Can't the bride and groom meet the day before the wedding?

An ancient taboo, it doesn't matter if parents don't have too many ideas and demands. Now is a new era, and modern young people already know too little. Where others know all kinds of statements and taboos, they naturally disappear and are not taken seriously. The previous taboo is also unfounded, just a kind of spread.

If you think you care about past customs, you should follow them even if you can't find the original answer.

On the wedding day, the bride should get up early, do her hair and get dressed, and wait in the house before the groom comes to pick her up! The wedding must end before noon 12 o'clock on the wedding day! ! ! It's unlucky not to finish the wedding before twelve noon! ! ! The bride should get up early that day and wait for Sina to pick her up. At this time, she can't eat anything! You can't eat anything! You can only eat jiaozi! But I forgot to eat a few, but there are numbers, either singular or even. You can ask an old man who understands when you come back! The groom has come to pick him up. He will worship the bride's parents with the bride, then the parents will give out red envelopes, and then all the children who follow the bride to carry the basin, press the sedan chair and carry the shoes should be selected, which can be her parents' relatives, cousins and the like. What is in the basin is a symbol of good luck and good morality. You can ask people around you for details. I can't remember clearly. The bride should put on green shoes when she gets on the bus, so that she won't suffer indignities when she arrives at her mother-in-law's house. In other words, the children who carry shoes help the bride change shoes. Remember that if you put on your shoes, you can't touch the ground. Put your hand in the car! Then the car can drive away. The child pressing the sedan chair is a couple, sitting next to the bride and groom, that is, in the same car! During the bride's stay in her family, relatives and children who are in conflict with her family are not allowed. Of course, this is not a rule in every place. The bride can't go to the groom's house until she is picked up by the groom! I remember when my cousin got married and drove to the crossroads, she would throw a packet of biscuits wrapped in red cloth and a red envelope, which could be a dime or white ash. If passers-by find it, please be happy But my cousin and cousin are from the same city, and they are very close. You are so far away, forget it, there are too many intersections! After that, I went to my husband's house. At this time, the wedding is the main scene. The master of ceremonies presided over the worship of heaven and earth, and the man's parents gave red envelopes. What fun activities and couples biting apples! Then you can enter the bridal chamber, and your family can join in and play, and put some things prepared before, such as symbolic pots and boxes. Then it's almost time to set the banquet. The bride should change clothes, usually red cheongsam, and come out to toast the guests with the bride. Then you can be free and everyone can go their separate ways. If you are young people, such as the bride and groom's own friends and colleagues, you can go to the bridal chamber to play at night and then go home separately, so that the bride and groom can be alone after a hard day's work! After three days, the bride can go home and visit once! There are many rules I didn't say, such as a hundred stitches on the bride's waist when she gets married! And how long satin, color and so on should the bride and groom wear. I said all Chinese, not western. The bride and groom all wear Hanfu, but they don't wear wedding clothes. Then the bride must never lift the veil when she goes out. When changing shoes, she can only lift them up a little to see clearly. You can't let everyone see that after the groom worships heaven and earth, the master of ceremonies can exchange tokens of love, earrings and rings, all of which are gold. Of course, diamond rings are popular now, and then the veil can be lifted.

First, the choice of wedding date: In the past, people were of course very particular about the choice of wedding date, and they had to find someone to approve the eight characters and so on. It's not so complicated now, but some complicated people still find someone to look at the date according to the date of birth of both men and women. Now if Baoding people choose their own date, they will look at Wednesday, Saturday and September. There are not only lunar calendars, but also solar calendars, weeks and so on. The more days, the better. If you come to Baoding and find that many people are getting married, look through the calendar quickly. Generally, there will be a lot of meetings on Wednesdays, Saturdays and Wednesdays ~ ~ ~ For myself, I am on September 16, 2005, the 13th day of the eighth lunar month. Wednesday, Saturday and Wednesday are basically completed. In addition, due to the changes of the times, there are many people who choose eight now, and there are also many people who get married during the May 11th Golden Week. Sometimes they are not particularly restricted by this, but most people still choose according to this basic principle. 2. Preparation before marriage According to the tradition in China, the man usually has to prepare a house, a wedding reception and take photos. And the woman marries an electrical appliance. Of course, there is not much difference between them. Now everyone does it according to their own actual situation, and the issue of bride price is different now. As far as I know, there are some, so I can't go into too much detail. Please forgive me. It may be different from Beijing now. Generally speaking, men and women can't meet the day before the wedding (it's important not to meet three days in advance, hehe). At this time, both men and women should confirm the wedding preparations separately. The woman prepares the things to be placed on the wedding day in advance, and the man prepares the wedding layout, determines the vehicles, personnel and so on. In addition, if the bride's dowry (usually bedding, clothes, etc. Here, because people are too troublesome now, all the electrical appliances have been put in the new house.) It will be delivered by the woman the afternoon before the wedding, and the man will give the dowry a red envelope or invite him to dinner. The man is going to tie the float one day in advance, and then invite all the helpers to assign tasks that night, all of which are in the charge of the wedding manager. Third, the custom of the wedding day: 1, the time to pick up the bride: According to the custom of old Baoding, the sooner the better, the bride should be taken to her husband's house before sunrise, but many people don't follow this now, but it is still very early to pick up the bride. Usually the groom will leave home before 7 o'clock. 2. Briefly introduce the people who take care of relatives' farewell: usually the man helps, the manager, the best man, the thief, etc. And the man's sister-in-law should follow. Of course, many of us are only children now, so we can find cousins or colleagues, who are simply sisters-in-law. There are usually relatives, friends and bridesmaids here, and there should be a special woman to play the role of seeing the bride off. The most important thing is to have a burden. When you get to the bride's house, it is inevitable to call the door. Anyway, it's hard for the groom. Red envelopes must be pulled out, but now many of them are fake, including melon seeds, peanuts, sugar and steel collapses. Hehe, just celebrating. Generally, after entering the door, the man will rush to the bride first to press the money. As the name implies, waist money should be placed on the waist, generally not much. Just put one from 6 yuan, 8 yuan and 8 yuan, but now, in order to prevent being touched, many people hold it directly in their hands. In addition, the bride should bring a small comb and a small mirror, which seems to mean that she will be very comfortable in the future. Then we need to find the shoes. Baoding bride's shoes will be hidden, and the groom can't take the bride out until he finds them. So hiding shoes is a big deal. Many people's shoes are also more creative as they are hidden. Some are hidden outside the windowsill. I heard that the most malicious ones are hidden in the main computer box. Isn't it cool? After finding the shoes, the groom will personally put them on the bride and then send her a bunch of flowers. Both sides wear corsages to each other, and sometimes they take photos with their families or something. At this time, people who steal happiness will take four kinds of fruits and cakes ordered by the bride's family. Because they all seem to have been stolen before, they are now called stealing happiness, and now they usually take them aboveboard. The most important task of stealing happiness is to steal the water from the bride's house, because it is said that water represents wealth. Of course, the bride's family should watch the water. Also, the bride's family should prepare bowls, chopsticks and green onions for the best man to take away. Wrap some clothes for the bride and give them to her brother or sister (because they are all only children now, some are cousins and some are nephews). When going out, the groom must hold the bride, because the bride can't land when she goes out of her family's door. In addition, if the bride meets another wedding motorcade on the road, the best man will raise his chopsticks (it is said that it is best to throw them out first), and if he happens to meet something white, he will break the bowl. When you arrive at the new house, the bellboy will appear, because the bride can't get off until the bellboy gets off. At this time, the general manager will usually come and give out red envelopes. As far as I know, there are 666,888,999. After the baby gets off the bus, the bride and groom should also get off. Of course, the groom still has to carry the bride upstairs. When we arrive at the new house, we usually take photos, make videos and sometimes have a small program. Everyone enlivened the atmosphere, and at about the same time, everyone went to the hotel together. Fourth, the wedding part: the wedding part is similar to others. I don't think there is any special difference between the arrangement and the ceremony, except that our small city is not as modern as Beijing, hehe ~ ~ Oh, by the way, Baoding generally gives 1 10, which means wholehearted. At the wedding, parents-in-law (now the bride's parents) will be painted with ink for "washing". 5. Building a new house: Building a new house is a necessary project. Usually friends of the bride and groom do some small programs or something. The essential item here in Baoding is to eat jiaozi. I think everyone knows why. Six, three days after the wedding, the bride will go back to her mother's house with her husband, which is also commonly known as Huimen. According to the previous stress, it was the husband's family who set the wine on the wedding day and the mother's family who set the wine on the return day, but now many people are together. Hehe, the above is my understanding of Baoding's marriage customs. I don't know how you feel after reading it. I hope you will like it ~ ~ ~ and I hope there is something that Beijing JMS can learn from. You can also communicate with me if you have any questions about the wedding ~ ~ Supplementary point: brides in Baoding should wear red shoes on their wedding day ~ ~ Underwear is generally red (now some people wear flesh-colored clothes for fear of exposure) ~ ~ The number of wedding cars is not limited, but it is generally even. Today, I suddenly remembered a little, and continued to add: on the wedding day, you can't take the same route from the new house to the bride's house to take the bride back, so you can't go back.