharged and the medical expenses are reimbursed. "Only said borrowed money, but also stood there like a Woodenhead without saying a word. I think he's angry. I said, "When your third brother had an operation, you didn't say you would give it to100000. Now you can't even speak. You don't even care about your brother's feelings You are a heartless baiwenhang. " He finally tore off the fig leaf and replied angrily, "You can't go home and sell the house? "I heard more angry. I said, "Are you human? Our family scrimps and saves for your education and helps you pay for your wife, so as to repay our kindness? How can you do nothing from destruction? Will it be too late for me to go home and sell my house? If there is no money, the hospital will stop the operation at any time, do you know? "

My husband's illness made me see his brother's disgusting and pretentious ugly face clearly. I won't mention this. Worse is yet to come. After my husband died, he and his mother, who earned millions a year, not only didn't care about our family, but even bullied our orphans and widows, and jointly took away the demolition money belonging to our family. Such shameless behavior is chilling. This is a typical realistic version of fighting for revenge. Compassion is harmful, convenient and dirty. Without the convenience of the bottom line, you will eventually fall behind. You don't need a thunderbolt to be a man, and you don't show bodhisattva's heart. I'm not afraid of tigers hurting people when I enter the mountains. I'm afraid of people is a double-edged sword. It is good to be kind when you treat others, but I don't know that sometimes your kindness should be sharp, just to protect yourself better, because not everyone in this world deserves your kindness and won't let those who deserve it down.

Let me talk about my mother. My parents are both 58 years old. My mother didn't graduate from primary school. It can be said that she has no education, but she is beautiful. My grandmother has six children, and my mother is the third. My father has thick eyebrows, big eyes and good looks. There are only my father and my aunt at home. Rural poverty. When my mother and I fell in love, my father didn't have a formal job and was about to get married. My grandfather's electricity bureau retired early and my father took over. Since my father got a formal job, my grandmother and father began to dislike my mother's illiteracy, but they have already talked about marriage. At that time, the pressure of public opinion was still great. My mother was beautiful and got married. After marriage, my mother gave birth to four girls, one of whom died unfortunately, and I was the third. Without boys, my mother has always been very exclusive. As long as I can remember, my father often didn't go home, drinking outside, quarreling and fighting at home, and drinking outside without giving my mother money. I was there when my father was arrested. That was 98 years later. My mother and my grandfather didn't take care of any children for my mother in the 1990s. . Probably when I was in grade 4.5 in primary school, my father started a business and did farming. Although my mother objected, she sang with the woman, waited on a large family and fed chickens, ducks and sheep like a worker. Before my father earned his salary, he always ate, drank and had fun, and then he started his own business. There is no savings at home. Moreover, the father holds the economic power, and the mother doesn't even know the bank card password. All of the above are backgrounds. One day, my father suddenly lay in bed unable to speak clearly and could not move … My mother took my father to the hospital, but my father didn't go. He may know that there is no money on his card ... My mother borrowed some money to take him to the hospital, but it turned out to be cerebral thrombosis. After that, he was like a fool, with his right arm, left leg and mouth tied, and his brain was like a fool who didn't know anyone. You can't get out of bed while lying in bed. It costs a lot of money to see a doctor at this time, and my mother doesn't even know the password of the bank card. My father has become a fool and can't say anything. I asked my grandparents for money twice, and they said they would save some life-saving money themselves, so my mother borrowed money from my aunt and uncle ... from various relatives, and applied for an advance salary from my father's unit, because it was also a sudden accident at work. My mother later took my father to the Second Provincial Hospital for hospitalization. Find someone to find a relationship, my mother said, even if you sell iron, you have to take care of my father's illness. With my mother's insistence, my father gradually improved, and now he is no different from normal people except that he is not fluent in speaking. But his temper became worse. May not be able to accept such a blow, after all, everyone still treats him as a patient. My grandfather's retirement salary is quite large, and my grandfather and my grandmother are still relatively happy together until they are old. My grandmother died at the age of 84. Before grandpa died, his salary cards were kept with his aunt, who paid him 5000 yuan a month. My grandfather only knows that he earns 5000 yuan a month, and he doesn't know that he has other subsidies. The total annual income of wages and other subsidies is 65,438+03 to 65,438+05. My aunt never told him about extra money. My grandfather takes this 5000 yuan and gives it to 1000 to 2000 yuan every month to subsidize my aunt. My mother probably knows these things. Although she is unhappy, there is nothing she can do. There is no substantial evidence. My grandfather was hospitalized several times, and my aunt quarreled with my mother for money. Said she didn't take my grandfather's money. It was an empty salary card. I threw the card to my grandfather when I was unhappy. My grandfather later called my aunt and secretly gave it to my aunt. Last year, my grandfather fell and fractured his patella, and he had an operation in the hospital. He gave me all the money (my aunt still has the salary card) and said that he had 200,000 deposits. Three years ago, my grandfather might have to have a risky operation because of a serious carotid artery blockage. At that time, my aunt asked my grandfather how much money he had and asked him to explain it clearly. He said there were 200,000. My aunt has built a house and bought a car in recent years, and she was poor two years ago. ) It's still that 200,000. My mother said that all the money was given to you, and we should forget the past. Fortunately, patella surgery in the elderly is quite successful. The operation cost more than 60,000 yuan, and all the expenses of the hospital included the food and drink expenses of nurse Lazar. Unfortunately, there was something wrong with the gallbladder when I left the hospital. The doctor said it could burst at any time. But the old man insisted on leaving the hospital. On the seventh day after returning home, my gallbladder burst at home. This is the rhythm of my life. My father and my aunt called the hospital, but they heard that it was an 87-year-old man and the hospital refused to accept it. My mother asked someone to find a provincial Chinese medicine doctor. The hospital was critically ill on the spot and the gallbladder ruptured. If I am old, I will pull it back without surgery. If I have an operation, I may not get off the operating table, or everything will be fine. However, after the sequela, I may not wake up after taking anesthetic, and it took about 2 hours to get into the operating room in icu. My aunt gave me grandpa's empty salary card. (The week I was discharged from patella surgery, I just got a salary of more than 5,000 yuan, and my aunt silently took it away. Fortunately, the operation was a success. I would also like to thank the doctors of Shijiazhuang Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital in Hebei Province for saving lives. An 87-year-old man has undergone two major operations in less than two months and is resting in bed. My mother waited on me for half a year with a handful of shit and urine. At first, when I could only eat liquid food, I bought a broken wall machine. Squeeze beef and vegetable porridge, protein powder and all kinds of food for grandpa every morning. Probably everyone thought that he would spend the rest of his life in bed. Thanks to my mother's careful service, grandpa can now walk slowly in the room with crutches. If you use a walker, you can walk very fast. . . My mother is a benefactor of the Sun family! After leaving the hospital, my aunt once asked me for my grandfather's salary card, but I didn't give it. Because of the epidemic, 1 My grandmother didn't burn paper on the anniversary, so it's time to burn paper on Qingming Day. My mother called my aunt and said she was not available and didn't go. I seldom go home to see old people.

On March 20 18, I was unfortunately diagnosed with cervical cancer. After the operation, I received radiotherapy and chemotherapy. Because of the long marriage time, I told my husband not to tell my family. I don't want my relatives to worry about me, just let me suffer all the pain silently!

My mother suffered from Parkinson's disease three years ago and couldn't take care of herself. My father had to be busy in the field and had to take care of her. My sister is reluctant to part with her loneliness, fearing that her father will be exhausted to take care of her. During the period, my sister often took food and rode an electric car from Jiangyan city to the countryside, which took more than an hour. Mother has to be hospitalized from time to time, and her sister and sister-in-law serve her during the hospitalization.

Now that cancer has unfortunately come to me, how can I bear to let my relatives worry about me? I told my husband not to tell me that I had cancer surgery. One day I received a phone call from my sister, who cried and said, Xiaomei, why didn't you tell us about such a big accident? You have suffered so much by yourself, and my sister said that she would come from her hometown to take care of me. Later, I asked my husband, and he said that he was afraid that something would happen to me during the treatment. How could he tell my mother's family? He was a little scared, so he told his sister, and then my sister transferred the money to me to accept it, telling me not to think too much and to keep a happy mood, which is very important.

In the past two years after my illness, my former friend Mei Qin made a phone call, and once WeChat was useless. She often asked me about it when she was not sick before. She is as busy as a pair of good sisters. I really regard her as my friend. Once, she asked me to borrow money, saying that it was not cost-effective for her to take it out at the bank. I took the money from the bank without saying anything. To be honest, I didn't tell her that I still had a few days. I would rather lose myself than let her down. This friend whom I really treat, has never heard from me since I fell ill, and I have to marvel at the arrival of cool thin. Once, feelings were all illusions. A serious illness opened this friendship, naked and fragile. Wechat was deleted a few days ago, so there is no need to keep it. How can you know the true face of Lushan Mountain without a serious illness?

Losing health means losing a lot. Among them, family and friendship are separated, far away, no longer contact, no longer intersect!

How unfortunate is it to have cancer? All the suffering can only be borne silently by yourself! Don't give up on yourself, let alone feel sad. Time bears witness to everything. Face the challenges of life bravely and see that no one can accompany you forever. Being strong is the only choice!

Don't hate that some friends are far away from you when you are seriously ill. This is human nature. If you hate yourself, you will hate yourself for not taking good care of yourself. This is the most important thing!

Please be kind to yourself for the rest of your life and cherish your friends who will never leave!

That's a good question. It's a common phenomenon in reality. Don't talk about distance, just talk about yourself! When I got a serious illness, I saw not only one person's face, but also the faces of everyone around me.

I have to take care of them because of my family, but I can see that their faces are full of helplessness and sadness, and more impatient. Even sometimes rude and aggressive words, some of which are not great, will give meticulous care and comfort, but treat them as weak people. I have never forgotten what they said to me, but I must forget, because I have no common sense with them, forgive them for protecting themselves. And as always, treat them as relatives to help.

Once a person is sick and can't take care of himself, others will turn all your previous efforts and efforts into ashes. No one will be grateful to remember your past kindness, because others are used to your care, and taking care of you in turn will breed a lot of grievances and resentment. Will you not be sad to see such a family?

Dear friends, what will happen if this happens?

How many people see a person clearly because of a disease?

I have a friend. Usually. The relationship between husband and wife is ok. Later this friend suffered from uterine fibroids. Because uterine fibroids were incurable more than a decade ago. Although there is no life-threatening, the lower body often bleeds. It also affects health. In desperation, at the doctor's suggestion, my friend had a total hysterectomy.

My friend's husband disagreed before the hysterectomy. But my friend's mother urged her daughter to do it because she considered her daughter's health. On the day of the operation, the husband came to the hospital once. I never went to the hospital to see my classmates again. Let alone nursing. In this way, the students took turns nursing during their hospitalization. I know my husband didn't show his face when he left the hospital. I can imagine it more when I get home.

The relationship between husband and wife is particularly cold in the future. Although I'm not divorced. But apparently her husband was having an affair. Two people sleep in separate beds, and there is no longer a common language. My classmate is very sad. Through this illness, I have seen through my husband's character again. They already have a son. If you have no children, you can imagine how your husband will treat him.

My old classmate is almost 50 now. Because of the removal of the uterus, the body is still relatively healthy. So the classmates told us that it doesn't matter. It is also a good thing to know the true face of her husband after a serious illness.

I saw my husband completely because he was ill.

We are not on good terms. Every time we quarrel, I never tire of saying the word divorce until he gets sick. I never mentioned divorce again, but I want to leave more and more.

He has kidney disease, depriving him of sex and function, and depriving me of the function of enjoying sex. With his illness, I am also aging rapidly with the naked eye, from others calling me little sister to now calling me aunt.

But he can eat and sleep at ordinary times, and he can't see that he is a patient at all. But the doctor's advice says that I can't do heavy work. If I'm tired, I'll never go to work on the construction site again. The burden of life is all on me.

I asked him to find an easy job, because he has a low education and it is difficult to find a suitable job. I accompanied him to find countless jobs.

Parking toll collector, he thinks the salary is too low. Express delivery, residents without elevators are too tired to climb stairs. Community security, that's what uncles can do. They have to work at night. Bakery apprentice, can't learn to bake bread, the environment is too hot to stand. ...

It seems that he can do nothing but work on the construction site. No wonder, after graduating from junior high school, he worked as a coolie on the construction site with others and was not interested in anything else. I remember a quarrel. I called him a basket case except working on the construction site.

Selling labor on the construction site is not a long-term solution. Can we expect to work until retirement? You should plan ahead, find your way early, or learn a skill. I reminded him of all this before, but he didn't agree.

My good words don't work, but I swear accurately, and the world news comes so fast.

Tired of my nagging that day, he shouted at me, "Do you know how serious this disease is?" You also urge me to go to work. You only have money in your eyes, so there is no life or death for me? "

I can't help but reply to him: if you are paralyzed in bed, I will admit it. I will wait on you and earn money to support you. But if you can still move, you must assume the responsibility of a man. He stopped talking and was indifferent.

Just now, I'd rather work three times a day and work harder to maintain my family expenses than worry about him going to work or not. An illness really made me see him clearly and our marriage clearly.

How many people see a person clearly because of a disease? Girlfriend divorced alone, and son visited others in Baoding. He is ill in hospital. Let me send him meals for a few days. I cooked chicken and bought fruit at jiaozi's. That's all my money. Last year 1 1 month, I was hospitalized, not only because I didn't see me, but also because I was ill. Now I ignore him and don't associate with him!

My husband was ill last year, and I got a good look at their family.

My husband has a cerebral infarction. His parents went to see him once while he was in hospital. When his father saw that he was still in the hospital bed, he asked, when will the living expenses be paid to him this month? At that time, my uncle next to our bed asked him why he came to ask for money since his son was like this. His father's answer is that his son is ill, but he and his mother can't be mistreated. My husband really can't give him 1000 yuan, and he hasn't been to the hospital since.

Three years ago, his sister sold insurance and forced him to take out money to buy an insurance for her, so he gave her 4000 yuan a year and bought her a medical insurance for serious illness. This time he was ill, and her sister went to the hospital to help write out the reimbursement documents. At that time, she finished all the formalities, and people from the insurance company came to verify the information. Unexpectedly, because her sister wrote in the insurance policy that the beneficiary was herself. I had a quarrel with her about money. But it's no use. She has used this money to pay off the debts she owed outside. My mother-in-law still complains all day that I am not sensible and don't understand my daughter's pain as a divorced woman.

When my husband used to make money, his parents and sister came to my house every day, and his mother sometimes helped me with my children. Now that he has lost his ability to work, he needs someone to take care of everything, so his parents will never come to our house again. His father told others outside that when he saw him like this, he would give up hope and leave him alone, but if we couldn't afford their living expenses, he would go to court and sue him for failing to fulfill his obligation to support the elderly, if the money was not in place for a day. He and his bean mother won't let us live in peace.

This is my husband's house, a group of animals who only recognize money but not people.

On the first day of the tenth lunar month in 2020, I got a terminal illness. After living in the hospital in Changchun, Jilin for a month, the doctor told my family: Go home and meet relatives. I went home. I am a farmer. When I didn't go home, my neighbor burned my kang. My relatives drove me home and my neighbors cried. Come to my house to accompany me every day, maybe it's God's blessing. My cousin is a village doctor, giving me injections every day, and my condition is actually better. Now I can do housework. My opinion is that everyone around me is very nice. Thank them!