Why do some people often dream about their deceased relatives?

People often say that you have something to think about every day and something to dream about at night, which makes sense. When I was young, I lived with my grandma for two years, so I am very close to her. When I gave birth to my child, I was in confinement at my mother's house (my mother rented a neighbor's house), and later I stayed at my mother's house until the child was half a year old. Since I work to earn money, I give grandma money every year to buy her some food. I gave birth to a child, and my grandma took my grandpa, who had a shrunken cerebellum, to see me and my child every day. When the child is one month old, he needs to cut a piece of cat hair, a piece of dog hair, and a piece of the child's hair wrapped in red cloth and sewn on a small pillow. Such trivial things are all done by my 60-year-old grandmother. Later, my grandma passed away suddenly. There were no signs of death at that time. I was the furthest person from home, and I was the first one to go back on the first bus. Later, I kept dreaming about my grandma, but every time in my dreams, my grandma wouldn't talk to me. And my mother, after she passed away, I dreamed that she didn’t talk to me every time. Maybe I care about them too much, so I always dream about them. These are the people I love most in my life and the people who love me the most! If we don’t see each other in this life, we will never see each other again. We can only meet in dreams!

Think about it during the day and dream about it at night. If you keep thinking about it, there will be repercussions. There is a saying in Zhuangzi that there is no greater sadness than an undying heart. Everyone's sadness fades to a different degree. Therefore, when dreaming, the logical control center of the brain is in a closed state and will "review" what has been experienced during the day. You can see it during the day. The things that come to you will be mobilized, and all the parts of you related to this event from birth to the present will be mobilized and connected randomly.

Sometimes I am like this. When my life and work are in a mess, I start to frequently dream about relatives who have been dead for many years, dream about eating together and traveling together, and dream about laughing and crying together. In the dream, everything was fine with them, but when I woke up, I found that I was alone. In fact, a long, long time ago, I sometimes dreamed at night about the death of my relatives, and then I woke up with tears streaming down my face and found that this was just a dream. The feeling of joy and happiness is indescribable, and now, many years later, I often wake up from my dreams, covered in cold sweats, only to find that it is all true...

Psychologist research Point out that no matter what kind of dream you have, scary or beautiful, it is a strong desire in your subconscious mind directly or indirectly. No matter what, the days are still going on, and the deceased is gone. The living people still have to continue to move forward for life, so they should keep themselves busy and stop thinking randomly.

Think about it during the day and dream about it at night. In the more than a year and two months since my mother passed away, I have dreamed of my mother many times, and I feel very sad!

When my mother was here, I was very unfilial to her and felt too much guilt. I did not have a clear conscience. When I think about it, I can't forgive myself. Poor old mother, why did she give birth to an old girl like me? Not only did she not become her caring mother, she also became a real executioner!

It hurts to think about it. It turned out that my mother had experienced the loss of her son in old age and could not survive. She was suffering from mental suffering and was suffering from dementia. I took care of my mother and could not even steam an egg custard. It had only been more than 20 days and my mother was so hungry that she was so hungry that her bones were broken. The liquid was all empty. When I came out of the toilet, I fell and my hip was broken. From then on, an eighty-eight-year-old man had to eat on the bed and have a bowel movement. How painful it was! Mom suffered a lot! It's all because of me.

In the dream, my mother could no longer walk. What kind of girl am I? Poor mother, she suffered when she was alive and she suffered when she died. I no longer have a mother in this life! I can only see my mother in my dreams! I also burned paper for my mother on May 7th, Magu Day, and Qingming Festival, but what’s the use! Being unfilial while alive and shouting indiscriminately when dead are really of no use at all! May all parents in the world enjoy their old age! Confession in the dream is of no use at all! If there is a hell, I went to it! When my mother was alive, she really felt ashamed to be a human son! It’s all about hate

! I have been in bed for a long time, full of disgust! I feel tired and don’t want to think about my mother’s nurturing heart, which is very selfish.

It feeds me, and I don’t get any light from it! So guilty! Conscience disturbed!

The reason why we often dream about deceased relatives is because we still miss our deceased relatives, not only in our dreams at night, but also in every moment of our daily life. Blood relations do not fade with the departure of relatives, but no matter how time passes through countless vicissitudes, the blending of souls between relatives is deep-rooted. My father and mother have been dead for decades, and every Spring Festival we have to pay tribute to our parents. Grandpa and mother-in-law visited the grave. One year, I was too busy and did not return to my hometown. In the spring of the next year, I dreamed of my mother every day. I knew that my mother missed me. On the sixth day of the first lunar month, I went to my mother’s grave and opened it first. A piece of firecracker was spread on the ground and lit with a lighter. The loud sound of firecrackers splashed a stone as big as a pumpkin, which hit my face. It hurt. I stood on my mother's grave in surprise and said to my mother: "Mom, I'm late, aren't you happy?" I know my mother can hear me in heaven, and since that day, I haven't dreamed of my mother every day, so while my parents are still here, I can spend more time with them. Even though they are gone, they still miss us.

As the saying goes, "Think about us every day and dream about us at night." Why do I often dream about my loved ones? It's because you miss them deep down and are emotionally attached to them: your loved ones who have passed away.

There is a superstitious saying in some places that it is unlucky to dream about your long-dead relatives, which means that something bad will happen. Therefore, many superstitious people quickly burn paper and incense after dreaming about their relatives to relieve their fear and uneasiness.

It doesn’t feel like that to me. In the dream, I can meet my long-lost relatives, and I feel happy at that time. I cherish this hard-won time in my dream. My heart is as happy as a child. When I woke up, everything returned to reality and was brought back to its original shape. My heart is full of melancholy.

Because these farewell relatives are in another world and can only meet in dreams. Because you are lonely and confused in your heart, and you hope to be comforted and enlightened by your relatives. They are also your spiritual watchmen. You need someone to rely on.

If you have no relationship with your relatives, you will be like passers-by after the dream. Sometimes it may be that you have a big personal grudge and there are knots in your heart that cannot be resolved.

Thank you Wukong for asking. I will answer from several aspects:

1. Think about it every day and dream about it at night.

In fact, many people often dream about their deceased relatives. If they have just passed away and the relationship is very close, they think it is likely that they miss them too much.

But if it is a relative who has died many years ago, and he does not think about it too much, this would be very confusing.

At present, it is impossible to analyze this phenomenon scientifically, and can only be explained by various dream interpretation books.

Let me explain this phenomenon below.

For example: The theory of meridians recorded in the traditional theory of traditional Chinese medicine has not been verified by science, so many people deny the existence of meridians in the human body.

What is science? Science is the external manifestation of knowledge in the human brain.

In other words, it is the external manifestation of the internal functions of the human body.

We look at all technological creations and inventions as external manifestations of human beings’ inner wisdom.

We need to understand clearly that science comes after humans, and science lags behind humans.

It is not difficult to see that the theory of traditional Chinese medicine is based on the theory of synchronization of human life, so currently science cannot verify the existence of meridians.

The existence of human consciousness leads to the existence of dreams. Here I talk about dreams from the perspective of philosophy and Buddhism.

2. First of all, understand that human consciousness exists simultaneously with human life.

This is the essential difference between humans and other animals.

According to the meanings of the Buddhist chakra diagram and the Taoist Tai Chi diagram, human consciousness and body are divided into two substances: Yin and Yang.

It is naturally derived that human beings are composed of two substances. The interaction between consciousness and existence produces a sound, namely soul and body.

When a person loses one substance, the other naturally ceases to exist. This is the process of separation after death.

After death, the consciousness (called the eternal existence space of the soul) body merges into the earth and exists in the soil in ionic form.

3. Human consciousness and thinking are storage and residual.

Science has tested that the world's largest telescope can capture signals from long ago. This is enough to prove that consciousness is independent of the human body.

It can exist in another way. (For example, the form of waves, the form of light or quantum state, etc.)

Buddhist three-vehicle exercises, breath counting method, five eyes and six supernatural powers, Taoist thinking, sensing and other mind powers, Luo Ji Tong and so on are all pursuing to explore the innate inner seeking method of human beings.

The purpose of tracing back to the past and predicting the future is to connect human beings with the existence of various consciousnesses in nature and bring all laws back to their roots. The process of pursuit is the reappearance of human dreams.

To sum up: Dreaming about your deceased relative is a resonance between your and your deceased relative’s consciousness.

Why does this happen? It is determined by two factors:

First, the blood of your relatives is flowing in your blood, and the blood relationship is destined to be the same.

The second is that thought sensing plays a vital role. You eat, live and sleep with your relatives every day, from childhood to adulthood, they interact with each other subtly, and your thinking is bound to be affected by it.

A person has passed away, but his consciousness still remains in space. The two thoughts meet in different spaces and produce synchronous vibrations, creating our dreams. This is the answer.

In short: There are various signals at home, and the image will appear when your TV adjusts the frequency.

The theory of the five elements and meridians of traditional Chinese medicine is very obvious. In the past, people who studied traditional Chinese medicine had to practice the secret human body meridians method.

Nowadays, learning Chinese medicine is just about learning the bits of knowledge recorded in books. If you don’t understand it and the meridians are blocked, how can you diagnose the disease and find out the cause?

How can you understand the dialectical relationship between the patient's meridians and the disease? This is also a major reason for the decline of traditional Chinese medicine today.

Okay, enough to say, in short, human consciousness, thinking and sensing are not limited by time and space, and may encounter you in your dreams at any time.

This is what people often say: the right time, the right place, the right people, and the right people are indispensable. This sentence has another deep meaning.

Some people have more dreams, and the things in their dreams are often bizarre. In most cases, this is a delusion caused by a mixture of various information stored in the mind. Or it may be a delusion caused by a mixture of internal and external information. For example, if your arms are pressed while sleeping, you may sometimes dream of being tied up in your sleep; if you wear too few quilts and the weather is cold, you may dream of being blown by a cold wind or snowing, etc.

However, some people often see their deceased relatives in dreams, which is different from delusions caused by information series. Because the information about deceased relatives is the same as the real information from the past, this is no longer a delusion and is worthy of study. In this case, there is not much current psychological research and it can only be explained based on classics.

According to the Sixth Chapter of Tathagata’s Praise in the Ksitigarbha Bodhisattva’s Original Vow Sutra, “If in the future life, all sentient beings may see ghosts, gods, and various shapes in their dreams or sleep. Or Sad or crying, worried or sighing, fearful or frightened, all these are the parents, male and female siblings, husbands and wives who have lived in the evil realm for ten lifetimes, hundreds of thousands of lives, and have no hope of salvation. You should tell your flesh and blood in the past life to make it easier for you to leave the evil path." By the same token, it can be inferred that frequent dreams about deceased relatives may be similar to what the Ksitigarbha Sutra says. This is the dreamer's request from a deceased relative, hoping to help perform some rituals and escape from the evil path. I've had this kind of dream too. I dreamed that a cousin who died in a car accident came to see me in the dream. Later, I recited the Diamond Sutra to him several times, and he never dreamed about it again.

Of course, there is no scientific basis for this statement in the Ksitigarbha Sutra. It is difficult for contemporary people to believe it because of their rich knowledge. It seems a bit superstitious. Just treat it as casual chat, don't take it seriously. Sometimes, it may also be that some information in the mind is released during extreme relaxation during sleep. It's just a release of information. It's a normal brain physiological activity and not worth making a fuss about.

There are many such things in real life. It seems that everyone will have such an experience, but the frequency varies. Some people will dream about their deceased relatives once or twice a year. ; Some people will dream several times a week; some people will be very relieved to dream; some people will be very depressed after dreaming...

As far as my work experience (psychological counseling) is concerned, if it is like asking a question As the author said, "I often dream about relatives who have died many years ago", then the simplest answer is "you can't let go"! This kind of inability to let go has many meanings. Some of them are that you are reluctant to let this relative leave; some are that you promised something to this relative during your lifetime, but that relative passed away before you could do it; some are that this relative passed away; A relative passed away suddenly, and he or she did not have time to explain anything to you. You cannot accept such a departure; in some cases, this relative had many contradictions and conflicts with you during his lifetime. You have cursed him or her more than once, but he or she has really passed away. , but your hatred did not die with his/her body... Various emotions such as reluctance, unwillingness, regret, love and hatred, etc., settle in your inner world, entangling you, binding you, and torturing you. For you, you don't know how to release this (negative) emotion, and gradually, you are imprisoned by your "emotions"! Then, you start to use your "rational weapons" to think about defeating it, so you On the surface, he starts to act like a "free man" (not bound by the emotions caused by the death of his relatives), but the more he acts like a human during the day, the more he attracts ghosts at night. The "ghost" in your heart uses the simplest form of dreams to remind you of your reality! Dreaming about relatives who have died for many years is said to be a dream about ghosts. Of course, dreaming about ghosts is not necessarily a nightmare. Many people dream about ghosts they are familiar with, and they don’t have the slightest fear, but only the sadness and desolation in their subconscious. It spreads through the back of the spine...

If you want to say goodbye to them (dead relatives), no matter in your life during the day or in your dreams at night, and no longer "live to see ghosts", then you can only complete and Their "unfinished business" - what words, what things, what loves, what hates, what doubts... During their lifetime, there was no time to say, no time to do, no time to settle, so they should finish it now. , through a "special ceremony", to "let him go" is also to "let yourself go".

Today I will not talk about the word science, but will only talk about my personal true thoughts and opinions. A dream that cares about everyone. Why do I often dream about my deceased relatives? I personally believe that when a person dies, his body returns to nature and becomes a small part of nature, becoming eternal. Even though we can't see it, it still exists in nature. It just exists in nature as another kind of substance. It can't be seen or touched. It's undeniable that it exists. This is for sure. This is where the body goes. And where does human aura go? I personally think that it also exists in the nature where we live, but it exists in another way that cannot be seen or touched. This is when human aura becomes wandering and drifting around. signal. Just like a mobile phone signal, it is just a signal. If the mobile phone does not receive the signal, the signal is useless. Everyone knows about the magnetic field, which can also be called magnetic signals. But if the earth did not have a magnetic field, the southeast, northwest, and northwest would not exist. Mobile phones, telephones, and televisions would not exist. Therefore, after a person dies, his body becomes a small component of nature, and his aura, which can also be said to be a signal, is also a part of the signals in nature. Does this have something to do with dreaming? I said yes. Everyone knows that the signal exists. Even if the signal is good, if there is no receiving equipment, the signal will be useless to us. The signal of the deceased is of no use to others, but to your loved ones, it is the receiving equipment for receiving this signal, and your own receiver is exactly matched with this signal, so you will dream about the dead person at night. Relatives. In this way, when relatives are alive, it is called telepathy. Not in the human world is a dream. Most people may not agree with the views I am talking about. Like the previous prophecies, they really do not agree with them, but they do exist within a few decades or over 1,800 years.

If someone wants to object to my statement, how can you explain it if it is not a relative or someone who appears in the dream? For example, it is like a radio that receives many signals and receives the voice at the same time. And our own receiver itself has successfully matched the signals of many deceased people, so we will dream of relatives and unknown people appearing in the same dream at the same time, including living people. The signal that a person is alive does not leave the body. But the signal is there. Just like what we often call the sixth sense, it is also the reaction that occurs when the signals sent by the human body are received by ourselves. The above is my personal perception and understanding, but it is not completely correct. It is only for your reference. Maybe it will be recognized by people in decades or many years, but I don’t necessarily know. Love Broadcasting Yilan Media.

As the saying goes, there is something to think about every day and something to dream about at night. As long as people are alive and have thoughts, they will continue to think and remember. The waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead, and a new generation replaces the old. People in their sixties, grandparents passed away, followed closely by the father's generation, uncle, aunt, father, mother, uncle, mother-in-law, uncle, sister-in-law, uncle, and girls passed away one after another. Even one brother and another sister-in-law are gone. These three generations have been connected for decades and have gone to the crematorium many times. They have gradually become numb, but their voices and smiles often linger in my mind, especially Grandma, parents, have often appeared in my dreams at night for the past few decades, talking to them as if they were alive. Once again, I thought they were dead people, and suddenly woke up. The last time I; Speaking of, I know you are dead, let me hug you again. Of course, the hug is empty, and relatives are not afraid.

Dreams are a continuation of thoughts during the day, maybe a reflection of inspiration, maybe I miss them too much and bring them into the dream. Sometimes I am also very scared. Is life short, and relatives are calling to guide the way? In fact, Death is like a lamp going out. If a person really has a soul and can escape from dreams, so many unjust, false and wrong cases will be gone, and Dou E will no longer be unjust. So many wronged souls can just ask the police to ask for help in their dreams, and the case will be solved.

Having too many dreams is also a disease. You should find a doctor to prescribe a prescription to regulate your internal organs.