Unequal feelings are so tired.

It is impossible for men and women to pay for each other equally. One party must pay more, or even only one party is paying. But attracting the other person's Y at first is an advantage. Can you always keep the other person's attitude of paying without regrets? This can be very difficult.

1. Love between lovers is intermittent, not continuous.

Treating love without regrets will last longer. When we love each other, we can pay without return and accept each other's shortcomings unconditionally, which will make both sides feel dependent on each other. However, this feeling is not continuous, but will be produced in stages. It is precisely because of the staged production that the feeling of fresh excitement will be maintained and the intimate relationship will be more beautiful and exciting. We should know that two people who love each other deeply cannot love each other continuously, but love each other in stages. This kind of love is called "a tiny moment when a positive bell rings".

For example, when you feel strong, you are jealous of me, which is a manifestation of staged emotions. It's a moment or a fragment that expresses love for each other. Can you always mobilize this atmosphere and mood? No, therefore, love is a fragmented expression. There will be moments when you want to break up in anger, and there will be moments when you love to the extreme, as if to witness the love world except marriage proposal.

2. The more you give, the more you bear in the relationship.

Generally speaking, the more you pay, the more you care, or whoever is serious will lose. The ideal emotional model must be mutual pay and equal treatment. But in fact, in the pursuit stage, whoever takes the initiative, or in the love stage, is the relegation choice, such as getting married. Because of this inequality, the disadvantaged party will make desperate efforts to seek a kind of psychological comfort, but because of this unequal effort, your unequal relationship has arisen.

For example, you are the one who gives too much. You want to see Tom Cruise's Mission Impossible 6, but your girlfriend is not interested in spy movies and asks to see Louis Koo's Rebound Storm 3. At this time, whoever compromises, if you insist on the other side saying no, then go home. But on the other hand, you will definitely compromise. Why, because you care about your gains and losses, you are worried that your disobedience will get a reply like breaking up. Whether watching a movie or choosing a restaurant, traveling, buying a car or a house. Because of your compromise, and because the other party insists on eating, you have to compromise. From then on, the other party firmly controlled you. You feel unequal, but you can't help but compromise to prevent conflict.

Your relationship is seriously out of balance, and you need to satisfy each other.

Another requirement is that your relationship is more like two magnets with the same pole. You try to get close, but the other person is always on the other side. But when the other party has a certain initiative, you become heteropolar magnets again. The difference is that the other party has a base where you can stay, and you will always be attracted. You are tired of meeting each other's demands, and at the same time you are afraid that they will terminate your relationship. Your request will be ignored, and the casual words of the other party will be realized by your running in the notebook.

I believe many couples can put the above contents in the right place and find such a match. If you have this experience, it proves your unequal relationship. However, it should be noted that power imbalance describes more an objective power difference, which is different from emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is to consciously control each other by taking advantage of their own power. Power imbalance is not necessarily caused by subjective will.

Love has a refreshing period and a refreshing period.

When you first enter a relationship, you see the bright side, and there is only sweetness and passion in the relationship between the two sexes. But when you don't have endless words after a period of time, the key is that you won't feel comfortable but extremely embarrassed after silence. You were so looking forward to dating, but now you don't know where to date, and even your body is not as obsessed as it was. This is a sign of love burnout. Maybe the pace of modern society is too fast, and it takes seven years to get married. Feeling numb and bored with your partner is becoming more and more serious. At this time, the other party will have opinions on any behavior or characteristics that were full of love before. Love burnout may not happen at the same time, but it may also be caused by one party. At this time, the other party may receive such words: I am tired, I suggest you go away. It may be that the lack of passion and joy in life leads to the decline of burnout, or it may be that there is too much pressure in life or work, and there is no good outlet to transfer the pressure to one's feelings, which leads to fatigue and burnout. Once this happens, we must solve it in time. If left unchecked, it may become more and more disappointed and eventually end in failure.