I'll take care of my grandson after my daughter-in-law sprained. When I came back from shopping, I heard the conversation in the house. Why am I crying?

Gray hair, stopped in front of the door, suddenly heard the daughter-in-law's words, want to speak hard, only tears! What makes it difficult for the mother-in-law who came back from shopping to control her emotions? Are you sad or moved beyond control? Listen to me carefully give you a way:

A person will experience a lot in his life. When he was young, he was so passionate that he owned a lot and made many mistakes. This is normal. How can people make mistakes? Even saints have their own shortcomings.

But once they are old, what will they think in their hearts? Although Bian Xiao has not reached this age, the world has gone through many vicissitudes. After years of tempering, I also have some insights. In the hearts of the elderly, their greatest wish is the happiness and well-being of the family.

So the mother-in-law took the initiative to take care of her grandson as soon as she heard that her daughter-in-law had sprained her foot. She feels that this is what she should do, and this is her own responsibility. In fact, Bian Xiao thinks that the old mother still thinks too much, because her mother-in-law doesn't have this obligation.

Version 1, the overly careful mother-in-law son grew up, formed his own family, and had his own wife and children, which was very good. He has the ability to support himself. No matter what happens, he should try to solve it himself and bear it himself, instead of looking for his parents.

But in reality? How many sons can do it? Carry it yourself? ? How many parents can? Let go? And then what? so this is it？ Extra love? , resulting in more contradictions and misunderstandings, and even make future generations lose the ability of self-reliance, and become a passive Nuo Nuo, who has no definite view and goes to his elders for everything.

Some people may think these words are very reasonable, but I believe more people will scoff. You can't let the old people live their own lives regardless of their children and grandchildren! Many old people can not eat or drink themselves, and they will also save money for their grandchildren. This is the real practice of most elderly people.

Even some? Be reasonable? Old people can understand this truth, but they can't. They will still choose to spoil their sons and grandchildren unconditionally and without a bottom line. After all, in our traditional understanding, affection is above everything, including reason.

The endless help and love for my son's family is likely to end up standing at the door with tears. The reason is simple: the old mother feels that she has paid a lot and deserves her daughter-in-law's gratitude, while the daughter-in-law will feel that everything her mother-in-law has done is right, and even think that her mother-in-law is not for herself but for her grandson.

This difference in understanding makes her mother-in-law very wronged and hurt. The daughter-in-law will think that the nanny and mother-in-law are not doing well enough, so they have to pay more and even bring their own food.

So whose fault is this? As the saying goes, it takes two to clap, and both of them are at fault. Is mother-in-law still wrong? Of course, not only there is, but also the initiator. Why do you say that?

The reason is the above analysis. Mother-in-law's fault is that she is too active. It is not her responsibility and obligation to take care of her daughter-in-law, but she rushed to take the initiative to pay attention, which sent a wrong signal to her daughter-in-law, who would think that all this was what her mother-in-law should do.

Undeniably, what is the mother-in-law's heart? Okay？ Yes, it's warm, as the saying goes, a hot face meets a cold ass. Everything has a * * * principle, which is going too far. You are too enthusiastic, others will mistakenly think that you should do it, or even have ulterior motives.

Of course, there is also a key figure in this matter, which seems to have nothing to do with him. In fact, he is the root of all problems. This man is the husband of his daughter-in-law and the son of his mother-in-law. No matter how successful this man is in his career, he is an imbecile emotionally, which may be related to the love he received as a child.

Why is he an emotional moron? Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is a kind? Natural barrier? , either mother and daughter, or incompatible, then, as an intermediate link? Son, plays a vital role. How to make these two women live in peace is what the son should consider and pay. Obviously, the son in this story didn't do well. Maybe he doesn't know how to do it at all

Another perfect version, everyone wants to see. Of course, there should be another version of this story, that is, when my mother-in-law came back from shopping, she overheard her daughter-in-law talking about herself. My mother-in-law thought her daughter-in-law would say something unsatisfactory, but her daughter-in-law expressed her gratitude and kept saying how good her mother-in-law was. Her mother-in-law was better than her own mother.

The daughter-in-law's gratitude moved her mother-in-law, and it was difficult for her to control her emotions for a while, so there was a scene of tears. This is the most perfect story and what we all want to see.

And which version do you support after reading it?