Reflections on Nanny Wife, Widowed Marriage and Widowed Parenting ...

I came across a book about the psychological problems of adolescent children when I was studying in Dangdang the other day. Although the child is still young, I have started reading such books in case of emergency.

For me, books are the ocean of knowledge and the best way to nourish the soul and learn.

After listening to the general content of the book in the fragmented time, I felt a lot in my heart. There are many new terms mentioned in it: refusing to study, living like a cocoon, bullying … I am shocked and amazed! Times are changing, and children's problems are also "advancing with the times". Therefore, if you don't study, you can't do it. Do you want to be an antique parent or a parent who can be friends with children? Anyway, I hope it is the latter.

The book also mentions the problem of widowed children and the role of fathers in raising children. Think about your own home, the child's father is basically a shopkeeper of cutting and spending less time at home. He usually goes out to work early in the morning, and the children don't come back until they sleep, so that the children often think that his father is on a business trip again. Besides being busy at work, the father of the child is not the kind of person who actively participates in child-rearing … so much so that I am basically busy at home. Although he is not indifferent, the children have a good relationship with him and like him very much. But I feel that this situation is not a good thing.

I looked at Baidu's related content, not only widowed with baby, but also nanny's wife and widowed marriage.

Seriously, these words make me very unhappy. Even stabbed me in the chest. This is the traditional society in China. Many men take it for granted that women should be housekeepers, so he will automatically cut off the responsibility of raising himself. I'd rather care about national affairs that don't need his control than think about how to educate my children. This is a kind of indifference after all. But who caused such indifference? Is it society? Is it culture? Or genes?

For the sake of children, I can't choose a husband again, and I haven't reached the point of choosing a husband again. I'm just sad, for myself and for those women. How many women want to be housekeepers and take care of their jobs? How hard should this life be? It's really painful to give way to other things when you could have been a better yourself. If you can choose again, you really need to evaluate the participation of the selected man in the future family before deciding whether you can marry him. Because it directly determines the quality of married life.

It's just that it may be too difficult. Not participating is the choice of most men in this society. Men who are willing to participate willingly are probably hard to find even with lanterns.