My parents always ask me for money, and my brothers and sisters always borrow money from me. What should I do?

My parents always ask me for money, which is really helpless. It's easy for a brother to borrow money from you. If they have money, they can borrow it. If they have no money, they don't have to lend it to them, but they will borrow it and pay it back! My family is the same as yours. My husband has five brothers and sisters. I'm the boss and my husband is an alcoholic. My mother-in-law asks us for money all the year round, and we have to give it. My brothers and sisters also borrowed from us, but they had to. Now my mother-in-law is a rich woman in the village! !

Parents want it, give it if they have it, and do not explain the situation. When brothers and sisters borrow money, it is an emergency. If there is, they will borrow, write IOUs and specify the repayment time. If you have it, don't lend it to the poor, do him good, and don't encourage him not to work hard!

It's normal to give money to parents, but you can't ask for too much money. Filial piety is what children should do, but parents can't always take your money, can they? You can tell them what you want to say. The less you say, the more they ask you for money. Besides, you should also save some money for yourself. You gave them all the money. Where did you get it when you needed it badly?

Although it is your responsibility to support your parents, as brothers and sisters of your parents, they also have responsibilities and obligations. My suggestion is that you can get them together to talk.

Brothers and sisters should not always borrow money. When you grow up, whose back is not a home? Emergency can, if it is frequent, it will not be Jinshan Yinshan. It's empty. I suggest we talk. Whether I understand it or not, I suggest that I borrow money every day. There is no money left and my family expenses are not enough. Married more, a home is here, can't say it's not based on home.

This situation also has your reasons, and your connivance makes them push their luck even more. I suggest you think over all their problems and let them solve them by themselves. No matter how strong you are, you can't satisfy a heart that doesn't know how to satisfy it.

You can't go on like this. Actually, it's your fault, too I don't know how to say no when it's time to refuse, and as a result, my parents, brothers and sisters' appetites are growing. Anyway, you can give money if you want. This is the result. You can't do this anymore.

Know how to refuse. For yourself, for your family, for them.

As for the brothers and sisters who come to borrow money from you, if they really have difficulties, they should help if they have the conditions! But things always lend you money for nothing, so you can refuse it directly and explain the situation to them directly, and you are not afraid that they will say that you don't care about your brothers and sisters, because you are brothers and sisters and they won't do it! So you can directly reject their irrationality!

It is duty-bound to be filial. As for brothers and sisters borrowing money, saving the poor is another matter.

It is right to give some money to parents, but brothers and sisters refuse to borrow money unless they have difficulties at home.

Judging from your present situation and present situation, it is really difficult for you. I think you are a very sensible and grateful child! The author suggests:

First, kindness is a good moral character. Judging from the family you described, you not only undertook the obligation to honor your parents, but also shared the worries of your brothers and sisters. He is a good boy. I recognize your kindness and understand your difficulties.

Second, it is the duty of the younger generation to honor their parents. You should make it clear about your family's economic income and parents, try to earn some money to honor your parents, and at the same time try to tell your parents the real situation of your young couple's family in the current difficult environment and huge social competition, so as to be understood.

Third, we should persuade our brothers and sisters to understand each other. Your family is good at dealing with brothers and sisters helping each other. You should. But as far as the current predicament is concerned, you should make it clear to them that this is the right way to do things. To help each other and understand each other.

In short, home is a place to talk about love and also a place to share, help and understand each other. As long as we work together in Qi Xin and Qi Xin, no matter how big the difficulties and setbacks are, they will be solved.

Parents' alimony should be given. If brothers and sisters borrow money, don't pay it back, lest they can't pay it back and hurt their peace.

Do what you can, no matter who you are, you must look at your kindness!

Parents or sisters, if you don't get along with outsiders, they don't care about you at all, so why should you satisfy them?

However, my parents and sisters are very kind to you and care about you. Although they don't have enough ability to give you financial help, I think they should still help you when you are in trouble!

However, we should do what we can. After all, we have our own small family. Besides, our relatives are near and far away, and we have reasons to pay. We were born to our parents. When we encounter difficulties, we must first meet our parents, and our sisters are different. We have made great contributions to our family and are very good to ourselves. Of course, we also have the right to give priority to help!

I despise laziness. There is no such person in our family. People in our family are strong, but their emotional intelligence is low. They never lie, so we can't eat now!

I also touched my head and took many detours to sum it up, but after all, life is different. My sister may not understand it yet, but she is old, even worse than my little sister. She has left us!

Therefore, can I not help them solve their difficulties? Do they need to speak when they are in trouble?

No, I offered to help, even if they wouldn't let me. I want them to do both training and scolding, because their quality may get cold when you explain it to them!

So, don't say, don't ask, what sisters, what parents, what want money, everything depends on love, just treat me like we treat everyone!

At the beginning, I trained my sisters countless times. At that time, they were full of resentment and even argued with me, but now, they understand my good intentions to plan ahead in the face of cruel reality!

I not only help money, but also help them find jobs. In fact, the most important thing is to help them change their ideas!

The rivers and mountains may change, but not one's essential nature In order to change a particularly traditional rural family to adapt to the present society and keep up with the pace of urban development, parents, sisters and children have to pay a considerable price for three generations, which is beyond the reach of money!

If nothing else, from the perspective of children's learning, my father-in-law helped my niece transfer. She came to the city from the countryside, and the idea came from my wife. Finally, she was admitted to a book and went to graduate school. If she were in the countryside, she might have gone out to work!

He has always regarded him as the eldest nephew of his own son, and always cares about everything about him. Now I'm a junior, and I'm doing well

My son has been working since July, so everything about him speaks for itself!

My nephew is in the fifth grade of primary school. Because of an accident at home, I am now the parent of the child. My brother-in-law can try his best to help me and my family!

I am not only responsible for all the contact between the school and the teacher, but also for all the contact and communication of the children's extracurricular counseling, so that my sister can take care of the children's diet and daily life!

I think, although my little sister is gone, we are a family, and so are my brother-in-law and nephew!

In their most difficult time, money can't solve the problem, but what is more important than money-family, family needs to pay more energy, time and effort!

Therefore, although our family has changed, it is more United than before, and the four children are struggling on all fronts!

Thanks to their efforts, our four elder sisters have no schooling and no regrets, as long as the children are good!

Although I went to a technical secondary school, then I went to a junior college and finally got an undergraduate course, I will always regret not going to college!

It was a great blow to me that my son didn't go to graduate school, but although he is a son, his IQ is definitely different. I can't let my son bear such a heavy burden!

After all, with my foundation and contacts, my son is not much different, because I know he tried his best!

My son has a poor foundation and cannot do without my interference. At that time, extracurricular remedial classes were very fashionable. I don't understand. I thought I had to work hard not to let my children go to extracurricular classes. It must have an impact on children!

So, I want to make up for my son's regret for his little nephew. I want to enroll him in extracurricular classes, help him improve and ensure that he is admitted to the university!

Think about it, I have paid only a very small part, so I don't want to say or think about how much I have paid, which may be beyond the reach of a normal person all his life!

When I was sixteen, I vowed to revitalize my family. It doesn't matter even if I don't study. Even if I die, I will. My life is short!

But now that I am 50 years old, I am very grateful to God, because I have been in distress so many times, I have been able to get away with it!

So, what is asking for money?

I long for my family!

Because, although my family is stubborn and blind, their personality is absolutely excellent and they care about me from the heart. Although they sometimes don't say good things, I understand!

So, I don't know what your actual situation is and why you can ask such a difficult question. I think my experience should help you find the answer!

I just want to tell you that I have experienced countless pains and hardships, and now I am relieved. I have no regrets, I did everything with my heart!

I am very satisfied. My parents, sisters and children are all in the same boat now, thinking of each other and helping each other. My little sisters are getting along like brothers and sisters now. My little nephew is called Sister, Big Brother and Second Brother, and I am also very happy!

Because, this is what I asked. For twenty-four years, I have been treating all children like this. In front of me, they can say what their parents have never said, and they can get knowledge from me that their parents have never taught!

I believe that as long as everyone works hard, as long as the children care about their families and help each other, even if our previous generation is gone, we don't have to worry, because they still have four brothers and sisters!

It is better to invest than to save money. What is the most profitable investment?

Talent, of course. I not only give them fish when they are in trouble, but also teach them how to fish all the time. I can't wait until I have money to be filial to the elderly and help my sisters and children!

Because it is now or never, because time can't go back, I will make up all my sisters' regrets on my children and never let them repeat our bitterness!

If you ask me what's the point of living!

Then I will tell you that I have served my grandmother for 33 years, so that her old man can enjoy his old age. I have taken care of my frail parents for more than 30 years, and for nearly 40 years, my sisters can no longer live a life of hesitation and anxiety. I made all four children go to college and develop well, contributing their due strength to the family and the country!

This is the greatest meaning of my life!

That means you have money and outsiders don't know it. Don't your brothers and sisters know? Besides, your heart is so kind that your parents can give you money. If you have no money, do your brothers and sisters expect to live with your money? Where are the consciences of your brothers and sisters? You can refuse them and treat you as an ATM bank ...