Why do children listen to their teachers and not their parents?

Generally speaking, children are more willing to listen to their teachers than their parents. Why? There may be the following reasons.

Teachers and parents have different positions in children's minds.

In society, we usually give teachers a sacred and noble career. It is one of the occupations worshipped in people's minds and a shining example in people's minds.

The same is true of the education we received from childhood. Teachers are the authoritative role in our minds, and the role of education is sacred and inviolable. Therefore, the teacher is a tall, sacred, authoritative, inviolable and educational role in the eyes of children.

Generally speaking, our education is to listen to authority. Generally speaking, we obey the words of authoritative figures and the will in our minds.

As parents, the role generally given is the role of raising children. In life, to give parents some nurturing status of eating and drinking Lazarus requires parents' care and care.

Therefore, children's listening to teachers means that teachers are endowed with the status of "authoritative role" and "educational role".

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Second, teachers and parents have different psychological distances from their children.

Generally speaking, there are some differences between teachers and children in schools. The authority of the teacher makes the child always have some awe of the teacher, so the child always has some psychological distance from the teacher, and he can't get close.

However, children are different from their parents. They live together every day. Children are close to their parents because they need their parents' care, and children need their parents' physical and psychological closeness, so that they can feel that their love is true.

So we know that we are usually very casual with familiar people, because we are too close psychologically. Unlike teachers, because teachers are usually psychologically far away from their parents, they are not so easy to get close to. Such an authoritative figure. We will pay more attention when listening. Therefore, the teacher's words are more likely to have some seriousness, standardization and principle. Belonging to the conventional occasions in people's minds, language with a sense of ceremony is more likely to be valued.

The role of teacher education

Teachers and parents have different expectations in children's minds.

Teachers' expectations in children's minds are the role of educating people, so children first have expectations for teachers, hoping to hear the teachers' goals, expectations and educational goals, so as to standardize their own behavior and achieve the teachers' expectations.

Parents' expectations in children's minds are the role of nurturers, so children just want to have more emotional love ties with their parents. They are close to each other in daily life and understand their parents' state with their own body language. Therefore, in the case of parents, I think children are more likely to experience their parents' subtle education with feelings.

The above sharing, I hope to give you a different view.