Don’t complain to everyone. In fact, no one wants to listen.

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Nowadays, we all like to say two words, positive energy and negative energy.

Of course, we all like people with positive energy and hate people with negative energy, but have we ever thought that we cannot always maintain positive energy.

In life, it is inevitable to encounter setbacks and blows, and it is impossible not to have any negative energy. But what should you do when you have such negative energy?

It is normal to have negative energy, and sometimes negative energy can even provide stronger motivation. However, you must not release negative energy at any time, because negative energy is very contagious.

As the saying goes, if you have to speak out about suffering, you will feel less psychologically miserable.

I disagree. Because too many people nowadays complain to everyone they meet, regardless of whether others are willing to listen or not.

And the vast majority of people don’t want to hear your complaints. Who doesn’t have some pain in their heart?

If you complain to everyone you meet, you may not be able to live a normal life, because you will be filled with complaints, suffering and no hope all day long.

As a mature adult, not releasing negative energy, not complaining, not complaining, is a sign of maturity, and it is also a thoughtful choice.

I remember there was a book called "The World Without Complaining" a few years ago, which talked about how people should not complain. In fact, this book is a bit chicken soup, but once you really don't complain for a long time, you will Discover lots of amazing effects.

The most effective thing is that you will find that if you don’t complain, the so-called suffering in your heart will slowly dissipate over time, and you will have more strength in your heart.

And those who complain for a long time intensify the growth of resentment, making it difficult to stop.

And this resentment is negative energy, which will affect all aspects of life. Of course, there are many problems with excessive positive energy, but today we mainly talk about the problem of negative energy.

Modern people often cause accidents because of their bad temper.

In the final analysis, it may be because too many people just cannot control their emotions, especially those who believe that negative energy should be released in time rather than dissipated through control.

For example, we often hear: I have a bad temper, so I talk like this.

This is very hurtful in itself. Many people think that as long as there is a little trouble, they have to vent it out.

In my opinion, having a bad temper is not an excuse, but a sign of laziness.

Anyone can get negative energy, everyone has something unpleasant, and everyone has times when they are helpless.

Moreover, attacks tend to be more severe among people who are particularly close to them, because they feel that loved ones can understand and tolerate them, but outsiders cannot.

The most common example is that some people use friends or family members as emotional trash cans, complaining, complaining, and releasing negative energy. If the other person points it out, they will usually He retorted, "Do you want me to choke myself to death?"

Such excessive loss of friendship and family affection is actually more gain than loss.

Why can’t we be nicer to our friends and our family instead of wasting time complaining?

In other words, people who are full of negative energy and release negative energy whenever they meet people do not know that the person who has the greatest impact of negative energy is actually themselves.

I once met a person who complained all day, complained about work, complained about family, complained about parents, complained about friends, and spent a lot of time complaining, but rarely thought about being more responsible for work. The family should take on more responsibilities, be more understanding of parents, and be more tolerant of friends.

Because he spent all his time complaining, he naturally couldn't think of how to improve it. He thought complaining was to vent, but in fact, complaining had affected his brain.

Many people think that negative energy is not a big problem. They may even borrow my words and say that negative energy also has a lot of power.

When I say that negative energy can generate motivation, it is based on a correct understanding of one's own negative energy and its source, and then using it skillfully, rather than simply venting it like complaining.

Venting negative energy skillfully is the same as speaking skillfully. They are both the result of active choices.

And more people are doing it passively and unconsciously, or even being affected unconsciously.

So is there any way to break this excessive release of negative energy?

Very simple.

First, learn to control your temper.

Those who say they have a bad temper are people who are unwilling to change under this guise. If you want to change, you can actually control your temper.

Secondly, complain appropriately.

It is better to complain when you have the pain. Find a specific scene, talk about it occasionally, or digest it yourself. I didn't say you can't complain, but don't complain at any time, because not only will it make people think you are unreliable, but it will also make people think you just like to release negative energy.

Finally, stay away from people who release negative energy all day long.

People who have negative energy all day long will affect others.

In order not to affect our brains, we must stay away from such people sometimes, because using negative energy is risky. For example, if you lose a game and want to win the next time, The dissatisfaction in our hearts can be transformed into a huge motivation to remind us to work hard. However, some people can't control it well and turn it into the use of extreme means, causing adverse consequences.

Just like the devil in the novel in the movie, the power is very powerful, but if you can't control it, it will be counterproductive. Therefore, if you don't have the wisdom to control negative energy, don't use it easily.

And those who cannot control their negative energy do so because they do not know that the negative energy has affected them.

Therefore, if you complain to others, you must learn to complain appropriately and proactively, and find the right person to complain to, which will be truly effective.

Complaining to others is very offensive.

However, too many people now like to do this, thinking that it is good to throw the pain on others. In fact, this is very harmful, and it often affects themselves.

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