How can I know if a boy really loves someone?

Remember, just saying "I love you" is not enough. If a person says "I love you" but doesn't act with love and consideration, he doesn't really love you. Sometimes people who say "I love you" are dishonest and just want to manipulate you. Therefore, when someone says "I love you" to you, you should think about whether his words and deeds are consistent. If you are not sure whether you should trust him or not, ask someone you trust to help you analyze it. Maybe they noticed something you overlooked.

Will he stick to his opinion when you disagree? Or will I finally give in to you?

See if he wants you to contact his friends and family. If your boyfriend just wants to monopolize you and keep you away from his friends and family, he probably doesn't really love you. If he really loves you, he will want you to participate in all aspects of his life. At first, it may be difficult for you to integrate into his family. It is even more difficult if his relationship with his family is unstable. If he treats you differently in front of family and friends, ask him why. If he really loves you, he will be proud of you in front of anyone.

See if he wants to contact your friends and family. Love me, love my dog, and a person who loves you will be interested in your family and friends. Even if he doesn't like them, he will do it for you if you want him to get in touch with them.

If your boyfriend runs away from your family and friends, it may be because he is shy. If he still tries to keep you away from them, it means that this person is too controlling. This is not a good sign. If he disdains to know your family and friends, it means he doesn't care about you.

4. Pay attention to whether he is willing to do what you want. A person who loves you will try to do what you want, even if he doesn't like it. If all your activities revolve around his interests, it may mean that he doesn't really love you. Willing to give in and do what the other party wants is a generous act. If he insists that you do something for him after doing what he likes, it is not generous. This is manipulating you. A person who really loves you will pay attention to what you like and what you don't like. He wants you to be happy because he cares about your happiness. If he hurts you, please stay away from him. Some people will do things that hurt you, claiming that "it's because I love you". If your boyfriend is like this, you should be vigilant.

5. Learn to identify abusive relationships and seek help. Abuse is not limited to physiology. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will respect you. He won't belittle you, insult you, or belittle your achievements. If you are not sure whether your boyfriend can trust you when he says he loves you, you can ask your parents or your trusted friends for advice. Listen to whether he uses "we" or "I" when he speaks. If a person loves you, he will consider you when planning his life. He will also include you when making plans for the future.

6. Will he consider you when making a plan? Or just for yourself? When he called his friends or family, did he mention what you did together? Will he let them know when he is with you? Or never contact your friends in front of you? See if he will apologize after making a mistake. Some men often say sorry, but their behavior has not improved at all. Some men refuse to say sorry, even though the obvious mistake is that they refuse to say sorry. Pay attention to your boyfriend's behavior after doing something hurt or inconsiderate. Will he apologize? If this person will sincerely apologize, but the same mistake is made again, then his apology is meaningless. A stubborn boyfriend may not apologize easily after making a mistake, but if he loves you, he will feel uncomfortable when he is at odds with you.

7. See if his words and deeds are consistent. Boyfriends whose actions can't keep up with their words are basically untrustworthy. People who don't do what they say are different from what they do, and they will show it through actions and words. People who don't do what they say are not trustworthy. Even if he loves you, most of the time you can't trust him, and your boyfriend will admit his negative life experience as an excuse. As a result, many girls are distressed and want to lend a helping hand. Some people will blame you in turn when they find that their words and deeds are different. He will turn around and blame you for being too negative. You need to be alert to this.

8. Ask yourself if he respects you. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will be interested in you. Even if he doesn't agree with your ideas and opinions, he will respect them. He will pay attention to what you like and dislike, and will try his best to meet your needs. Think about it: will he ask about your daily life? Do you think he really cares about your feelings and opinions?

If your boyfriend respects you, he will take the initiative to compromise even if you don't ask for it. Whether it's for small things or for bigger things, he is willing to compromise to prove that he really loves you.

The real compromise is not "you do this for me and I do that for you". Compromise is not bargaining.