How to keep love fresh?

Love has been a beautiful and eternal topic since ancient times. "Guan Guan pheasant dove, in Jianghu, is a gentle and graceful lady, and a gentleman is good." Love is desirable because of its beauty. "The mountains have no edges, the rivers are endless, there is snow in winter, and there is rain and snow in summer, so you dare to be with you." This poem expresses that two people who love each other should love each other forever. In real life, both parties in love also have beautiful expectations for love, and both expect themselves to be the happiest couple. I am glad that I found the right person in the vast sea of people, and love will last for a long time. Just like the song "Legend" sings: Just because I saw you one more time in the crowd, I will never forget your face. It is precisely because they took one more look at each other that they became attached and hoped to live happily for a lifetime. When they enter the marriage hall, love is linked with family, work and life, and the symphony of pots and pans will gradually disappear from the initial passion and enthusiasm. So, how to keep love fresh for a long time? There are three ways to keep love fresh. First, to keep love fresh, we must invest in ourselves and make ourselves better. After marriage, the two returned to reality from romance. Life begins with daily necessities, and many people are gradually distracted by housework; Especially after having a child, I stopped learning and making progress because of all kinds of things that happened during my child's growth. And some people will insist on learning, dig deep in their favorite fields, take online classes, take physical classes and so on. , in order to improve their knowledge reserves, improve their quality and ability. In fact, investing in yourself, constantly learning and making yourself better are all adding value to yourself and making yourself stronger and more loving. When you become strong, you can resist the storm of life; Can bring stability and happiness to lovers and children; You can better honor your parents and let your family live a better life. The famous actress Sun Li is like this. In addition to filming seriously, she also uses her spare time to practice yoga and learn to draw, so as to improve her quality in many ways and make herself better and better. When you become a better self and have the ability to love yourself and others, your love can be fresh and lasting. Second, mutual respect and mutual achievement can keep love fresh. After two people get married, people often ignore that everyone is an independent individual, and often ask the other party to give up the independence of the individual and disrespect the wishes of the individual. This is unrealistic. Seeking common ground while reserving differences is a more rational and objective way. Even as a family, we should respect each other. This can protect everyone's self-esteem, and mutual respect can make people who love each other feel happy, which is also a necessary condition to keep love fresh. There is a saying that "kissing one's own flesh and blood humiliates another". This is a concept in economics, which talks about the law of diminishing marginal benefits. In other words, the more familiar and close you are, the easier it is for you to ignore, neglect and blame. There are many such examples in life. In the family, this phenomenon will gradually appear when two people live for a long time. When there are frictions and disputes, this situation is even more serious, which is very unfavorable to the preservation of love. The best way is to respect each other. You know how to respect, don't hurt each other, and the other person knows you, so that the relationship can be more harmonious and lasting. Premier Zhou Enlai and his wife are examples of mutual respect. After decades of love, their love is still profound and meaningful, because they respect each other and think of each other. Even like husband and wife, you can't give up the necessary courtesy and humility. Only by respecting and helping each other can we achieve each other and keep love fresh. Third, mutual tolerance can keep love fresh for a long time. "People are not good, who can be perfect?" Everyone is not "perfect" and will not be so perfect. So in their love life, we should learn to be tolerant, which is also the secret of keeping love fresh. There are many emotional entanglements in family life, right and wrong. But family is not a court, so we don't need to distinguish right from wrong, we need to distinguish between you and me. Family is not a place to talk about "reason", but a place to talk about "emotion". When two people quarrel, both sides should calm themselves down in time, put their feelings first, and don't entangle who is right or wrong. It is easy to resolve contradictions with tolerance. Zhang Ailing said, "Because I loved, I am compassionate, because I know, so I am tolerant." Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are a model couple. Their family life is very interesting. Qian Zhongshu is a famous scholar with extensive reading and strong learning ability. But his ability to do housework is weak and clumsy. He can't make a fire or cook. Jiang Yang knows he can't do housework, but he must learn to do it. This is a sign of love. He is willing to do things for the people he loves, even if he is not good at it. Because Jiang Yang knows Qian Zhongshu and his thoughts, he is more tolerant. Jiang Yang will deal with his spilled ink bottles and broken things. Because of Jiang Yang's tolerance and understanding, their love has always been fresh, lasting and eternal. So Qian Zhongshu has a saying that he didn't think about getting married before he met Jiang Yang, and he didn't think about marrying someone else after he met Jiang Yang. If you want to love for a long time, love deeply, love for a long time and love fresh, the first way is to improve yourself, make yourself better and better, and have more ability to love; Secondly, we should respect each other, help each other, care for each other and achieve each other; Finally, the cultivation of tolerance and mutual tolerance can make the feelings of two people dissolve quickly even if there is friction. Master the above three points, love your lover, and grow together with affection, so that love can last forever and the family can be happier and more harmonious.