Communication failure leads to self-isolation.

-Expounding the self-sealing caused by no flow between heart and heart.

-Through study, you can express your heart and communicate with people close to you.

When there is no flow between heart and heart, it leads to self-closure.

People's hearts are like running water. The rainwater accumulated on the mountain flows down, forming a stream, collecting into a river and finally flowing into the sea. Similarly, people's hearts are mobile and will eventually flow to places full of love. But if the water flow is blocked, it cannot continue to flow; If there is a gap in my heart, I can't connect with my heart.

Sometimes there is a gap between parents and children because of the generation gap. Most fathers will demand their sons by their own living standards. When a son's words and deeds are inconsistent with his father's heart, the father will say something that worries his son. However, these words are just useless nagging and even interference to my son. After listening to them, he will feel bored and want to resist. Over time, the relationship between father and son will become alienated.

If the hearts can't flow with each other, they can't understand each other and only pay attention to superficial behavior. If a son is addicted to Internet addiction or goes astray, parents often just want to stop it by force, regardless of ways and means.

How difficult it is to scoop the river into the sea bit by bit! Even if the river does not flow to the sea, as long as the river is dug, the river will automatically flow to the sea. But some people don't understand this truth and insist on scooping the river into the sea. The same is true of the spiritual world. If people's hearts can actively connect with others' hearts, many mistakes can be corrected naturally without great efforts.

Communication can connect people's hearts.

The contradiction between people is mostly because they don't understand each other's hearts. You can know each other's height and appearance at a glance, but you can't tell them from the inside. Only through dialogue can we understand.

"I am very happy to see you today!"

"I'm so sorry about yesterday!"

"I thought about it after I went back. I shouldn't treat you like that."

We should express our feelings in this way. Language is a tool to express the heart. Between husband and wife, between brothers and sisters, between friends, between teachers and students ... if you communicate with each other, you can understand and feel each other's hearts.

"So that's it!"

"It must be hard for him, right?"

"He looks very happy today."

Understand each other's heart, you can understand and trust each other, and the other party will feel the same.

But some people don't want to express their hearts, but hide their true hearts and say something that is not from the heart, but on the surface. In fact, not telling the truth is tantamount to lying; If you don't tell the truth, it is equivalent to deceiving each other and blocking the mutual flow of heart and heart. Wires can carry current, so can the heart. When our hearts are connected with other people's hearts, we will naturally feel happy, otherwise we can only feel unfortunate.

main points

Wires can carry current, so can the heart. When our hearts are connected with other people's hearts, we will naturally feel happy, otherwise we can only feel unfortunate.

think

When a person is estranged from his closest and favorite person, what problems will it cause?

use

Say something from the heart to family, friends and other close people, not superficial words. How do you feel after the expression?

A. who is it? What are you trying to tell me? C. Feeling after expression

John's story

In the war, many people will die forever. In a war, a soldier named John took part in the war. John is his mother's only child. He and his mother live in the suburbs of Los Angeles. Mother was very nervous when she learned that many American soldiers had died in the war. Just then, the mother suddenly received a phone call from her son.

"hello?" /"mom! It's me, John! I just arrived at Los Angeles Airport. "

"John, is it really you? Are you all right? " /"Well, I'm fine!"

Mom is very happy.

"John, thank you for being alive. Hurry home! "

"Well, I will go back tomorrow morning. However, I want to take a friend back ... "

"Yes, you brought it. What friend is he? "

"I used to be a comrade-in-arms who fought alongside me. He stepped on a mine on the battlefield and lost a leg, an arm and an eye. "

"Oh my God! What a pity! Let him come to our house and have a good rest for a week before going back. "

"Mom, I want him to stay in our house all the time."

"What did you say? You have been to the battlefield, how did you become so sentimental? Think about it, how can he go to the toilet without a leg and an arm? How to take a bath? If such people stay at home for a long time, you will find it inconvenient and get bored over time. Just let him stay for a while and then let him go back! "

"Mom, I want to live with him, okay?"

"On the battlefield, you support each other and encourage each other. I can understand this feeling, but the reality is often not the case. You'd better not get emotional! I think you'd better let him go back. "

"Mom!" /"What's the matter?" /"Good night." /"Why are you so polite? Well, you also come back early! "

"Mom, take care!"

"I see, come back soon."

Mom hung up the phone. She was thrilled at the thought of her son coming back from the battlefield. She immediately cleaned her son's room, but it was still difficult to sleep. She took out an iron to iron his clothes neatly, hung them in the closet, and put flowers beside the bed. At the moment, she felt extremely happy, it was a long-lost happiness. She went to the kitchen to cook for her son. There is still some time before dawn, but she is cooking happily while waiting for her son to come back.

It finally dawned, but by eight or nine o'clock in the morning, my son had not come back. My mother really misses her son, and she feels very anxious. "Why didn't the child come back? What is he doing? " 10, 1 1 ... My son hasn't come back yet. "You see, young people get carried away when they play."

It's past noon. It was almost 1 o when the phone rang "Ding, Ding". Mother thought, "What's your name if you don't hurry home?" She picked up the receiver.

"hello?" /"I am a policeman. Your son committed suicide by jumping off a building in a hotel. Come to the hospital. "

This is like a bolt from the blue! She can't believe that her son who came back alive from the battlefield committed suicide! What's going on here? She can't believe it's true. It is incredible that her son can come back alive, but the son who is about to go home actually committed suicide? ! Mother drove to the hospital in a panic. In the hospital, the police took her to a ward.

There is a bed in the center of the ward, on which lies a man covered with a white sheet. After the police lifted the sheets, the mother froze, because the person lying was her beloved son John. But John has only one eye, his face is scarred, and he is missing a leg and an arm. The mother hugged her dead son and burst into tears.

"John! John. Why not make it clear? Why don't you tell mom that the friend you are talking about is yourself? ! "

In a war, John accidentally stepped on a mine. Although his life was not in danger, he was seriously injured. The doctor sent John in a coma to the hospital. However, when John woke up, he wanted to move his legs and feet, but found that one leg was unconscious. When he looked down, his own leg was gone. Besides, he is missing an arm and an eye. Later, John was sent to Japan for treatment, and then boarded a plane to Los Angeles.

On the plane, John was lost in thought:

"I was healthy when I left home, but I became disabled when I got back. What will people think of me if I go back like this? "

He feels that even if he can't stand himself, his friends can't accept him. Tom, Matthew, Andre ... He thought of his friends and felt that no one could accept him. Not to mention friends of the opposite sex, they will definitely hate him. Finally, he thought of his mother.

"Yes, no matter what others say, my mother won't hate me!"

However, when he looked at himself, he lost his courage again.

"No, maybe my mother will hate me like this ..."

He got off the plane and wanted to call his mother before going home to test her heart. As a result, he completely misunderstood his mother.

"Mom will think I'm in trouble, will drag her down, will abandon me! Who will like me now that my mother is like this? So, what's the point of me living? "

In the end, John chose to commit suicide. The mother kept crying with her dead son in her arms.

"John! Why didn't you say it was you? If you say you have no arms and legs, I can be your arms and legs! I will be proud of you ... "

Although they love each other, if they are separated for a long time, the communication will be reduced, so that the son can't understand the mother's sincerity. John should tell his mother the truth, but because of lack of communication, John can't understand her heart. If John knew his mother's heart accurately, he would never choose to commit suicide.

Summary and analysis

If John tells his mother the truth about himself and his heart, he won't choose extreme measures, and the result will be another scene. Imagine what would happen after John truthfully expressed his feelings and wrote them down.

the end

Read the first paragraph and say how you feel.

Second, watch the video of Viper and talk about your feelings. 1. Heart-to-heart barrier, no communication has a great influence. I thought I communicated with others, but it was just an illusion. All parts of the body are bruised, and all diseases are caused by the heart, so don't tell the people around you about the heart.

Third, the problems caused by stagnant water stink. If the air is not ventilated, it will lead to an increase in carcinogens. Blood blockage can lead to various diseases.

Look at the next paragraph and talk about the problems caused by parents' attitudes towards their children. (Case) 1. The ninth grade students committed suicide by jumping off a building, and their parents did something wrong. Communication is very important. Parents actually care about their children, but they just don't know how to express them. I don't know how to speak my mind, so there is a gap.

5. Read the third and fourth paragraphs. Combine your own experience and publish it. 1. Don't communicate with father, leading to mutual misunderstanding. My brother thinks that my mother only likes my sister.

Sixth, the general principle does not hurt, but pain will not work. Talk about similar experiences in real life.

Seven, the reason why the heart does not communicate with the heart? Subjective reasons: self-righteous, believing in yourself, fragile mind, heavy burden of interpersonal communication, fear of being hurt, negative thinking, ignorance of the spiritual world. Objective reasons:

Eight, squatting home video.

9. Have you ever had an unpleasant communication experience with others?

Communication is actually not difficult, just a word.

X. Look at the case. Read by roles. What if you tell the truth? Act it out.

Disconnection can cause many problems.

Eleven, say something close to family, friends and close people!

Twelve, after learning the article, the deepest heart!