Why are children unwilling to communicate with their parents after junior high school? If you are a junior high school student, can you tell me what you think?

Teenagers from junior high school to senior high school are called rebellious period. People at this stage are the most ignorant. In many things, they just like to pretend to know everything, because oh, they always like to sing against others, especially adults (teachers and parents). Do you think they always feel wronged and unwilling to do what they say? That's why they call it rebellion! ! ! Although it is different from abnormal psychology, it has some characteristics of abnormal psychology. If it is not corrected in time, it will be very unfavorable to the growth of teenagers. Editor's note: The rebellious period of modern children comes early. "The child suddenly seems to be a different person, which is really difficult to manage." This is a lot of parents' rebellion against their children, but I don't know why. In fact, all this is a manifestation of the arrival of children's rebellious period. In China, the age of 1 1- 12 is defined as early puberty. Because children in this period are difficult to manage, they are also called "manic period" and "difficult period" abroad. Due to the increasing pressure of entering a higher school and interpersonal relationship, the psychology of adolescent students has changed. If there is no correct guidance, children will easily encounter skills and psychological obstacles in cognition, understanding and application, especially under the influence of some abnormal external factors, which will often stimulate their subconscious resistance and stimulate them to take resistance to the outside world and form "rebellion". According to the survey, because the environment of today's children is much more complicated than their parents, their rebellious period of youth is 1-2 years earlier than their parents, and they are also under greater pressure. Therefore, when children are "rebellious", parents need not worry too much. They should understand children and pay attention to adjusting their education methods. Why is it difficult to discipline children in the rebellious period of youth? To know why, parents need to go deep into their children's hearts and understand what their children are thinking. After children enter adolescence, psychological changes are caused by physiological changes. As soon as something happens, they begin to think, form immature views and begin to doubt their parents' words. However, after parents' authority was shaken, it was difficult to adapt for a while, unwilling to lower their social status and adjust their educational methods to face their children. In this regard, children will have resistance and parents will find it difficult to adjust. Faced with these children at the crossroads, parents should be more patient, careful and attentive in education. Edit this paragraph (1) to avoid the misunderstanding of bipolar education. Parents should treat their children's rebellious youth dialectically, which is a critical period for the formation of their world outlook, and their personality and creativity are rising freely. At the same time, due to the limitations of children's physical and mental development and education, many of their ideas are immature and even extreme, which requires external education to guide children correctly. However, in real education, some parents easily fall into the misunderstanding of educational polarization. Myth 1: A general strike. Some parents are annoyed with their children's rebellious words and deeds such as talking back and disobedience, and feel that if their children's "evil energy" is not suppressed, their children may become worse. So parents took tough measures, either beating or scolding. Gradually, on the surface, the child returned to the "good boy" who did what he was told. In fact, in his heart, the door to communication with his parents has been closed. Myth 2: Let yourself go. In reality, some parents face the children who are difficult to teach, and after several times of discipline, they have little effect, lose confidence and begin to let their children go with the flow. At this time, regardless of the child's words and deeds and thoughts, parents no longer ask and guide. Over time, children are adversely affected and their behavior is biased. When parents regret it, they find that they have delayed their children's life. Edit this paragraph (2) After delegating power to children and entering the rebellious period of youth, children are particularly eager to be recognized and respected by the outside world. Therefore, parents should pay attention to delegating various rights to their children to help them transition from ignorance to maturity. Autonomy "you should", "you must" and "what do you know" are the mantra of many parents. Parents are advised to talk as little as possible about rebellious children. Children who think they are adults in their hearts will not accept such orders. Many parents have told their children the right to speak, such as "sweeping the road without going to college". Although it is for the good of the children, my ears are covered with cocoons. In the rebellious period, they can say that these words are "impeccable". At this time, parents should talk less and listen more to understand what their children are thinking. Time control children in this period are eager to have their own small world. Therefore, parents should not make their own decisions and arrange their children's time according to their own wishes. They should leave time for the children themselves. For unreasonable arrangements, parents should make suggestions in a negotiated tone, and never completely deny their children. Some important events in the voting family, such as moving and buying a house, may wish to discuss with the children, consider their feelings and seek their opinions. In a family with a democratic atmosphere, children can generally approach their parents on their own initiative. After children with privacy enter junior high school, some parents find that children who used to tell the truth to themselves are less and less interested in themselves, and children begin to have their own locked diaries and personal letters. Professor Xu said that if children really don't want to communicate with their parents, they don't have to be too reluctant, especially not to pry into their privacy. Respect for children earned respect for themselves. Edit this paragraph (3) Parent-child communication skills Parents will find it difficult to communicate with children who are obviously rebellious. Here are some practical parent-child communication skills. Respect the parents of children, don't always stare at their weaknesses, and don't compare their shortcomings with the strengths of other children. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents. Empathy parents also came from the rebellious period of youth, but not as obvious as children now, so in the face of children's inexplicable behavior, we may wish to empathize and think about why children are like this. With * * *, you will understand children and find the crux of the problem. Avoid communicating with children in their studies, and parents should not always focus on academic performance, which will only make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business. It is certainly irrational for parents to educate their children with emotions, which will lead to more resistance of children. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, irritable and not calm. When you calm down, you can communicate with your children. Allowing children to make mistakes is a critical period for children to form their own opinions. Small mistakes are inevitable. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make mistakes and suffer losses, and don't tie their hands and feet too much. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children. Children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can exert a subtle influence on children. Reduce the burden on children. Parents have the idea of "looking forward to their children's success and looking forward to their daughters' success". Some parents even impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and their children have to receive training they don't want when they come back from school, so that their children can't get a good mental relaxation, which brings great mental stress to their children, leading to their aversion to life and early rebellion. I hope parents can give them proper time to play while studying!