What if my mother-in-law comes?

1, generous to her mother-in-law, not stingy to her mother-in-law. No matter at ordinary times or during the Chinese New Year holidays, we should keep giving gifts and making small money. Although she treats you badly and gives you a hard look, she won't refuse if you give her something and money. Although she will say that you are wasting money! And what to send, you must tell your husband in advance, and it is best to meet the economic requirements put forward by your husband when he is present. If you ask too much, you can settle accounts with him and come up with a more reasonable figure. And how much money you give your mother-in-law, how much money you have to give your mother. My mother-in-law doesn't need to know this, but my husband should know it, so that when he makes unreasonable demands, he will carefully consider it, because there are not one, but two. During the Spring Festival, I often say it's time to give money to the elderly, and my husband agrees. Then I said that both sides are parents, and that's the same, both are 2000 yuan, and my husband is a little unhappy. Then I said, let's spend the New Year with my mother-in-law, eat and live, and give more, just 3000 in-laws and 2000 in-laws, okay? There is nothing unhappy about him now. In this way, 5000 yuan went out at once, and there was not much left, so he didn't mention what to buy for his family or how much to give to anyone. This is just a way. Mm people are flexible according to their actual situation, and both mother-in-law and husband actually have to be coaxed. 2. Mastering economic power First of all, the economy must be stable. Your family income must not be taken care of by your mother-in-law (of course, it is also appropriate to give pocket money or filial piety to your family every month). This does not mean that you absolutely control your husband's economy, which will also make men disgusted. It is not easy to have a good grasp of the economy without letting her husband feel bound. In our family, each of us has his own salary card. My money is my money and his money is mine, so ... we need to buy things, and we all go out together. He pays the bills, whether it is for food, rice, daily necessities, clothes, natural gas, water, electricity, goods and television. He pays the bill, I keep the money myself, and I am only responsible for the expenses when I am alone, basically every day. Of course, sometimes in the supermarket, I also make an order once or twice. In fact, men like to be big heads outside, and men pay the bill. He felt that he had face and style and asked his wife to pay the bill. What's the matter? Paying the bill occasionally will also give him some freshness and think that I am considerate. Of course, in recent years, under the pretext of buying funds, I searched his money every month. I made a lot of money at first, and I also saved money (we used to be moonlight). He was quite satisfied with this, so he offered me money to buy it, and later lost it, and he would go out and lend me money to make up the position, hehe! The method I said may not be suitable for everyone. What I want to say is that it is important to find an effective way to keep a man's money without making him unhappy. 3. "The wicked complain first" If you realize that some of your words and deeds make your mother-in-law unhappy, then try to "confess" to her husband before her mother-in-law starts complaining. Isn't there a saying that confession is lenient? If you admit your mistakes and take the initiative to attack, then the biggest mistakes will be discounted, not to mention how big mistakes can be in the family? Just a few small things. First show what you did badly, then say why you did it, then act like a spoiled brat and throw the question back to your husband. If your mother-in-law is angry, because her husband has preconceived the truth of the matter (in fact, she is on your side to some extent), as long as you properly express your apology, the rest of the average husband will take the initiative to help you negotiate with her mother-in-law. If the mother-in-law is full, it may make your husband impatient, and in serious cases, it may make him quarrel with his mother. Then, haha, just watch the play. The more noisy the mother-in-law, the more unreasonable her husband feels. This view is actually very helpful to you in the future. Don't gloat around, try to stop the fight properly and express your apologies appropriately. The more wronged you are, the more troublesome your mother-in-law is, the more unreasonable her husband thinks her mother is, and the more difficult you are to get along with. Of course, afterwards, you should show your gentleness in front of your husband, then show that you made their relationship nervous, and so on. Maybe your husband will comfort you! This action of "the wicked complain first" seems to be biting people. In fact, for the average mother-in-law, it is good to eliminate the knot of her mother-in-law. For the evil mother-in-law, this trick is a useful trick to make you invincible. Everyone should pay attention, hehe. What do you think of her mother-in-law? 2 mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along. Family income, mother-in-law can't take care of it. This does not mean that she absolutely controls her husband's economy and manages him, but that she can't let her husband feel bound. This degree must be well grasped. Don't argue with your mother-in-law or in front of your husband. No matter what conflicts occur, you can keep silent, but don't argue with your mother-in-law, because it won't do you any good except anger her mother-in-law and her husband. No matter how tough and unruly your mother-in-law is, she is also her mother, just like your child is not good at all, but if outsiders really say that he is not good, you will always be unhappy. 3. Be generous to your mother-in-law. You can't be stingy with your mother-in-law Whether it's a normal day or a Chinese New Year holiday, gifts and small money should be kept. You always give her things and money, and she will be better to you gradually.