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It is unbearable to blush in front of people when you step into society. In fact, I know there is nothing to be afraid of, and I want to change myself and communicate freely with others, but I just can't. Sometimes when I talk to people I don't know very well, I feel "Gordon" in my heart, my heart beats faster and my blood rushes straight to my face. I don't want to say my embarrassment, but I also call others inexplicable, and I am often laughed at by others, which makes me scared when I associate with people, and I dare not associate with people. However, they are eager to communicate with others. In their body, they often experience two different self-wars: one is shyness, cowardice and lack of self-confidence, and the other is forcing themselves to change themselves. So I feel that life is really too heavy and tired. This is a mental illness called acrophobia.

Everyone will feel nervous or excited when interacting with unfamiliar or more important people, which will cause sympathetic nerve excitement and increase the secretion of catecholamine such as norepinephrine, thus making people's heart beat faster and capillaries dilate, that is, blush. This is a normal reaction in interpersonal communication, and it will become accustomed to it over time. However, due to your lack of self-confidence, you pay special attention to the evaluation of others and your performance in front of others, so that you are particularly concerned about blushing. I'm afraid people will say you because of this, and I don't want to blush, but I can't get rid of it. Seeing people blush becomes your heart disease. Before you associate with people, you are worried that you will blush. When dealing with people, you will seriously experience whether you have blushed. Over time, the corresponding areas of the brain will form a sense of excitement. As soon as you enter the environment of communication with people, you will feel hot on your face and anxious inside. Coupled with other people's comments or ridicule, you will be more nervous and afraid to meet people, thus forming acrophobia.

Erythrophobia can be treated. First of all, you should take a natural attitude towards blushing, allow it to appear and exist, don't resist, don't suppress, don't hide, don't worry and worry about blushing, so as to eliminate the tension and worry caused by blushing and interrupt the vicious circle caused by it.

Secondly, we should exercise our self-confidence. Most people who blush easily in front of others lack self-confidence and have an inferiority complex. Therefore, strengthening the cultivation of self-confidence and overcoming inferiority complex can play a fundamental role.

We should change the way of thinking that we only see our own shortcomings and compare our own shortcomings with the advantages of others. Conversely, we should always think about our strengths or advantages, compare our strengths with others' weaknesses, and gradually change our views on ourselves. While changing your view of yourself, turn your attention to the activities that you are interested in and can best reflect your talents. Find something easy and sure to finish first, and you will have a little happiness after success. When you are finished, you will determine your next goal in the same way. In this way, every time you succeed, you will strengthen your self-confidence, and gradually your self-confidence will become stronger and stronger.

Fingers are long and short, and people can't be perfect. People's value is mainly reflected in exerting their potential as much as possible through their own efforts. Take shortcomings, failures and ridicule of others as a common thing, take it as a driving force to improve yourself, have your own views on other people's evaluation and discussion, and do "correct what you have, and encourage what you don't have" without being influenced by people's words.

People will feel inferior because they find themselves inferior to others through comparison and introspection. And success also requires some knowledge and ability. Therefore, if a person wants to finally overcome his inferiority complex, he must face up to his own shortcomings while building self-confidence, enrich his knowledge and experience by learning more and doing more, and learn the methods and skills of interacting with others.

In addition, psychological training can help overcome it. The specific method is as follows:

Step 1: List all kinds of scenes that can make you blush in order from light to heavy, copy them to different cards, put the scenes that won't make you blush in front, put the scenes that make you blush in the back, and arrange the cards in order.

Step 2: Do relaxation training. The method is to sit in a comfortable seat and take deep breaths regularly to relax the whole body. After relaxing, take out the first card in the above series and imagine the above scene. The more vivid you imagine, the better the image.

Step 3: If you feel a little uneasy and blushing, stop imagining, take a deep breath and let yourself relax again. After completely relaxing, re-imagine the scene of failure just now. If anxiety and blushing appear again, stop and relax, and so on, until the scene on the card won't make you feel uneasy and blushing again.

Step 4: Continue to the next scene (the next card) that makes you more uneasy and blushing in the same way. Note that every time you enter the imagination of the next card, you should take it as the standard that you no longer feel uneasy and blush when you imagine the last card, otherwise you may not be able to enter the next stage.

Step 5: When you imagine the most disturbing and blushing scene, and you don't feel blushing, you can do the field exercises in the order from light to heavy. If you feel uneasy and blushing at the scene, you can also take a deep breath and relax to fight it until you stop blushing and continue the next exercise.

Why do I blush every time I talk to others? It's a little awkward in front of others now. ... so it's best to go it alone, no matter what others say. Others say, so you can't blush. ...