Why don't some parents generally tell their children how much money they have at home?

Everyone is a first-time parent, and most parents have no psychological foundation or educational background.

Many things about parenthood are explored step by step.

Some things are not deliberately hidden or avoided by them.

It's that they don't know if they should talk about it or if it's good for you.

In the face of these contradictions, human nature makes them shrink back, so I won't tell you.

Not only the savings at home, many parents don't even explain their work to their children in detail.

Because the real society is very complicated, not everyone has the ability to face all kinds of situations.

For example, if a child's father is a teacher, he may only tell you that he is a teacher of a certain subject in a certain school.

But he won't tell you that he has to stay up late every night to correct papers and give classes to students every day. Some very simple topics are said a hundred times and I don't understand them. They also have to bear the examination of the education group, the supervision of the academic director, the criticism of the grade director and the pressure of the principal.

Under these pressures, fathers sometimes don't even tell their mothers, let alone their children.

Because of these things, it is useless to talk about it, and the pressure will not disappear.

But I told my family that sometimes it will increase the pressure on their families and affect their children's physical and mental development.

Speaking of family savings, in the current economic environment, for ordinary people, most people don't have a lot of savings, because the burden of mortgage, car loan and living consumption is very heavy.

Dual-income families must have the pressure of mortgage.

For business people, deposit is the working capital of the next business.

These household savings can only be used to meet the needs of daily life and cope with unknown changes.

So, to be honest, it doesn't make much sense to tell children this.

Finally, it is really complicated to let children grow up healthily. Poor children at home tend to feel inferior, too rich and afraid of raising rich second generation. Middle-class families are even more uncomfortable, reluctant to be poor and unable to afford to be rich.

Of course, most parents still want their offspring to live better than themselves.

My mother's story: On July 1 day, 2008, my grandmother passed away. My mother was rushing home by tram and fell not far on the way. I rushed to the hospital and stayed in the hospital for one night. The next day, the ventilator was unplugged and people left. Didn't leave me a message. Then my father rushed to the notary office to notarize my mother's financial management. At that time, I didn't want to give up my rights. He took out hundreds of thousands of dollars and never talked about money. My mother borrowed money from my aunt for emergency treatment and asked my wife to get the money herself afterwards. These are all my responsibilities. Later, something even weirder came out. My dad actually asked me to sell the house, as well as the money in my name and the school district house that my parents paid down. Then he said no. Sell the car. I wonder that my father didn't take it seriously after my mother died, and I don't need him. Now my son's wife's father has come to pick me up. Life used to be normal In recent years, when I came to Zibo, my father began to raise funds100000, and the loan sharks almost didn't want to come back. My mother needs it every day after being marked by others. In recent years, she has been allowed to trade stocks. Later, my grandmother was paralyzed, which killed her. After so much hindsight, I realized that women should have their own income anyway. My mother stopped making money after I got married. She was forty-five and fifty-two when I got married. My father was in the town government, and later he felt that all organs and units were particularly vicious. If you don't make money, you have to listen to me. As long as I don't regret for my parents, fortunately, I am in my thirties and have worked for nine years. Whenever I see a particularly good mother-child relationship in the street, I really envy it. Life is the past. No matter what the relationship is, I will be fine for the rest of my life!

On the subject, senior brother wants to ask, why do parents tell their children how much money they have at home? What effect will it have on children knowing how much money they have at home?

For most parents, they definitely want to leave the best for their children, give them the best education and the best living environment.

Master elder brother thinks that the fundamental reason why parents don't tell their children how much money they have at home is that they want their children to rely on themselves. If a child knows that his family is rich, it is very likely that the child thinks that there is so much money in his family. Why do they have to work hard to make a salted fish? This is the result that no parents want to see. If the conditions at home are not very good, if you tell your child the real conditions at home, the child is likely to feel inferior, which is not good for his growth.

Why don't parents usually tell their children about money? There are several main reasons for wishing. First, there is a saying in the countryside that "if you are not afraid of thieves, you are afraid of thieves." In fact, children are the same. You have to tell him how much money there is at home, regardless of gender. Well, if our parents lend us money, we will buy a building. When it's finished, we'll take you there for the aged. If not, it's just a resentful family. Every day is like asking for small money.

Second, if he knew he was rich, he would be filial now. He took his parents to the city, ran out of money, and began to give you a hard time. Neither right nor good. He gives you little shoes to wear every day, so that you can't stay in the city, and you will eventually return to your old nest.

Third, and most importantly, once you tell him (her) everything, you can give him (her)10 million. They can't have too much. Son can, daughter-in-law can't, daughter can't, and son-in-law can't. Once you get sick, ask them for 10 thousand yuan Their faces are longer than those of donkeys, and their mouths are still talking about the purification money of the gods. It's better to die early and clean up early.

So don't tell your children how much money you have. You must leave it to the old people. Don't give up halfway You must wait until the last bite is left. This is the best policy. Remember.

It is good for adults and children not to tell their children how much money they have at home. Because children are not deeply involved in the world, it is easy for them to tell others the actual situation at home. It is easy to bring unnecessary troubles or disasters to the children themselves and the adults at home. For example, a boy of 14 years old always boasts about how rich his uncle's family is in front of other children and adults. I was kidnapped by the bad guys. Then the bad guy called the boy's uncle and asked for 654.38+0 million, saying that if he didn't give it, he would kill the ticket. As a result, uncle was not threatened by kidnappers, saying that he had no money to kill the ticket. In the end, the boy was brutally killed by the kidnappers and burned the body.

If the family is really rich, you can't tell the children how much money they have. On the one hand, we should guard against people's fears. The child said it out of ignorance. Another child knows that there is more money at home, so he will spend it lavishly and doesn't know how to save it. I have developed the habit of not caring about diligence and housekeeping since I was a child, and I still don't like being lazy. So the child has no motivation.

If your family is poor, don't tell your children how much money you have. In order to avoid the pressure in children's hearts, they feel inferior from an early age. This is not good for children's growth.

In short, no matter whether the family is rich or poor, don't tell the children how much money they have at home. It's no good letting them know. He is an introverted child. If children are cheerful, it may be less dangerous for them, but it is better not to tell them. It's not safe for children to tell others carelessly. Personally, don't spray if you don't like it!

As parents, it is generally not easy to tell their children about the savings at home, which involves many things. It is the same whether the family has money or not.

I remember a family telling their children about their savings in a chat:

Mom: Now your father and I only have 50,000 yuan in savings!

Daughter: How come? For so many years, I have saved 20 thousand every year, at least more than 200 thousand!

Mother was silent and didn't know what to say, thinking that her daughter must suspect that she had lied, but there was really only that much deposit.

This fact will have a great influence on both parents and daughters. At least, parents feel that their daughter will feel inferior, and her family is poor and incompetent. Then parents feel very uncomfortable. They feel guilty that they haven't saved any money for so many years. They always feel sorry for their children.

In my daughter's heart, I don't know what I will think. I may think that my parents are afraid of asking for money, deliberately saying so, and so on.

If she is a sensible and clever girl, she will understand her parents and will be thrifty in the future, earning money by herself and trying not to spend money at home. If she is a child who likes spending money recklessly or eating old people, she may fill up a little of her parents' savings for fear that the only savings will be spent by her parents.

If there is a lot of money at home, it is even more difficult to tell children that after they know that there is so much money at home, they will definitely become decadent, thinking that they will definitely not be short of money in the future, and their parents will keep the money for themselves in the future, so that they will lose pressure and motivation and become lazy.

If the family is poor, there is almost no deposit, and even the family still owes foreign debts, most children will feel unhappy. How can they be born in such a family? Compared with other children's families, they are too ashamed and full of complaints, which has a great influence on their children's hearts.

Therefore, no matter what your family conditions and how much money you have, don't tell your children that the money you should spend must be spent, that is, don't spend the money you shouldn't spend, even if you have a lot of money, which is the foundation of educating your children.

As far as I know, when parents are born, most people will not tell their children about their savings, which is also reasonable.

Take my mother's personal experience for example.

2065438+2008 My mother left at the age of 83. She was in good health for 82 years before her father left. At least I haven't seen her go to the hospital since I can remember. But at the age of 83, my mother collapsed and went to the hospital for examination. As a result, everything is fine, but her health is getting worse every day. Although my mother was not hospitalized, she has basically never left her bed at home since then.

During the months when my mother was in bed, her mind was as sharp and clear as before, she was still sorting out important things at home, keeping her savings tight-lipped and refusing to reveal a word to any children. Of course, as children, the six of us, except our eldest brother, never asked about our mother's savings.

As mother's health went from bad to worse, eldest brother was worried that her mother would suddenly leave before she could explain, and could not help asking her about the deposit many times. When my mother was tired, she secretly revealed to me, let me have a look at all her bankbooks and keep them for myself, because in my mother's eyes, I am the most trustworthy one. Of course, I don't covet my mother's property or reveal my mother's secrets, which can really reassure my mother. It was not until my mother was really going to die that I got her permission to truthfully disclose her family's money to the public

In fact, as parents, they generally don't tell their children about their savings, which is completely understandable and acceptable. Why?

First, young people nowadays always enjoy getting something for nothing. If the property saved by parents through gritting their teeth falls into their hands as soon as possible, it will be as much as they spend, which is also anodyne to Tian Xin!

Second, although there is a saying that "raising children to guard against old age and saving up for hunger", as an old man, you should still keep a hand for yourself in case of emergency. Because, on the one hand, children are not easy, on the other hand, children are unfilial and are scolded every day.

Third, the deposit is in your own hands. At least your child still has a hope for himself and will be good to himself. If you give it to your child too early, you will have nothing, and you will inevitably be regarded as a burden by your child and will no longer be respected. ...

Some old people love face, and feel that they can give their children a certain legacy at the last moment, so they have dignity and face.

Of course, there may be other reasons, so I won't guess them here. Anyway, I think it is understandable that "parents generally don't tell their children about their savings". As children, they don't have to care about their parents' thoughts, let alone their parents' property.

Because, if you have it, you really have it. What others have belongs to others after all, even your parents.

Others help you because of family, others don't help, just keep their duties!

Do it yourself, have plenty of food and clothing!

Hello, I'm Sister Xiaoxi.

Why don't some parents generally tell their children how much money they have at home? One: I am afraid that children will talk nonsense.

When a child is young, he has no concept of money. He doesn't know how much it is, but he has a concept in his mind, that is, a lot, but everyone who listens knows it.

For example, some time ago, the family did something and accepted the favor, and the children saw it. As a result, this scene was deeply imprinted in his mind.

When I play with other children, I start to brag, that is, brag (don't think that children can't brag, they often brag, for example, my toy car is bigger and there are many such toys at home, etc.) As a result, the child bragged and told others that she was rich and that her hometown had a lot of money.

Actually, it's really not much. It is estimated that he will lose when he is favored, and he has seen it.

But when others listen, they will make up their minds. This could be a lot of money.

As the old saying goes, you are not afraid of thieves, but you are afraid of thieves. Whether it is a child or an outsider, there will always be a splash in my heart. If they are short of money, they will do irrational things under the trend of interests.

Therefore, it has invisibly brought potential risks to itself.

Two: give children the illusion.

Tell children how much money they have at home. There is a bright side. One is to help children develop the good habit of thrift, and the other is to develop the habit of luxury. It's easy to change from frugality to luxury. As long as you enjoy the happiness brought by money, you can't control it.

Therefore, most parents are reluctant to tell their children how much money they have.

This usually doesn't tell children how much money they have! You should be afraid of your children and think about their money! Mother-in-law never tells her son how much money she has, but tells us that they have no money, or they have no money when they buy anything. We never ask them how much money they have.

When paying the heating bill in winter, my mother-in-law told us that you have to pay the heating bill! When I come back, I'll give you half and you take half. As a result, we are finished, and people don't mention giving you money. We don't want her money either. If you don't tell us, we'll pay the heating bill. What's more, we can't let the child freeze! Don't say you get half the money! When we finished, you didn't say a word If you give it to us, we don't want it! My mother-in-law has done this several times, always telling us that she has no money. Hey! This is to endure living with old people.

My mother-in-law didn't ask if she had enough money to buy a car! If we can't get enough, we won't want it! Or my mother asked me if I had enough money! Took some money for us, but my husband didn't want it. My mother said, take it. If you buy a car, you will have no money. Children needed money, too, and finally we took it. After buying a car, my mother-in-law also said that the car was small and she wanted to buy a bigger one. Hey! Also speechless.

Anyway, we don't know how much money my mother-in-law has and don't ask.

Thank you for inviting me! Yes, I am what you call' some parents'! My son went to work just in time for the welfare room. He lives in his own house, and his daughter-in-law is assigned to a building. I gave him 60 thousand yuan. The son said,' I didn't expect our family to be so rich! Now you ask me why, I'm thinking: nothing, not afraid of children, just that there was too little money at that time, and the passbook was 100 every year. The child is too young to know! Now that the child is older, if you don't tell him, he will be similar, because they all know how much salary they get, but they don't know the specific figures. Because they are not a child and lead different lives, whoever needs them will secretly give them some! For stability and unity! Family harmony! Right?