A science and engineering man dated a working girl, and a boy talked about marriage, asking the woman to give up her job and take care of her in-laws. Can you accept it?

When it comes to "blind date", some people dislike it and some people favor it.

With the rapid progress of society, the pace of young people's life is accelerating day by day, and less and less time is spent in emotional marriage. Therefore, it really saves a lot of time and energy to catch the "express train" of blind date into marriage. But from another angle, blind date only overemphasizes the purpose of "marriage" and ignores the premise that two people are together, that is, love.

In love and marriage, it is an important prerequisite for harmonious coexistence and friendly exchanges. Bian Xiao has always believed that the matching of economic and material conditions is only temporary. No one can guarantee that he will be poor and rich all his life. However, spiritual harmony is an important factor that determines whether two people can be happy together.

Reader Xiaobei is a 27-year-old working girl. She went out to be a social worker very early, and she also saw through the changes in the world. Especially after his parents divorced, Xiaobei kept himself in a cage of feelings. With the growth of age, friends and colleagues around me get married and have children. Every time we chat together, Xiaobei seems out of place. This invisible pressure and burden gave her the idea of getting married.

But after all, she is a working girl and looks very ordinary. She has aged a lot over the years because she often stays up late and works overtime. Before she was 30, wrinkles and spots began to appear on her face.

Xiaobei talked about love once. Her ex-boyfriend is her childhood, and the two families are very familiar. Later, they talked about marriage, but the parents of the man's family disagreed, saying that she was a girl who left society early and had rich emotional experience, and she was more likely to change her mind after marriage. As a result, this relationship that lasted for many years ended because of the man's dislike.

Since then, Xiaobei has never wanted to fall in love. She doesn't want to spend a lot of time and energy in exchange for a fruitless ending. What she wants is to go straight to the point, look at each other, and can't wait to get married at once. After careful consideration, she decided to date each other.

The blind date is a science and engineering man who graduated from graduate school and is one year younger than Peking University. His exit was glib, sophisticated and a little spicy. However, the two chatted happily. Xiao Bei likes this unconventional and unconstrained dialogue between men and women. The first blind date talked about marriage. As for the details of the marriage, the technology man took the initiative to express his thoughts in a gentleman's manner.

"Small north, this is the first time we meet, to be honest, I have a good impression of you. If my family hadn't been urging me, I wouldn't want to go on a blind date at all. Fortunately, I met you and got married, but there is one thing I need to make clear to you. "

Hearing these words, she suddenly felt a little lost, because the arrogance of the science and technology man once again exposed her inferiority complex. However, if she wants to get married, she must go through this stage. Facing blindly is not the way after all. She needs to overcome her emotional inferiority complex.

"Well, then tell me what it is. I'll see if I can do it. I will promise you if I can promise. " Xiaobei politely responded to the science and engineering man.

"My parents are in poor health, so I hope that after you get married, you need to give up your job and take care of your family's daily life, especially my parents. I earn more than 8 thousand a month. I don't want to give up my job. I hope you understand my heart. " The science and engineering man explained it very seriously.

Xiaobei immediately asked, "Are you looking for a nanny or a daughter-in-law?"

The science and engineering man disagreed. Instead, he looked at Xiaobei: "Am I wrong? It is natural for a woman to marry a man, do housework and take care of her in-laws. Even if she gives up her job, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Besides, your conditions are here. "

Xiaobei got up and left, leaving the dinner at the blind date to the person who spent 200 yuan, sneering: "Are you worthy to marry me?"

In fact, as early as two years ago, Xiaobei's monthly salary was as high as 10 thousand yuan. The rejection and arrogance of the other side once made Xiaobei very dissatisfied. Even if he despises it, there is no need to be so aggressive. What's more, a graduate science and engineering man will earn more than 8000 a month. I really don't understand where he got his confidence.

The secular vision of scientists and engineers retains his humble sense of superiority. In his eyes, marriage can almost be regarded as a woman's cage. No one has ever stipulated that it must be a woman's responsibility to run the house and take care of her in-laws. On the contrary, a responsible man who knows how to run a marriage will not care about the contribution after marriage, nor will he divide the responsibilities and boundaries between husband and wife so clearly. In the final analysis, isn't it because Xiaobei is a working girl? Therefore, it leads to the inner contempt of science and engineering men.

Bian Xiao still vowed that marriage is not a tool for anyone to meet their own goals or interests.

Blind date itself is an "emotional fast food". Do what you can, and pull if you can't. Before you achieve your desire to get married, take out rules and regulations to regulate others, let alone measure a person with colored glasses and ask for a person. Often the people you despise are not necessarily worse than you.

The filial piety of science and engineering men is commendable, but it needs to be improved in dealing with the emotional relationship between men and women. It must be understood that there is a relationship between husband and wife first, and then there is a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that the daughter-in-law will be willing to take care of her mother-in-law, rather than establishing a relationship for the sake of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This logical relationship is really criticized when I think about it.