How to live a good life after retirement

The elderly must first manage their own affairs; Insisting on doing things beyond one's ability will not only miss things, but also get into trouble and even have accidents. It is better to live a leisurely life, indulge yourself, play dumb, be confused and entertain yourself. There are many risk-free and fun things for the elderly to do, such as playing chess, playing the piano, painting and calligraphy, playing the piano and singing, drinking and drinking tea, singing and writing poems, surfing the Internet, climbing high and looking far, traveling and cooking ... Click on the picture to see the original picture. Ten years ago, I was old and retired. Finally unloaded the heavy mission.

The life of our generation is very difficult: the environment is bitter, the work is tired, the salary is low and the burden is heavy.

Our generation is also very heroic, with high consciousness, broad mind, heavy responsibility and great contribution, which has propped up the most difficult period of the country.

Now retired, many people continue to contribute, give full play to the waste heat and serve the society; Some people start their own businesses for the second time, earning both fame and fortune; Some people scrimp and save; Some people serve their children and their grandchildren so that they can wait on their beds when they can't move. ...

My wife and I retired at the same time, "both husband and wife returned home" and entered their old age. No contribution to society, no waste heat, no hoarding of goods, no efforts for children and grandchildren, no money, no accumulation of heritage. On the contrary, we strive to live a free, relaxed, self-help and confident old age: to travel and enjoy our sunset life.

We spend summer in the north and winter in the south. Travel all over the country in spring and autumn. Ideal route, completely self-help. Go there, live there, eat there and play there. Be unconstrained and unconstrained, go its own way. See the beautiful scenery, eat delicious food, fully enjoy the beautiful life that society gives back to us, make up for the shortcomings of our generation, and find ourselves lost.

After entering old age, our body and mind will become more and more fragile. Aging is an irresistible natural phenomenon. Don't fantasize about living a hundred years old. Time waits for no one, everything should be arranged in advance as far as possible, make full use of this golden time that you can control, do what you originally wanted to do but didn't do, and complete those long-standing dreams, so as not to regret lying in bed.

Retirement means that our social and family responsibilities have been completed, and it is time for society and children to take care of us. But don't expect too much from your relatives, your children and even the society, and prepare for the worst. "Without hope, there is no disappointment". What we give is unconditional, but what we take is conditional. Don't fantasize about how good the society is to you, how filial children are, and you can't pin your "happy old age" on your children. Instead, we should arrange our later life according to our own conditions, social reality and our own abilities. As the saying goes, "There is no dutiful son before a long bed." Children have their own jobs and earn money to support their families. I can't stay with you for long. So be prepared to overcome the difficulties yourself. Don't take affection too seriously, don't send too many invitations, and keep a certain distance from your children. Don't flatter yourself and increase your emotional burden.

It is our bounden duty and obligation to raise children. It is also their responsibility and obligation for children to support the elderly. But the two are not necessarily causal, and the latter is bound by morality and law. We should admit that most children can be filial, but we don't deny that some unfilial children also exist objectively. If you are too emotional and human, only you will get hurt. Of course, when unpleasant things happen, we should not be weak and give up. We should learn to protect our rights and interests with legal weapons.

Our ability is getting weaker and weaker, and there are more and more things we can't do. Don't be a hero, ask for trouble, and don't easily promise to do something for others. Say less "yes" and more "no". Don't do stressful and burdensome things, and arrange less fixed tasks for yourself. "More than one thing is better than less", and we should give it up bit by bit. As a netizen said, it is simple to be "relaxed": mind your own business, don't worry about other people's business, and don't worry about God's business.

My relative is 75 years old and used to be in good health. She loves her granddaughter very much and regards her as the apple of her eye. Every time my granddaughter calls, I want to cry. After finishing high school and going to college, I am thrifty. But after her son divorced and her granddaughter died with her mother, she suddenly got encephalopathy and almost died. Her granddaughter is still happily going to college and her son has a new family. Originally healthy, she was lying alone in the hospital bed, accompanied only by her wife. Old people should not be too obsessed with anything, or they will suffer the consequences, and no one is pitiful.

My colleague saved a lot of money after retirement, but he was still full of ambition and tried his best to make money. Go to substitute classes for more than 30 classes every week. He likes computers and traveling, but he is reluctant to spend money and has no extra time. He thinks there is plenty of time, so we can talk about it later. But only two years later, he died of cancer. He was lying in the hospital bed, and when he remembered it, he burst into tears and regretted it.

One of my predecessors, a prestigious teacher, substituted for more than ten years after retirement until cerebral embolism. Earn tens of thousands of dollars, calculate it and give it all to your children and grandchildren. They want to get married and buy a house, but the money is not enough, and Lao Tzu's money is idle in the passbook. Why not take it out! In the end, my health failed and the money I earned was gone. It was the reminders of their predecessors that kept them from repeating the same mistakes.

Most elderly people are not convinced of their old age, confident, conceited, persistent and infatuated. I always thought I was as omnipotent as I was when I was young. There is a lot of consideration about doing things smoothly, but little consideration about risks. In fact, most elderly people will experience different degrees of aging after the age of 60, such as physical decline, memory decline, limited thinking, slow response and so on. The probability of accidents has increased, and the psychological endurance has weakened. It is no longer suitable to do some complicated, tedious, responsible and accurate work in time and space. Otherwise, why is it stipulated to retire?

When I was at the seaside of Yintan, a pair of retired people bought a house at the seaside to spend their old age safely. What a beautiful thing. But I had to take my grandson on summer vacation to play in the sea, and the child drowned. The beautiful old age turned into a nightmare, and I ruined the happiness of my old age. Two such things happened that summer.

When several old ladies in the community are responsible for taking care of their grandchildren, they often talk about their family affairs together, while the children play around, enjoying themselves. But when I got home, I found a three-year-old boy missing. I haven't heard from her for years. It is conceivable that grandma's old age is bitter or sweet.

Therefore, I think that we elderly people should first manage our own affairs well and make less trouble to society and children, that is, contribute. Insisting on doing things beyond one's ability will not only miss things, but also get into trouble and even have accidents. It is better to live a leisurely life, indulge yourself, play dumb, be confused and entertain yourself.