Second-born mothers, how did you get Dabao to accept Bauer?

To make Dabao accept Erbao, I think it is to protect the big but not the small.

The reason is very simple, because Dabao needs love more. Only when Dabao gets love, will he care about Bauer from the heart.

After Bauer was born, Dabao needed a slow transition to adapt to it. In this transitional period, we must abide by this principle, so that Dabao can accept Bauer more smoothly and quickly.

The core of protecting the big but not the small is to give the boss greater care and love. If there is a conflict between Dabao and Bauer, in principle, Dabao's needs should be given priority.

Remind all treasure mothers that parents are fair and just to their two children, and this principle should run through the whole growth process of their two children.

Before Bauer was born.

1. Let Dabao perceive Bauer's existence in advance.

When Ma Bao is pregnant, she will say to Dabao, "Baby, now you have a little brother (little sister), and he is in his mother's belly. Will you play with you when he comes out? "

You can make Dabao sing, talk to his mother's stomach and tell him, "If you talk to your brother more, he won't be lonely inside."

When the baby in the mother's belly moves, share this feeling and joy with Dabao and say to him, "Baby, your brother seems to hear your voice. He knocked on his mother's stomach inside and wanted to come out to see you soon! "

Ma Bao can also prepare clothes for Bauer with Dabao, and ask Dabao to choose the color of clothes for his younger brother, or wash Dabao's childhood clothes and tell him, "Look, this is your childhood clothes. Let's tidy it up and let his brother wear it when he comes out, shall we? "

We want Dabao to feel Bauer's existence all the time, and let him and his mother prepare for Bauer's birth together, so that they will have the same expectations.

2. Let Dabao know that his parents' love for him will not decrease.

We often hear some "kind" relatives and friends, or parents themselves say after owning Erbao:

"If your mother had a little brother, she wouldn't want you!"

"If you don't obey me, I will only like my little brother, not you!"

"Balbi Dabao is cuter and smarter!"

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These unintentional words are likely to become a "unhappy" seed, buried deep in the child's heart, bringing negative emotions such as loss, fear and anger to the child.

We should say to Dabao like this: "Baby, you are so cute. Mom loves you very much. If only my brother could be as cute and sensible as you! " Parents should tell Dabao that in the future, not only parents love him, but also a little brother (little sister) loves him together, and one more member of the family will be happier.

3. Deduct the scene after Bauer was born through the game.

In order to let Dabao know what his mother will experience after giving birth to the baby and prepare herself psychologically in advance, we can play games to interpret the future scenes.

Game process deduction

1. Prepare three dolls, such that one doll is a mother, the other two are big treasures, and the other two are two treasures to be born soon.

2. "Mom" has a stomachache and wants to go to the hospital to have a baby. She said to Dabao, "Dabao, mom is going to the hospital to give birth to a baby, and she will stay in the hospital for three days. Will you stay at home with your grandparents these three days? "

3. Mom went to the hospital, and the doctor examined her (Dabao can pretend to be a doctor at this time), and then she gave birth to Bauer smoothly. She was held by the doctor in tears by the bed. At this time, my mother told Dabao that after giving birth to my younger brother, my mother was very weak and had to stay in bed, while my father had to take care of my mother and younger brother together for life, and I had to stay in the hospital for another two days.

4. "Mom" was finally discharged from the hospital and went home with her younger brother. As soon as she entered the door, "Mom" held "Dabao" and told "Dabao" that she missed you so much these days.

Mother needs to feed her brother lying in bed and change his diaper. At this time, Dabao also joined in and helped her take care of her brother.

This is the general flow of the game. Ma Bao can play this game with Dabao more during pregnancy, which can be regarded as consolidation and review. When Ma Bao is really going to have a baby, Dabao will not be too alarmed because he is psychologically prepared.

After Bauer was born,

1. Don't ignore Dabao

After "Bauer" is born, the baby's parents should never neglect Dabao while enjoying it, because Dabao's heart must be extremely sensitive at this time, and the correct way should be like this:

1. Don't show too much affection for Bauer in front of Dabao, and don't praise Bauer endlessly.

Always hug Dabao and tell him that his parents love him very much.

3. You can ask Dabao to look at Bauer often and tell him, "You were like this when you were a child. You can see how your mother takes care of your brother, and you will know how her mother used to take care of you. "

4. Dad can take the responsibility of accompanying Dabao and often play with Dabao and tell stories.

2. Accept some changes in Dabao's behavior.

A treasure mother told me: With Bauer, Dabao, who used to be clever and sensible, seems to be a different person: she yells from time to time, cries and even hits people when things don't go well, likes to be against people, and doesn't let her family go to see Bauer and play with her toys ..., which makes her very upset and doesn't know what to do.

I understand this precious mother very well. Indeed, after "Bauer" was born, the family was inevitably busy, the family was inevitably tired, and the parents were inevitably overwhelmed. However, at this time, Dabao is likely to have some changes in language and behavior, which will make his family uneasy.

3. Set up Dabao's "example"

Ma Bao can invite Dabao to help take care of Bauer, such as helping his mother put on Bauer's diaper and helping her carry things. And praise Dabao in time.

"Wow, how great it is to see my brother like this!"

"Bauer, this is the bottle that my brother washed for you. My brother likes you so much! "

"Bauer, look at how sensible your brother is. You should be as sensible as your brother in the future! "

"Dabao, fortunately, you helped my mother, otherwise my mother would be so tired! You are really a good helper for mom! " ……

Dabao received the compliment and felt a great sense of accomplishment. Naturally, he will care more about Bauer.

Even though we worked hard before and after Bauer was born, the two children are likely to have various minor problems and contradictions when they grow up. At this time, parents must treat them fairly and carefully, and don't plant unhappy seeds in their children's hearts. Mom and dad want to say to their children, "You two are mom and dad's left hand and mom and dad's right hand. Mom loves you as much as dad. You are the baby of mom and dad! "

This question is actually very simple, because my family Dabao 13 years old was unexpectedly pregnant. I think I'm old and it's a blessing to have a child, so I'm going to stay.

Then I asked Dabao, "Mom has good news and bad news for you. Which do you want to listen to first? " Dabao said naturally, "I want to hear the bad news first, and then the bitter is sweet." So I told her that she was going to be a sister.

Unexpectedly, Dabao was very happy and said with a smile, "How is this bad news? This is definitely good news. I'm going to be a sister, too Great. " Then he asked me what the good news was, and I said that since the bad news is not bad, it is good news.

In this way, Dabao happily accepted the reality that she wanted to be her sister, and I easily fulfilled my obligation to let her know. Later, during the whole pregnancy, although she teased me with "baby brain" from time to time, she was very considerate and wouldn't let me do heavy work. Even if I buy too much food and fruit, she will take the initiative to bring it over.

In fact, many times, older children may understand such things more easily. For younger children, you need more patience. You can tell her about it with some picture books, books or videos and cartoons. I believe Dabao is easy to accept as long as parents are fully prepared and pay attention to the methods when telling Dabao.

Hello, I'm Juanzi, and I'll answer your questions. How did you get Dabao to accept Bao Xiao? I am also a second-born mother. When I am pregnant with Bauer, I will tell him that I have a little brother or sister in my belly. What do you like? He told me that when I like my little brother and the baby moves, you can let him touch it. He will kiss my stomach very intimately, and then I will wash Dabao's clothes. I will tell him that Bao Xiao has grown up, and I will let him wear his own clothes. Sometimes Dabao can't stand it. Tell me, mom, you can buy him some new clothes. Don't let him wear my clothes all day. Besides, Bauer was born. Don't say that Balbi Dabao is smart and beautiful in front of Dabao. Don't say that. You can say that someone's brother is so beautiful, just like his brother when he was a child. Dabao feels comfortable and likes his brother. Well, that's all.