What should I do in the face of my boyfriend's unreasonable demands? Can you elaborate on it?

Now many girls have the same problem, that is, they will not refuse others. Even in the face of unreasonable or even excessive demands from the other side, I often wronged myself to obey others.

Whether dealing with colleagues, friends or their other half, they are always blaming themselves and playing people who are forced to obey. As long as the other party makes any request and she doesn't do it, the other party will be angry or show low spirits, which will make her feel uneasy and regret. Finally, it is obvious that he is reasonable, but he is full of guilt, so he has to do it.

In the face of the other party's response, many of us will be fooled, reflect on whether the problem really appears on ourselves, and then subconsciously do what the other party says. Generally speaking, such bossy people lack the ability to perceive other people's feelings and empathy. They have a strong desire for control. At work, in every detail, in every aspect of life, they usually ask others to strictly follow their standards. Such a person is actually using his behavior to break your confidence, make you indecisive and helpless, and thus better manipulate you.

So how can a girl get rid of the manipulation of such a person and such a partner? First of all, when you talk to him, you must look him straight in the eye and don't be delirious. Second, when you talk to him, you must be firm and confident, don't be vague, have a consultative tone, and be to the point. For example, if he looks at your mobile phone, you just poke out the point and say: you can't look at my mobile phone. You violated my privacy.

Third, in the process of talking with him, you must be concise. Because for this kind of people, it is difficult to perceive other people's feelings because of lack of empathy, so once they talk for too long, the other person is likely to divert their attention and easily ignore it. Please don't think of him. As we said before, these people lack empathy. They can't understand and appreciate other people's feelings. So when we tell them things, we should start from their interests and analyze the interests of things.

For example, you are tired, but your partner still wants him to cook. Don't talk about feelings at this time, but tell him that you are sleepy now. You have worked overtime for two days. You don't have that much energy, and your attention is easily distracted. If you help him cook in this state, you may not have a good grasp of the taste level and the efficiency will be very low. You don't know when he can eat. So to be on the safe side, you'd better order your own takeout. At this time, he will consider your request and have a greater chance to do what you say.

Every girl should have her own bottom line. No matter in the face of interpersonal or emotional problems, blindly accommodating and not refusing will not make your relationship better. On the contrary, this kind of behavior of suppressing and wronged yourself all the time will make your relationship full of hidden dangers and unhappiness.