Why do some parents want to have sons even if they work hard?

The mentality of this group of people is: sons are the sky, and no sons means no children in this life. They feel that they are ashamed of their ancestors and their old-age care is not guaranteed.

The topic of having children has been hotly debated by everyone, but with the change of people's traditional ideas, more and more young people have less strong requirements for having boys or girls. However, a video circulating on the Internet recently once again rushed related topics to hot search.

Ms. Li, who uploaded the video, said: "My hometown is in Puning. When I came home for the New Year, I found that my neighbor gave birth to seven daughters, 1 son. The eldest daughter 12 years old and the youngest son are 3 years old. Other information is not clear. I am a post-90 s generation, and I feel that there are too many children born in my neighbors. "

In this regard, some netizens commented: "The filial piety of children is filial piety on the one hand and filial piety ability on the other. Parents are old and have material and spiritual needs. " Some netizens joked: "Those who are willing to have more children are considered to have contributed to society."

Of course, more netizens are worried that it is difficult for such an ordinary family to bear the growth expenses of so many children, and they are confused about this "mentality of people who have been having children for the sake of having sons".

We don't know whether Ms. Li's neighbors are capable of raising these children, so we won't comment. However, regarding this mentality, I still want to talk about my own views. I think Ms. Li's neighbors will basically do this, based on the following three factors:

First, the concept of raising children to prevent old age

Undeniably, the institutions and policies for the aged in China are not perfect at present. People with pensions are fine and can go to nursing homes, but for ordinary farmers, they can only rely on their children to provide for the elderly. As the saying goes, "married women pour water" is a bit extreme, but it makes sense in reality. You still have to rely on your son to support your old age.

Second, traditional ideas are deeply rooted.

In some backward rural areas, giving birth to sons is always regarded as the task of carrying on the family line. Having a son can expand the family and increase the population, but the daughter will be someone else's sooner or later, and you have to raise a daughter-in-law for others yourself. And they think that if there are no men at home, they will be looked down upon and even bullied.

Third, the facts in some rural areas lead to

At present, in some rural areas, there are still a lot of farmland for cultivation. Boys' natural strength will be much greater than that of girls. Fighting fields and operating machinery are all hard work. Obviously, boys have an advantage over girls. Moreover, in rural areas, it is also boys who discuss things and make decisions at home. There are no men at home. It seems that this family lacks backbone and will be despised.

Maybe one day we can be more friendly to boys and girls, but it is still difficult to do so, especially in backward areas. After all, different responsibilities and obligations will inevitably lead to unequal final views. I have always thought that complete equality does not exist.