Is it an obligation or a responsibility for parents to help their children with their children?

Since ancient times, parents in our country have devoted their lives to their children, and they have given everything since their birth. They can scrimp and save, but they can't suffer the children. Every stage of a child is a hurdle for parents. When I was a child, I was worried that my children's academic performance was not good enough to get into a good school. When children grow up, they will fall into the anxiety of whether children can have a good job; After children have a successful job and a stable family, they begin to worry about their children's next generation.

You should put yourself first in life, and you can love others better if you have the ability of self-love. But in real life, it is difficult for parents to live only for themselves at the age of retirement. From the legal point of view, it is a kind of family support, not a necessary obligation for parents to help their children with their children. In other words, parents just extend their love for their children to their grandchildren, and there is nothing wrong with them not doing so.

Old people love children, mostly blindly, and even unilaterally become children's umbrellas. This kind of protection makes stubborn children more uncontrollable and unbearable for parents. They want their children to be sensible, not just hiding under the protection of the elderly. This kind of upbringing is not good for growth and development.

Moreover, many elderly people like to make their own decisions and prepare many remedies or snacks for their children. However, modern parents will control their children's habit of eating snacks for their children's health, and the constant doting of the elderly will disrupt their training plans and cause family conflicts.

Most importantly, it takes time to accompany children. If you choose to help with the children, it means sacrificing your time. They can't get along with their friends, and their daily life can only revolve around their children, which is too cruel for the old people. Nowadays, many post-90s generation have entered the ranks of parents, and the days of becoming grandparents after the post-80s generation are not far away.

Undoubtedly, today's young people have formed a strong sense of independence because of their high level of education, and they know that they are separate individuals from their children and parents.

So they all expressed the hope that their parents could live their own retirement life.

When parents are already tired, raising children may not prevent them from getting old. The problem of child-rearing after tomorrow must be physical and mental pain. After 90, I think that raising children is what I should do, and there is no need for my parents to go through that kind of hardship again.