Parents influenced the relationship between brother and sister.

I have always wondered why such a big sister always has a hard time with her little brother. I finally understood last night. It is because my mother is partial to my brother that my sister thinks that my mother only likes my brother and doesn't like my sister.

Here's the thing:

Last night, my mother took my brother to play in the community. When it was getting dark, my brother was hungry and wanted to go home for dinner, but he didn't want to go back by himself. He wants his mother to carry him on his back. If not, he will cry and say that his legs are sore and refuse to go. But her mother insisted on not having a younger brother, and his wish didn't come true. She left in tears. In the process, her mother didn't encourage and appease her brother, who cried all the way home. When I got home, my mother hurried to cook, and my brother continued to lie on the sofa and cry until the meal was ready. My sister got impatient and shouted "Stop crying". When mom saw it, she accused her sister of not bothering her brother. In this way, mother and sister had a big fight. Although my brother stopped crying and began to eat, my sister was very angry and broke all the chopsticks.

When sleeping at night, my brother leaned on his mother's back and said, mom, don't quarrel with your sister. I don't want you to quarrel with my sister because of me.

Five-year-olds don't like fighting. Do teenagers like fighting? As parents, do we like to quarrel? I don't like any of them Who can create a good family atmosphere? Parents, of course.

But as a mother, I did a terrible job. Causing tension between brother and sister.

I promised my brother that my mother would never quarrel with my sister again because of you.

It may be that the mother has defended her younger brother countless times, which has led to her sister's dissatisfaction and deepened her resentment against her younger brother. This is certainly not what parents want to see.

Just yesterday, my mother made three mistakes:

First, when the younger brother says he is tired and doesn't want to go, the mother should show sympathy. "You're tired and can't walk. What should I do? " Want a hug from mom. But mom took so many things that she couldn't hug you. Why don't you have a rest and let's go. Mom believes that you will walk back by yourself. "

Second, when the elder sister quarrels with the younger brother, the mother should pretend not to hear. Or tell your sister's emotions and appease your brother. "Sister has been studying for a day and wants to be quiet for a while. You have been crying for so long, and you are tired. Come and watch TV and have a rest. " Or hug your brother. You can't quarrel with your sister. Sister is really annoying.

Third, my brother has been crying, which actually needs comfort. The mother ignored the child's feelings, causing the child to cry.

Mother and sister quarreled, and sister must be very sad. She feels that her mother only has her brother in her heart and doesn't care about her. Mother should explain to her sister, and don't let the resentment deepen.

It is not easy to be a parent, especially those with low emotional intelligence. Whether the family is harmonious depends on whether the mother can coordinate the relationship between family members. I need to constantly reflect, work hard and change.