My boyfriend was cold and violent to me, and he apologized and ignored me. It hurts.

1, don't always use the tone of evaluation when communicating with each other.

First of all, it must be clear that people who use cold violence are actually very uncomfortable, although people who suffer from cold violence will be even more uncomfortable. When we face the cold violence of our partner, don't always say such things to each other: "Will you stop doing this, do you know you are hurting people?" "You always do this, you can't solve the problem at all" "You don't know how to deal with the problem, you just run away, you are really a coward" and so on. Although you are right, your tone will make the other person feel uncomfortable and arouse again.

When the other person is cold and violent, you can try another expression, such as saying to the other person, "We haven't spoken for several days. What's on your mind? Let's talk about it. " "I don't think it's anyone's fault that we lack communication, but we should talk about it, right?" At this time, the other party will receive your message and feel much more comfortable.

2. Learn to express your feelings to each other. When the other person is cold and violent, your mood will definitely be very bad. As a person, I can understand. Don't fight each other with cold violence just because you are in a bad mood. You should soften yourself first and play a victim. At this time, you know very well that if the stalemate continues, this relationship may be over.

You can euphemistically express your feelings to each other, for example, "We haven't spoken for several days, and I feel very lonely. Please chat with me. " "It's hard these days, and I want you to hug me." And so on. When the other person gradually removes his psychological defense, he will slowly express his true feelings to you. At this time, you can speak your mind boldly.

3. Learn to ask each other for help.

Everyone knows that cold violence can't solve the problem. If the other person does nothing, it may not be that he doesn't want to do anything to please you, but that he doesn't know what to do. At this time, you might as well tell him directly what you want. If he is just angry and uses cold violence, he doesn't want to force you to break up with cold violence. Then he will respond positively to your request.

If you think the other person spends too little time with you, don't say to him in a venting tone, "Can you spend more time with me?" There is nothing wrong with this sentence, but the scope of "accompanying you" is a bit large, and he doesn't know how you want him to accompany you. You might as well tell him, "I want you to go to the movies with me once a week", "I want you to chat with me for an hour every night", "I want you to go out with me more" and so on. So he knows what he's going to do instead of leaving you alone.

Whether boys or girls use cold violence, it is actually very hurtful. When they use cold violence against you, don't treat each other in the same way. Everyone's heart is made of meat, so it's no big deal for everyone to meet each other halfway. Falling in love is not easy, but do it and cherish it!