A good husband is something you praise

In the past year, I have found that my husband has changed a lot, and he is working hard in a positive direction, or in other words, he is developing in a way that I like. For example, I learned to control my emotions and stopped yelling when I got angry; I learned to do simple housework such as mopping the floor and cooking; I learned to coax my wife and children; I learned to care about others... and there are many things that were originally I won’t list some of the advantages one by one.

My husband is getting better and better, and there must be a sensible, capable and smart wife around me to help him grow. Learning to be a smart wife will not only make your husband better, but also make your marriage happier. Why not? Let’s talk about my insights on marriage in the past few years.

I believe that a good husband is made by boasting. Only praise him without hesitation, let him deeply feel your love and consideration, let him wake up in your praise, and create a blue sky that belongs to you.

As long as women praise in the right way, they can make men step by step become the good men in their minds. Let’s learn together how to praise your husband and be a wise wife.

1. How to praise your husband in words?

(1) Tell him what others have said about your husband that praises him

? Men are actually very face-conscious and care a lot about what people around them say about themselves. If he is respected and trusted by the people around him, he will also be very happy. After hearing the praise of others, his mental outlook will be completely different, and he will love his wife even more.

? Every time my husband goes to our school, the colleagues around him always praise my husband. After returning home, I never hesitate to express my praise and praise my husband in various ways.

"My colleagues praise you again, praising you for your spirit and temperament!" "Every time you come to our school, you say you are handsome and tender! Humph, could it be "I'm an old cow eating young grass!" Legs!!” Every time I told my husband about my colleagues’ compliments in a jealous tone, he always said with a smile, “It’s mainly because I’m thin, I want to be fat too!” It is a fact that he is thin, and it is also a fact that he is handsome, but I still like to hear compliments about him. Every time my husband hears other people's compliments on him, he is still happy from ear to ear.

(Complaining about his thinness: 1. I once bought a pair of jeans for a couple. He stupidly put on my jeans without looking at the male and female, and asked, why did he buy me such a thin pair? Tights! 2. I can wear T-shirts and sportswear that he doesn’t wear.)

(2) Praising my husband’s unique advantages

? It’s easy to see from the outside. Observed advantages, such as his handsome appearance and slender figure that never gain weight, he is almost numbed by praise, and you should look for his unique advantages.

? For example, he likes to worry and does things carefully. Sometimes he prepares milk powder for Youyou at night. He is also very serious and strictly follows the milk powder preparation ratio. 200 ml of water requires eight scoops of milk powder. These eight scoops must be accurate. All milk powder occupies the entire spoon without any peaks or gaps. He thought of a way. Every time he used a spoon to scoop out milk powder, he would need to scrape the milk powder cover so that the milk powder could be kept level with the spoon and a full spoonful would be filled.

I took advantage of my husband's meticulousness and praised him, "Husband, you are very accurate in preparing milk powder. You do it better than me. I always do it inaccurately. My husband is like this." Seriously, other dads probably don’t know how to prepare milk powder, and my colleague’s husband has never done it. From now on, the task of preparing milk powder for Youyou will be left to you!” Although my husband seems to be very disdainful on the surface, he is already used to it. Youyou has prepared milk powder, so I can be lazy.

(3) The language of praise should be specific

The famous British philosopher Bacon said: "Even sincere praise must be appropriate." The appropriateness mentioned here refers to praising others. Be specific and precise, avoid generality and vagueness. Praise requires a reason. The more specific the praise, the more sincere and appropriate it will be, and the higher its effectiveness.

? Today I suddenly saw my husband mopping the floor at home, and his mopping action was quite sexy. While my husband was mopping the floor, I couldn't be idle. I had to praise him, "Husband, you've worked hard! Are you tired?" When my husband finished mopping the floor, I ran up to him with a smile, put my arms around his waist, and started talking sweetly. Husband, I found that you wipe the floor cleaner than me. You don’t miss every corner and wipe it twice. It’s just different. Keep working hard!” My husband started to complain, “That’s right, I just wipe it better than you.” It’s clean! Learn how to do it!”

For example, if he cooked a meal for lunch today, he should also praise it, “My husband’s meal was very good today, and it was delicious and tasty, especially the vinegared cabbage. The amount of vinegar is just right and the taste is just right!” If you simply praise “Not bad!” it will only make him feel that this kind of praise is perfunctory, not from the heart, and does not receive real motivational evaluation. But your praise is specific to the details and changes. Here I emphasize that he put the right amount of vinegar. He will feel a sense of accomplishment, which will inspire him to stir-fry again.

(4) Compare him with his idols

? We all know that idols are perfect in our hearts, especially the handsome and perfect images on the screen that make us become Nymphomaniacs, but idols also have shortcomings in real life. I made full use of the idol's shortcomings to compare and praise my husband, focusing on highlighting my husband's advantages.

Some time ago, I was particularly obsessed with Jin Dong. I think Jin Dong is very handsome and always plays the type of tall, rich and handsome man. For example, Jin Dong in "The First Half of My Life" also has a super outstanding temperament, but when I am chasing stars, I will not forget to praise my husband. "This Jin Dong is so handsome. How could there be such a handsome man? However, no matter how handsome he is, he is not as handsome as my husband. He just has a handsome hairstyle. I heard that he is very dressed up in real life and is called a veteran cadre. , like preaching, I don’t like that. It’s better for my husband!” Every time my husband hears all the compliments I give him, he feels incredible and sighs that my compliments are really great.

2. When is the most appropriate time to praise your husband?

(1) Praise your husband when he is disappointed

Whether it is career frustration or other unsatisfactory problems, these are the times when men are most vulnerable. , if you still blame him for these things, the weak inner defense will collapse immediately, which will hurt the relationship between husband and wife. On the contrary, as a wife, you can affirm him when he is most frustrated, which will bring him the greatest comfort. Help him overcome the difficulties before him, so that your status in his heart will be sublimated.

Last year, their unit ran for deputy section chief, but her husband was not eligible to run because he did not have enough working years. When I heard the news, I could clearly feel my husband's depression. I would immediately comfort him, "Don't let this matter affect our mood. You can also learn how they interview when you are the time referee. If you can participate in the election, you will definitely be selected, because we have This ability only comes when the time comes.” I believe my husband will feel at ease and comfortable hearing my words, and it will also inspire him to continue working hard.

(2) Praise after a hard day

? After a hard day's work, after returning home, men hope to have a good rest. If they are still criticized by their wives at this time, Doing housework will make them very unhappy. On the contrary, if you can praise your husband after he gets off work, for example, "Husband, are you off work? Are you busy at work today? Are you tired? Thank you for your hard work!"? "This You have been working overtime for a while, you must be very tired, please take a rest!” After dinner in the evening, my husband is playing on his mobile phone or playing games. I will take the initiative to massage his back, and then gently say, “Would you like me to pour you a drink?” Water, husband, don’t play for too long!”

3. The benefits of praising your husband

Praising your husband can cultivate a good hand at housework; it can enhance your husband’s self-confidence; it can make your husband more and more confident. Excellent; able to keep the husband from being unfaithful; able to maintain the relationship between the couple; able to make the family atmosphere relaxed; able to maintain the dignity of the family; able to create a good growth environment for the children.

This is the method and technique I have recently summarized on how to praise my husband. I hope it can help me and my husband progress and grow together.

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