Inferior to others, inferior to others

Li Xiaolai confirmed a concept in "The Road to Financial Freedom", "What are values? Values ??are knowing what is good, what is better, and what is best." I personally find it very useful. It was very intuitive and practical, and I have been adhering to this principle to adjust my values ??since then.

Today, I want to talk about "contentment" and "comfort with the status quo". The literal meaning is easy to understand, and it can even simply mean "contentment = contentment with the status quo" or "dissatisfaction = dissatisfaction with the status quo."

But there is another way of saying that people should know how to be content, but not content with the status quo, which is contradictory but not contradictory. Sometimes I can't help but fall into this contradiction: Regarding the current living situation, with a house, a car, a stable income, a wife and children, this is the winner in life, I should be content, if this situation I can't If I settle for it, what should I do? Do you spend your whole day beating your chest against all kinds of successful people and being angry with yourself? At this point, we have to talk about values.

If you have a house, what kind of house and how big a house you need to be satisfied varies from person to person;

If you have a car, whether it’s a Xiali or a BMW, how expensive it is to be satisfied, it varies from person to person;

Have a stable income, 3,000 is stable, 10,000 is also stable, how much is enough also varies from person to person;

As for your wife and children, do you dare not be content with the status quo?

As the old saying goes, looking forward you are inferior to others, and looking backward you are inferior to others. Anyway, it doesn’t tell us whether we should look forward or backward. We have to figure it out ourselves. The premise of this thinking is the issue of values. What do you think is good (important) and what is better (important)? Just do whatever is best (important) and don’t have to be influenced by others.

Take me for example. The house is 100 square meters, which is enough for a family of three. Our 18th-tier town does not have any school districts. Anyway, it is such a big place. , it’s the same no matter where I live, I think it’s already very good, I must be satisfied with this status quo.

The car is an economical model for hundreds of thousands of households. I am not afraid of your jokes. I think no one’s car is as comfortable as mine. It can meet all my needs. I am also satisfied with this situation. I am currently satisfied with the car. My value is "I can't buy a good car even if I have money." I think it's a waste of resources. Maybe I'll just stick to this condition now. I'll see if I can control myself when I get really rich one day.

Let’s talk about the most important income. This question is really heartbreaking. How much money is enough? The so-called freedom of wealth does not specify how much money counts as freedom of wealth. It only emphasizes that freedom of wealth is defined as the ability to not sell one's time and labor to meet the needs of life, that is to say, the ability to not work for money. Of course, I am still far away from financial freedom, but this does not prevent me from being content. My annual income is about 100,000 yuan, which can meet the basic expenses of the family. I can also save a little without affecting the quality of life. At least I have not let it go. Money forced me to take chicken blood injections every day.

I am definitely not advocating that people should be content with the status quo. I just want to say that one person has one life, and one person has one way of living. Some people are already at your end when they are born. I am a good fortune teller and I am content. Whether you are content with the status quo or not depends entirely on your inner values. Never follow the crowd, lest you lead a deluded life and end up in a state of eternal calamity.

When you can’t walk anymore, you are weak. Looking back, you will see that others are not as good as you, but you are better than many people. If your ego is inflated, you will fall in love with someone. If you look forward, you will see that you are not as good as others, you are still worse. Very far.