How many grandmothers go to see the children alone and leave their grandparents behind? what do you think?

Many people go to their children's homes to see their grandchildren alone, leaving their husbands at home alone. Why?

Grandparents don't stay at home, but they are not in a hurry to find grandma as a mother, and their love for their children doesn't change with age. Therefore, when their children need help, most of them are duty-bound to rush over. But grandparents are different. Think about dads now. It's just a sideline, even a myth, let alone a child's child.

In other words, grandma is more willing to take care of the children, and grandpa can play with them, but it is difficult to stick to living away from home for a long time.

Many couples get used to living alone when they are old. As the subject said, they were left at home and separated. I feel that their father goes out to work and their mother will be more experienced at home. For the elderly, in fact, when their children are older and stop working, they will be more inclined to do what they do.

Think back, how many old couples buy food together, travel together and have the same hobbies? Don't talk about life, even sleep at night. When people get old, they will be separated into beds or even rooms because of sleep problems.

It's not about feelings. If you go to a high-end retirement community, you will find that even in a couple's room, a big bed is rare.

Leaves fall to the roots, and the old man swings between homesickness and the pursuit of children. Some old people come to take care of their children and care about their families. Especially now that the parents of the elderly are still alive, relatives and affairs at home also need to be taken care of. When it comes to children, because some concepts are out of sync, there are always times when they are stiff or discordant. Therefore, it is really rare for the old couple to come, especially those who live under the same roof.

Grandpa didn't retire, so he had to live separately. Many netizens commented that this is also a reason. Indeed, children get married and have children early. The old couple had to run away from each other. This is also very hard.

Is the life of the elderly in China normal? This is a question worth pondering.

(1) the meaning of China husband and wife company.

Let's take a look at foreign countries. There are not a few white-haired couples living in old-age care institutions. They walk hand in hand, play games, chat and even send love greetings and kisses every day.

Sometimes, it seems that taking care of children and pulling away from your wife will bring you closer.

(2) The present situation of parents' pension in China.

Of course, some of them need to depend on each other. For the sake of children, they really need to be separated. This is the dual role of China's national conditions and culture.

Our parents have worked hard all their lives. Many people are old and can't live a free and happy life because they care about their children. As children, we should be more concerned, more understanding, more tolerant and more grateful.

I'm the one left at home!

However, there is nothing we can do about it. We should treat it correctly. I believe that most grandfathers like me are willing!

First of all, this is my own responsibility and obligation. Poor parents don't expect their children to have good parents, provide them with a decent and stable good university job, and then help them buy a house and get married. This is the first step. After being promoted to grandparents, it is even more obligatory to look after grandchildren! It is not easy for young people living and working in cities now, unlike those of us born in the fifties and sixties. At that time, when we were just parents, there was a unit nursery to help take care of the children, so we had no worries. There is no such condition at present. It is natural to help children take care of their babies!

Secondly, most people of our age still have the obligation to take care of their parents. They are not old enough to retire and have to earn money to support their families. Then how can everyone leave this big stall in their hometown to take care of their children's small homes?

One more thing, as the old saying goes, parents' home is always children's home, and children's home is never parents' home. Wise parents, who wants to live with their children? ! Just send a representative.

Keep your old nest, be a good wife's backing, stick to it for two or three years, and wait for her to "retire gloriously" from the children's home, and the old couple will enjoy their old age together, which will be quite satisfactory!

There is no specific data, and I don't know how many grandmothers and grandfathers have separated. This kind of situation should exist, and there are indeed many. I think the reasons are as follows: the children's housing area is limited and they can't live; The two generations have different thinking, living habits and environment and are unwilling to live together; Some elderly people have to do this because of health and family problems.

Zhang Dage, who lives in Suining, Sichuan, retired on 20 16. My daughter-in-law works in a central enterprise in Chengdu, and her work is busy. In the spring of 20 17, the old couple went to Chengdu to take care of their nephew. Brother Zhang is responsible for buying food, cooking and household hygiene, and his wife is responsible for their nephew's daily care. Shortly after his nephew's full moon, he asked his wife to take care of his nephew and clamored for him to live in Suining. Knowing that he had a heart attack, the children failed to keep him for many times and had to let nature take its course.

In the summer of 20 17, Zhang Dage returned to Suining, and several friends repeatedly advised him that it was not safe to live alone because of heart disease. In case of attack, there is no one around, which is prone to accidents. He said with a smile, my daughter has no friends, no one to drink tea and chat with, and she is very lonely. She lives like a year and is worried about depression. Suining people are well-trained and enjoy drinking tea and playing cards with comrades-in-arms, colleagues and classmates every day. Everyone thinks it makes sense, so they don't say much, just remind them to take medicine on time. If you feel uncomfortable with your heart, you must call for help and seek medical treatment in time.

In the autumn of 20 17, several friends invited me to visit Inner Mongolia. One night, I drank in a yurt, ate roast whole sheep and watched folk songs and dances. Suddenly I got a call saying that Zhang Dage's phone was not answered for two days and asked me if I knew where he lived. I know the neighborhood where he lives, but I don't know the specific house number. From the beginning, I thought something must have happened to Brother Zhang. With the help of the police station and the property management, I found him at home, but he has passed away. After forensic identification, he suffered from myocardial infarction and was not rescued in time, resulting in death.

The death of brother Zhang made us extremely sad. There are many lessons to be learned from reflecting on this matter. I think if his wife, daughter and son-in-law are tough and don't allow an old man with heart disease to live alone, it is estimated that he can live for a few more years. If he hadn't been so stubborn, didn't go back to Suining to live alone, and didn't have someone around at any time, maybe he could have avoided this tragedy.

The author believes that it is natural and understandable for grandparents to take care of their grandchildren in order to reduce the burden on their children. However, in order to take care of their grandchildren, the old couple separated and a tragedy happened, which really deserves our attention and attention. I'm Nong Liang, from my home, for reference only.

Some old people are willing to take their grandchildren, while others are unwilling to leave their wives to take their grandchildren. But for the sake of life and children, we can only separate our grandchildren from our wives in this way. Every family has a difficult experience, and it's hard to say, so it's very helpless.

There are many reasons why grandma takes care of grandchildren and leaves grandpa at home. 1: Some grandfathers have not retired. 2. There is plenty of land in my hometown that needs to be cultivated. There are plenty of old people to take care of at home. Some of them don't want to go, and they think it's inconvenient to be free in their own homes. As a grandmother, it is one thing whether she is tired or not when she retires with her grandchildren. In fact, what I fear most is to ignore them and even be hurt mercilessly!

In today's society, it is true that children are busy with work and have great pressure on life. As parents, we should share what we can for our children and let them work with peace of mind. This is also for family harmony. As parents, there is no complaint and everything goes well!

It is the duty and responsibility of parents to have children. It's better to work hard and raise and take care of yourself. Parents are too busy with their children occasionally. Because now parents are old and inseparable, they should take care of each other. If they are not together, they will care about each other, and young couples will always be together.

Poverty inherits the wind! Busy all my life, for this family, for the children. When you get old, it's time to live for yourself. Don't continue to work hard for the children's children. Live lightly for your old age and grow old together slowly!

How many grandmothers go to see their children and leave their grandparents at home? what do you think?

I can only say that I can't watch it! Not without opinions!

Some grandfathers prefer to stay at home. Many young people live in this community. The first time I came to the community was in summer. As soon as I entered the gate of the community, the first thing I saw was a large number of children's cars. I heard that there are more than one hundred. 99% are grandma watching. 90% of the elderly live a life of cowherd and weaver girl. There are several situations:

One, two children live in two places, with children, two old people and a family to look after the children.

Two sons, one in Qingdao and the other in Texas, have children at the same time. They all need someone to look after their children, so they can only be separated. Isn't it good to have an old man look after the children in each family?

Second, there are old people in my hometown and I can't leave.

More than 95% of these elderly people live in rural areas, with several acres of land and their 80-year-old mothers to take care of. I can only stay and farm to see the old people.

Third, I'm not used to city life and would like to stay at home.

Some old people (grandparents) are not used to city life, and he is not used to living away from more than half of his own place.

1. I am not used to life. In the big yard in the countryside, you can grow all kinds of vegetables, pick whatever you eat and cut whatever you want. How convenient it is, you can rest assured.

2. Language barriers. These old people really come from all corners of the country and can't speak Mandarin. Dialect is very serious! It's embarrassing to speak different languages.

3. Now the pace of life is too fast, people are thin and cold, living in tall buildings, and neighbors in a corridor don't talk when they meet, and no one knows who lives opposite! The old man feels like he is in prison, and he is not happy.

The child is too selfish, or in order to save money, the old couple are separated. The family situation is different, and some children have high incomes; Some work to earn a lot of money, and they don't want to bring a nanny for their children. I will take care of it, the nanny needs about 4000 yuan, and there is no grandmother to watch!

Needless to say, those who earn less need a person's salary. How nice it is for the old man to watch the children wash clothes and clean up!

Other daughters-in-law like grandma, don't like her father-in-law, don't like him, and won't let him come to town if he can't work.

What should we do?

I think some families, whose children are very filial, find a temporary worker for their father in the city, earning about 2000 yuan a month, which not only solves the problem of providing for the elderly, but also solves the difficulties of parents living in both places.

Children should be diligent when they get married. Mother-in-law can't accompany you all her life, get up early to make breakfast and eat supper at night. If you can't afford a nanny, you'd better have fewer children! Don't break up old people, let them live like cowherd and weaver girl. Don't you understand that young couples always walk together?

I know a brother who told my daughter that he would buy a house and a car with an annual salary of 10 million yuan. Take care of his nanny, wash clothes and clean up.

How well the wallet is bulging! Money is not everything. It is really impossible to have no money when you need it! I can only let my parents live the life of a cowherd and a weaver girl.

Over the past few years, I have observed that rich people and well-off families are mostly civil servants; Or after graduating from college, use your knowledge to do business. On the other hand, if you want your parents to live a happy life, you should study or go to school. Reading changes your destiny. If you don't change your destiny, at least you will have many choices! Otherwise, you have to live the life of a cowherd and a weaver girl yourself!

Conclusion: Because children are selfish. Because their children are incompetent, they have no way to raise them, so they can only let their parents live a life of cowherd and weaver girl. Children should not be too selfish, and understand that young couples will always be together.

I am Wen Ping, an old man who loves to tell the truth.

Nowadays, young people are relaxed when they have children and grandparents to take care of them. Taking care of children is a responsibility. Some old people don't show it for a reason. Young people leave their grandparents at home, and it is hard to ignore this festival. At that time, all three children were sent to the nursery and went home from work. Now, a child's mother-in-law is going to stop. Now only the elderly feel sorry for their children, and daughters rarely feel sorry for the elderly. This is the situation now.

This topic is a bit heavy! Grandma and grandma can understand their grandchildren, but they can't take care of the other half, and their hearts are really not practical.

The birth of the grandson brought great love to the two families. After the end of love, who will take care of the children, natural grandmother bears the brunt.

Children's parents are busy at work, so naturally they don't have much time to take care of their children. You can't say you can't leave work and take care of the children at home.

Therefore, it is difficult to fill the gap with grandma. Because grandpa has cancer, no one takes care of him. Children here can't be ignored. Really helpless!

By the time the child is two years old, his grandfather is terminally ill! There is no cure.

Grandma is in charge of one end, but not the other. It's hard, it's hard to get to heaven!

I have no choice but to send my child to kindergarten, just put one end down and look after the other.

More than a year has passed, and the children have gradually grown up. Unfortunately, the child's grandfather has passed away!

Every time I think about it, I feel very guilty, ashamed of my wife, and very guilty. No one can complain about my inner pain.

Now a person's grandmother, facing an empty house, is lonely and miserable …

I have seen many such examples. My grandmother went to see the children and left my grandfather at home. Some grandfathers are not good at cooking and housework, so the left-behind grandfathers are sloppy, poorly dressed and look a little distressed. But the child is too young to be taken care of without help. Let grandpa go, too. There is another stall at home. So we can only say that the old people have paid too much for their children, and some people still don't care about the good of the old people. Which one to choose really hurts the hearts of old people!

There are many cases where grandma and grandma go to help their children look after their children alone. After all, young people have to go back to work after maternity leave, and the children have to be looked after by special people.

But why do grandma and grandma go to see the children alone? I think there are several main reasons:

1. Grandpa Grandpa is reluctant to leave his familiar place.

These old people have lived in their hometown all their lives. The rural yard is big and the neighborhood relationship is good. After dinner, they went out for a walk. Being familiar neighbors is also a relief.

But once I went to the city to take care of my grandson, and I didn't know anyone in the community. In addition to taking care of the baby at home, I don't even have a homely person when I go out.

Second, we can't accept the constraints of city life.

Grandpa grandpa is used to being free in the countryside. Once you get to the children's home in the city, you always feel at home.

Stay at home, smoke if you want, spit if you want, do whatever you want and sleep as long as you want. In short, you are free, but once you live in a child's house, you have to smoke in the corridor, because there are children at home, and you have to get up early to make breakfast for your children and grandchildren, because the children have to go to work.

All kinds of constraints, so that grandpa, grandpa, a person would rather stay at home than go to the children's home to help with the children.

Third, in the traditional concept, taking care of children is a woman's business.

Our traditional concept generally believes that taking care of children is a woman's business. After all, women are more experienced in cooking, doing housework and taking care of children. Therefore, once a child has a child and needs the help of the elderly, the first thing that comes to mind is grandma and grandma.

In short, there are always some difficulties in life, and the elderly have to choose to help their children and their wives separate.

Just like my family, my mother left my father alone to look after my brother's children, and my mother-in-law left my father-in-law alone to look after my children in the city.

As a child, I very much hope that the two old people can come together in front of me. I can also take care of two old people. After all, the old man is old, and we are not at ease at home alone.

However, neither father nor father-in-law wants to leave their hometown. As the younger generation, we can only respect their choices.

Such a thing really exists.

I have a neighbor. My grandmother has been visiting my grandson for six years. My wife is taking care of her 90-year-old father in her hometown of Jiaodong. The old couple have been separated for a long time. Only when the children have a holiday can they go back to their hometown for reunion.

I'm looking forward to my grandson's life at the age of six. Last year, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a second child, and it will take at least five or six years to start over.

Grandma for the children, grandpa for the old father at home, the old couple lived a life of separation for so long.

Nowadays, people in their sixties should be companions and take care of each other, but their lonely life is not easy, because they have to take care of their parents and help their children in the world.