How to be a gentle and kind person?

To be gentle, you must first learn to control your temper, be calm when things happen, and restrain your anger on the spot when you want to get angry, and be gentle and humble to others. Kindness, I think, is everyone's innate nature. It's just that some people may choose the wrong direction because of their interest. Then let me talk about the specific practice! I think the first thing to be a gentle person is to read more books. Reading can make people understand a lot of truth and let go of a lot of hostility. People are violent and can't control their temper. I think it's all because of less reading. For example, teachers in universities are polite, gentle and modest, but some people who drop out of school early in society can't. I recommend you to read some Tang and Song poems, which can cultivate sentiment. I have always felt that those young ladies who love poetry are always good at emitting this gentle and dignified light!

Later, if you want to be a kind person, I remember Uncle Bing once said that "kindness is a kind of nature, and kindness is a choice". As the saying goes, at the beginning of life, human nature is good. So as I said above, people do bad things only because they are blinded by immediate interests. So I think if you want to be a kind person, you must learn to weigh the relationship between your own interests and the interests of others! In order to make the right choice, you can learn to give up part of your interests to help others at critical times. There is also learning to put yourself in others' shoes. While thinking of yourself, think of others, and don't patronize yourself. Of course, you may say that to be a kind person, you must always give up yourself and help others. This is terrible! What I want to tell you is that the causal cycle, rain or shine. One day your efforts will be rewarded in another unexpected way. Perfecting others is actually perfecting yourself.