In the eyes of the elderly, which is more important, son or daughter? These two women spoke their minds, don't you think?

0 1 As the saying goes, the palms of the hands are all meat. But as parents, can you really treat every child fairly and ensure that you are not biased? I think, maybe every family with many children will experience the "partiality" of their parents.

There is a story in the Bible about a pair of brothers. They were very close, but their parents had different attitudes towards them. Father is partial to brother, and mother likes brother. When my father died, I wanted to give my wish to my brother, but my mother encouraged my brother to lie to him.

Finally, the two brothers turned against each other. My brother was chased by his brother and left his hometown for many years. He should have lived a carefree life, but he had to live in another country to avoid being hunted.

Because my brother didn't get what he wanted and lost his ambition. He hates his mother and brother, and the flame of hatred burns his chest all the time.

Originally, I had two sons. My mother's old age should be a happy time with her family, but in the end, she spent it alone. She was ashamed of her eldest son and worried about her youngest son who fled abroad all day.

We might as well make an assumption, assuming that parents can give love to the two brothers impartially and equally, then the two brothers will not kill each other, but live happily together, serve their parents and enjoy family happiness. But all this was ruined by parents' partiality.

In many traditional China courts, this kind of partiality is more serious, especially in families with many children. Boys are always the favored party, while girls are the wronged party.

My friend and her cousin have been through something similar recently. Speaking of these things, she is full of grievances and sadness. Tell me more about my friend's cousin's house. My cousin moved to this city after she got married. My parents and brother are in their hometown in the country. Fortunately, they are not too far away. Cousins can often go back to their parents' homes to take care of their parents.

Cousin always misses her family. She usually buys a lot of things to visit her parents and younger brother when she is free, not to mention holidays. As long as she can do it, she will do her best.

Originally, the family got along well, but later my brother got married. After having siblings, my brother seems to have begun to hide his thoughts from his family. It was supposed to be my brother's job to let my sister reach out.

Cousin has kept her brother at home since childhood. Like her parents, she indulged him unconditionally and always gave him what was good, but her cousin always came forward with what was dirty.

My brother was spoiled by his parents and cousins since he was a child, and gradually became accustomed to dependence, begging and possession.

During my cousin's father's illness, my cousin asked for leave to wait on him at home. Every time I go to the hospital for examination and treatment, my cousin is responsible for it alone. Later, my cousin's father died, and my family got 40 thousand funeral expenses. My cousin's mother put the money in her cousin's place, but told her seriously that the money was not for her, but for her to keep temporarily.

Cousin nodded, indicating that she never missed money.

But not long after, my cousin's mother died and lost two close relatives in a short time. Cousin had a fight with her brother before she got out of her sorrow.

The reason is that the day after my mother died, when my father left, my brother and sister-in-law found my cousin and asked for funeral expenses. Cousin looked at her cold-blooded brother in surprise. She said that the money would definitely be given to him, but we had to finish the mother's funeral affairs anyway, but my brother and sister-in-law did their part.

Cousin is very sad about her brother's cold-blooded and ungrateful heart, but what makes her sad is yet to come.

When my mother left, she left a passbook for her brother, which contained more than 200,000 deposits. She gave her brother her passbook and password a few days before she left, and my cousin knew nothing about it. When she learned about it, she suddenly felt very wronged.

Thinking of the days when she had no bottom line for her parents and younger brother, she felt like family. My mother obviously has money, but she is asked to spend it when she needs it. Her father paid for hospitalization, but her brother never took a penny. My mother always says that her brother's family is having a hard time, and my cousin takes care of my family as an unshirkable thing.

The younger brother took the 240 thousand left by his parents and broke up with his cousin.

Cousin wants to cry at her parents' grave. She always wanted to ask her parents why they did this to her. Is it because she is a daughter and married?

But she obviously did much more than her brother from the beginning. This kind of pain of being hurt by relatives is worse than an arrow piercing the heart.

When my cousin finished, my friend's tears also flowed out. My friend also has a younger brother at home. Her family's situation is similar to my cousin's. My brother only knows to reach out and ask her for something, and she always tries her best to satisfy it. My mother also asked her to take care of her brother.

Just because he is a younger brother, he can get preference. Whether she has talent or not, as long as her brother asks, she must meet it. Later, my friend and mother said that all the houses in my hometown were left to my brother because he was a boy.

My friend thinks about everything I have done for my mother and brother. She suddenly felt very tired. The love she wants is always so difficult. She wants her mother to love her like her brother, but her mother has given all her love to her brother. As for her, she just needs to take it endlessly.

Thinking of a TV series I watched last year, everything is fine. Su Mingyu's mother is like most parents in ideal life. Whether the daughter is the oldest or the youngest, in short, the daughter is not as important as the son. She will give all her love to her son, but she can deprive her daughter of the right to study alive.

Originally, Su Mingyu's three brothers and sisters were supposed to love each other and be happy. However, due to mother's quirks and father's incompetence, the family of three became enemies. Until adulthood, Su Mingyu was still in the strange shadow of Descendants, and she couldn't get out for a long time.

Due to eccentricity, Su Mingyu and his two brothers also drifted away, and their feelings were weak, and finally they became strangers. In fact, what we are afraid of is not the lack of love, but that our parents give all their love to others. This bitterness is indescribable. It's like a knife stuck in your heart by a relative. When you love them, you must accept the pain they bring you.

In the past, it was always said that "raising children to prevent old age", but the ideal always proved again and again that "you have to guard against children if you want to support the elderly". In people's inherent ideas, it is said that daughters are married people, but most of them really care about and miss their parents.

However, after paying too much love, I finally found out that their hearts are biased. Which daughter will feel better?

In fact, what hurts us is people's inherent ideas. When can people get rid of prejudice, treat them fairly and share love equally, and when can children not be hurt by their parents?