This is the real BDSM science popularization.

In a word, there are too many misunderstandings about BDSM in this world &; Even if "fifty shades of grey" makes a sequel "Fifty Shades Darker", even if "Fifty Rainbows" is made, will the misunderstanding of BDSM really be reduced?

Wait, Fang Tathagata heard someone weakly ask Xiaomei: What is it?

If you want to do popular science, you must do it to the end!

So&& Today, I want to tell you more attentively or sincerely: BDSM, let's take a look at the following picture first, which fans should be familiar with.

BDSM is actually a general concept, which can be divided into three types:

Type 1: bundling and training

As the name implies, one of them is tied, and two people make rules and punish in bed.

The second type: domination and submission.

A person can become another person's boss to control his power, which can be physical, emotional or physical+emotional.

The third type: abuse and humiliation

Shake S, shake M, we are all familiar with it. To put it bluntly, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer.

Wait for the light, wait for the light! So, learn something new after warming up ~

Today, my sister invited Daniel's assistant to be Stephanie Hunt Jones, a sexologist in Los Angeles.

This woman is a female doctor majoring in human sexuality and an honorary member of WASC World Coaches Association. I know you don't know, yeah!

Next, we will hold the hand of Dr. Red Eyebrow and rush into the misunderstanding to clarify the time!

Xiaomei pinched her leg. There are seven misunderstandings about BDSM that have been buried for a long time!

Is BDSM really a marginal thing? With such a roll of eyes, let's talk about how many people and friends have frankly exchanged this matter, and nothing else. If you must say that BDSM is a special minority sex addiction, then I won't accept babies!

The Journal of Sexual Medicine made a survey, and the result was purple sauce:

65% women fantasize about being controlled in bed.

47% of women fantasize about controlling others.

52% of female fantasies are tied up.

That is to say&; & amp

About 5 to 6 out of every 10 women are good at BDSM! I hope you won't be surprised by this result ~

Dr Jones said earnestly:

BDSM's fantasy is 100% normal, but many people are ashamed to talk about it. Actually, it's completely unnecessary. This is a health fantasy worth exploring.

You can recognize BDSM at a glance?

Hehe, then tell me who is around you? Hehe, here we go again. Maybe your best friend is, and you didn't do it at all! Please don't believe how sharp your eyes are in this matter. Do only people who look gloomy or dissolute like it? Bold underline "No"! ! !

Let's listen to what Dr. Jones said:

All kinds of people may like BDSM, including those who look serious. In fact, BDSM is actually attractive to these people because it provides them with opportunities to experience different personalities. Some people seem to be the most conservative, like BDSM.

Hey, are you sure you haven't watched too many worrying TV shows? If you think that the parents of BDSM people are violent, or sexually assaulted by criminals, or looked down upon by everyone around them, then I can only laugh without saying a word and move out of the Journal of Sexual Medicine again!

Studies have proved that BDSM lovers are as mentally healthy as others. The researchers concluded that we think BDSM is used for entertainment, not as a reflection of mental disorders.

So, dear, please don't let your imagination and compassion overflow. A sunny boy in a white shirt who grew up in a healthy family may be Shas who handcuffed a female ticket, a sweet little boy who has never been hurt, or enjoying ShasM who was tied up and driven away!

We must die for wool. How about associating BDSM with the word injury? In fact, as long as you do it right, people can be an emotional prescription ~

Dr Jones said that he often treated with BDSM. For couples who are usually very controlling, Jones will give them bedroom homework (other people's homework).

Those who have weak daily relationships gain more strength in role-playing. This way, starting from the bedroom, helps couples explore what it feels like to seize control and give up control, saving a lot of feelings.

Speaking of SM, are all the words that pop out of people's heads servants? I always feel that one person is obedient and one person is in charge. You are the wind, I am the sand, and I am the soil sample. The truth is not that simple, boy. On the one hand, the identity of master and servant is not fixed, and many people will switch freely between master and servant. On the other hand, unlike what many people think, leadership is not necessarily the role of controlling everything in bed.

In a healthy BDSM sex scene, obedient people can always control the audience because they have a secure password. A secure password refers to a password that can be given by either party when two people discuss in advance that a pause is needed. Because compliant people are the controlled party, they are more likely to need or want to use secure passwords. Every time a security code is released, BDSM's love must stop. Dr. Jones said.

Usually you just need to buy a condom and add a lubricant at most. You must stock all kinds of equipment, such as goggles, handcuffs, whips and ropes. Isn't that all glistening money?

Daily abuse, lifelong abuse? Once tied, you have to tie the rope every time after that?

Dear, I heard that you like Japanese food, but I have never seen you eat Japanese food for every meal!

So please put down your intolerance. If your Ta is a star abuser and you want to blend in with him, what's the hurry ~ ~

Teaching assistants don't need you to hug BDSM right away.

In fact, Ta also enjoys your usual love.

Dr Jones also has some suggestions:

If there is a plan, BDSM will be better. BDSM should never be carried out spontaneously or involuntarily, unless you and your partner have been together for a long time, and you are sure that your thoughts are the same. The best way is to discuss clearly what you want and what you don't want before and during love.

Easy to handle, seven misunderstandings have been calculated! In order to make the world more friendly and inclusive, in order to make the world more caring!