"Wife, my mother is old, please let her go." My husband asked me to accommodate my mother-in-law for more than ten years. Should I?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law plays an important role in every family. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a lot to do with the happiness of marriage. A happy married life is not only for husband and wife, but also for a vital person, who determines whether a husband and wife are happy or not. That person is the mother-in-law. Meeting a mother-in-law who can carry it clearly will add luster. Meeting a mother-in-law who is not so easy to get along with will only make the life of husband and wife full of contradictions.

Ms. Du's emotional self-report:

My husband and I have been married for ten years. People say it must be good to be married for ten years. How else can you get along for so long? In fact, it is impossible to say that there is no emotion, but these are really long stories, and my life is not as happy as they think. Only my own heart can understand this pain.

My in-laws only have one son, my husband. My in-laws have loved this son since childhood, and my husband listens to her mother-in-law, regardless of size. From then on, everything from college to work was arranged by her mother-in-law. As for her husband, she also thinks obedience is a kind of filial piety, and relatives also praise him as a sensible and filial person. But all this, from the time I married him, I discovered the bitterness behind this filial piety.

My husband and I met at work. At that time, he was also very kind to me and our relationship was very stable. But actually, my mother-in-law didn't like me very much at first. When my husband and I fell in love, many difficulties arose. At that time, my husband was persistent, and later I persuaded my mother-in-law to accept me. After marriage, I did my duty as a daughter-in-law. However, no matter what I do, it seems that it is difficult to satisfy my mother-in-law, not that I don't like bad food.

Sometimes I buy a dress I like, which is not very expensive, but my mother-in-law is not happy. She said I was extravagant. When I get married, I shouldn't think about how to dress myself. I should spend more time on my family. Even sometimes my mother-in-law will say, why don't you have a house? I don't know how to save water in 60 yuan last month. Anyway, my mother-in-law was biased against me from the beginning.

Even if you endure it again, in the face of such a mother-in-law who doesn't know how to care about her, there will be times when she can't control her emotions and then have conflicts with her mother-in-law. But at this time, her husband will be eccentric and tell me to leave her mother-in-law alone every time. It's fucking hard. I just know that in marriage, if a man can't handle this mother-in-law relationship well and can't adjust it, then he will only stand on his mother's side. This wife will get it.

Although my life will be very difficult, I have been forbearing for the sake of having a complete family for my children. This forbearance is ten years. My mother-in-law is still as strong as before, and I am not so weak and easy to bully. My mother-in-law dares to criticize, so do I. Last weekend, my mother was in poor health. I bought something to see her, but my mother-in-law said on the side that I ate inside and picked it outside, so I should be filial to my parents. I had a few words with her, but my mother-in-law complained about her husband. It's the same trick every time My husband didn't ask anything, just said my fault, and then the language was not very good: "Wife, my mother is old, please let her go." I lost my temper and shouted, "honey, I have let her go for ten years."

It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a difficult book to read. Many times, the important person who regulates the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a man who is a son and a husband. If, as in the article, every time his mother quarrels with his wife, he always supports his mother indiscriminately and unconditionally, thinking that his mother is right, which will inevitably break a woman's heart. As for the mother-in-law, she is also strong and unreasonable. As a daughter-in-law, she may put up with it for a while, but she really can. It is not easy for everyone. If we can think from the perspective of others, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more harmonious. Therefore, men play a great role in the harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.