How to treat "my married life is not good, my family wants to break up, and now I have money to give up"?

Life is like drinking water, you know it in your heart, okay? No matter what others say, the joys and sorrows are still in your heart. You need to have a strong heart to adapt to various realities.

In adversity, like stubborn grass born in the cold wind, stick out your head bravely and follow the light of the sun. When spring returns to the earth and everything recovers, you should also guard against arrogance and rashness and live as usual.

Because in the end, you will find one thing: few people can accompany you to the end. If you don't expect more, you won't be so disappointed.

Rao is the person you thought would be eternal in your life at first, but you can still dilute love in time. For example, if you get married, you will lose something.

Before Qi Lin got married, she lived a happy life in her parents' house. Her parents didn't say they held her in their hands, but at least they never treated her badly. She is a very filial girl, and almost half of the money she earned before she got married was sent to her parents at home.

In fact, some people once said that she was stupid, because a younger brother in her family said that she gave the money and her parents would not give it to her in the future. She also said at the time: "Give it to your parents. I never thought about getting it back. "

She once regarded her family as a treasure, and thought that her parents and younger brother were the most important people in life, because blood relationship meant never giving up.

Unexpectedly, sometimes family ties can be fragile. Even before experiencing a big storm, she clearly saw the changes and eccentricity of her parents.

It all started when she got married. When she got married, her parents said a word: the married daughter was splashed with water. She felt a little sad for her parents' words, but after thinking about it, she felt that they were just talking.

Yes, in her cognition, which parent doesn't love their children?

Therefore, after marriage, she still went back to her parents' home more often and more recently, so she could go back when she was free, but gradually, her mother at home was not very happy.

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Her mother's original words were, since you are married, don't always run to your mother's house. I don't know how bad she is at her in-laws' house. Did she come back because she was angry?

She just wants to be more filial. I didn't expect her parents to think so. Her parents are both good-looking people, which she understands very well, and her marriage is not what her parents want.

Because before getting married, her parents introduced her to a boy with good family conditions, saying that they were satisfied with her and were willing to take 200 thousand bride price, but she didn't want to, because the boy couldn't see it at a glance.

Her parents said that as long as you can see it at a glance, it won't be affected, and that boy has a good character, ability and willingness to endure hardships. There is nothing wrong with marrying him.

But after thinking about it, she doesn't want to marry such a person. Although her parents praised him, she still refused. Not long after, she met her current husband under the introduction of a junior high school classmate.

Her husband's family condition is very poor, worse than her, but sometimes it's so strange to like someone. From the first time I saw him, she felt that they had endless words.

After confirming the relationship, she told her parents about it at home. Unsurprisingly, her parents disagreed, saying that the conditions at home were too bad, but she could not bear to part with her insistence. Finally, her parents said they wanted a bride price of100000, and they agreed.

She never told her parents that in fact, 30,000 of the100,000 bride price was saved by herself before marriage.

Because her husband's father has been ill for several years, she spent a lot of money, all by herself, and she took out all her savings before marriage without such colorful gifts.

And this hundred thousand bride price is all in the hands of parents. He is just a few quilts. She doesn't care either. At that time, she valued feelings more than money, whether it was family or love.

It was not until after marriage that she went home more and more times and her parents began to change their faces that she realized that something was wrong.

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Parents often blame her for not being sensible, saying that if she had married the boy they introduced, she would have a good life now, and she would have to compare every time she went home, which made her gradually fidgety.

Because in her eyes, although their economy is not very good now after marriage, her husband is very kind to her and is working hard for this family. She thinks they are still young and there is hope for everything.

Why do parents always throw cold water on them? I have repeatedly said that the person she married is poor, and I am afraid that there will be no good life in this life and I cannot enjoy it with them.

She was unhappy and didn't treat her parents as outsiders, so she expressed her dissatisfaction, saying that they should not only look at money, but also look at her happiness.

It was the only time to defend herself, which made her mother cry all day, saying that she was married now and her wings were hard, which in turn taught them a lesson. This is unfilial.

She was wronged when she heard this. Who doesn't know that she is filial? Why would a mother say that about herself?

When I left, my mother told her not to go back for the time being. She was angry, too, and really didn't go back for half a year. Half a year later, my mother called and said that my brother wanted to buy a car and asked her to take some money out.

When she asked, the family conditions were not good, and her brother wanted to buy more than 200,000 cars, and now he still needed 10. She talked about her current situation, saying that a car is actually a means of transportation, so you don't have to buy it so expensive, just buy it with your money.

Mother hung up the phone in a rage, saying that she wouldn't help, and that she was putting on airs in front of her parents.

Anyway, it's useless for her to explain, but she didn't expect that this incident made her mother so obsessed that when she went back, her parents were eating, pretending not to see her enter the door and eating their own food.

In the past, she would feel that she was their child and shouldn't care so much, but then she suddenly remembered what her parents had been doing, and she got angry and turned around and went out.

Before I went far, I heard my mother's scolding behind me, and tears immediately fell down: When did the relationship with my parents become like this?

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Break off the relationship, which is what her mother said, saying that they don't have such a daughter. After her parents said this, she began to reflect on these years.

Someone has always told her that her parents prefer boys to girls, including her going out to work before marriage. The money sent back is for her younger brother at home, and the bride price is for her younger brother.

But she didn't listen to others at that time. She thought it was deliberate slander. When I think about it later, I feel that everything seems to be like this.

There is a kind of "use value" hidden in the kindness of parents, just like sending money back before marriage, so parents are good to her.

After marriage, because her husband's family condition is not good, her parents' attitude towards her is also a big turn. Many times, even she feels that her parents look down on her and always say that her husband is useless.

At this time, parents always compare the boys they introduced.

In fact, she later heard that the boy was only from a good family, but that was earned by his parents. He was incompetent and macho, and began to beat his wife. I have been married for less than half a year, and I am going to divorce.

But this matter, parents never say.

In the middle years, she had little contact with her parents, mainly because she was chilling. Later, after the family's economic conditions improved, they bought a garage in the city, and their parents' attitude changed, but she disagreed: "I have a bad life after marriage, and my parents are going to break up." Now I have money, but I have given up. "

She said that the mutual support of two people over the years made her realize that the best person in the world is her husband, who has always treated her as before, and her husband only wrote her name in the garage at home.

As for kinship, those feelings that she once regarded as treasures have been covered with dust in the years, and she is not going to erase them or pick them up.

She is no longer the simple child at the beginning, nor the little girl who only knows how to cry when something happens. She has the ability to distinguish right from wrong, knowing who is good for herself and who is not good for herself.

Cherish those who are good to yourself, stay away from those who are bad to yourself, and don't let them affect the life you have now. It is already a very lucky thing, and family is no exception.