My husband earns millions of dollars a year, but he doesn't want to spend 200 thousand to buy a house for my brother. Should I get a divorce?

First of all, after you and your husband get married, all your income belongs to the couple's property. Your husband earns 1 million a year, which means you earn 500 thousand a year. You have the right to dispose of half of the marital property. Therefore, you can ask your husband for money aboveboard, and the money belongs to you legally.

Secondly, your husband and your brother are related. Apart from kinship, your husband has no legal obligation to your brother, so your brother's marriage really has nothing to do with your husband. It is understandable that your husband is willing to take money out of kindness and unwilling to take money. The divorce is a bit of a storm in a teacup.

Finally, there is no legal obligation between you and your brother. Legally, your husband is obviously more important than your brother. Are you putting the cart before the horse in order to divorce your brother and husband?

To sum up, it is estimated that you are the legendary "crazy devil who protects your brother" and are willing to sacrifice everything for your brother. In fact, this value is problematic. It is true to be kind to your family and attach importance to your family, but you can't live without principles. At this point, your husband is actually more principled than you.

My husband works in municipal engineering, earning about 6.5438+0.5 million a year, but the cycle is particularly long and hard, and sometimes he has to cook his own glue. I always wanted him to take my mother's brother with me. At first, he was worried that my brother couldn't suffer, but our family guaranteed him that he could be dismissed if he didn't do well. Later, my brother worked for 1 month and always said that his brother-in-law loved to find fault with him. He did a good job, but his brother-in-law said it was not good, and he didn't scold the workers.

For this matter, the two of us quarreled many times. The young man's skin is tender, so he has to take his time. How can you be like him, like a cow when you get on stage? Later, my brother was so wronged that our family decided not to rely on my husband anymore. Now my brother has opened his own canteen, which is doing well. But my brother is getting married, but the woman wants a bride price of 200 thousand. My parents took out all their savings and the woman wanted a house. I quietly gave all my 800,000 savings to my brother.

But I still need a 200,000 car. I borrowed it from my husband, and he didn't agree. I said, aren't you going to give me 200 thousand a year? Consider it an advance. My husband almost hit me. Mr. Bai Zi, I can't get through this marriage. I want a divorce. He is so ignorant that he obviously doesn't regard my mother's family as relatives. I am very angry now. (Please help, the material comes from fans' private letter submission, exclusive authorization, plagiarism will be investigated, welcome to share your views in the comment area, and your words may warm ta's heart. )

Girl, please remember that marriage is a matter of two people, and more importantly, it is necessary to win. Love you and respect your family, but not accept it unconditionally. Li Shangyin has an ancient poem "Late Tang Dynasty", which contains a poem: God pities grass, and the world values late love. For you, I hope you can cherish your present life and your hard-won feelings.

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As a married woman who also has a younger brother, I think it is unwise for you to choose divorce because your husband is unwilling to buy a house for his younger brother with 200 thousand. Because, to put it bluntly, even if you divorce your husband now, your brother can't solve the problem of buying a house, and you will lose your marriage because of anger, which is not worth the candle.

Going back to the fact that my husband is unwilling to pay for buying a house for his younger brother, I understand your grievance and disappointment, because we all had fantasies. After marriage, what you have is mine, and you have to help my family. However, we don't know that real marriage is very realistic, and everything is like an invisible game.

Although your brother needs your help in buying a house, you can't lose your mind on impulse. After a calm analysis, we will know whether we should be angry about it.

Husband's annual income is one million, which shows that his economic contribution to the family is still great and can give you a rich material life. So, as a family member, have you done your part for your family? Still enjoying everything provided by her husband with a clear conscience, and never thought about relying on myself. With this in mind, I want to share a story with you.

My colleague's sister married a rich man. We joke with our colleagues and ask her for it when we have no money. Colleagues replied that the idea is good. She didn't earn the money, so she couldn't make a decision.

Look at this big sister, sitting in the luxury car bought by her husband all day, playing mahjong everywhere, and even doing homework for others. Such a sister is embarrassed to ask too much besides receiving pocket money from her husband every month.

Let's get back to you. If you are not the above, but you are a wife who keeps the family in good order and takes care of it in every possible way while her husband is earning money, then your contribution to the family is no less than his, but it is not reflected in money. At this time, even if he doesn't want to, maybe he will help his brother for you.

So, anyway, you can't get a divorce now. You can discuss it with your husband, even if it is to ask your brother to write an iou. However, we should learn a lesson from this incident. At any time, people are still the most car-scrapping on their own.

Why did your husband take out money to help your brother buy a house? If your brother is a hard worker and the down payment for buying a house is not enough at present, you can discuss it with your husband and lend your brother some money. Your husband is under no obligation to buy him a house. If you divorce your husband for this, it only shows that you are stupid and filial.

Naive, so why do some women disgust men?

First, I always think that a man's love for her should be measured by money, which I always take for granted. Your husband earns millions a year. How much did you give, how much did you support him and how many times did you encourage him?

Second, don't always threaten divorce. Now, as long as a man gives your brother 200 thousand, you can get a divorce?

Third, if your husband earns millions of dollars a year with your help, you can borrow it out of kindness, but you must not give it. If you give it, it will make your brother feel that he is getting something for nothing. The second is to exchange sisters.

Fourth, if you had an annual salary of one million before marrying your husband, he can borrow it. That's because he thinks of your years of marital relationship, and that's to let your brother know that nothing good has ever happened in the world.

If you want to threaten divorce and tell the truth, you are also guilty. Surely your income is not so good either. If your income is ok, you will help your brother. Secondly, you can't bear to lose such a golden god of wealth. You can try it if you don't believe me.

If I were your husband, divorce would be the first and last time you said it. A man with an annual income of one million will lack a woman like you?

The language is very heartfelt, but it is also very realistic.

Lao Yi believes that people who talk about divorce casually will not be happy. If you divorce because of this, it will be too impulsive. Let me talk about my opinion first.

There is a saying in our hometown: money is not named, which means that it is not easy for anyone to make money, nor is it easy.

Your husband can earn millions a year. He must have paid a lot to earn so much.

I'll tell you a story about a friend of Huawei. My friend works in Huawei, and the salary plus bonus plus dividend is about 500,000 to 600,000 a year. But the workload is even crazier than the current 996. Every morning, before his wife and children get up, he has gone out.

He didn't go home until his wife and children fell asleep at night. In order not to affect their sleep, he basically sleeps in the study and works overtime on weekends. I finally have a day off to spend with my family, but I may be called back by the company to work overtime for work reasons. This phenomenon is normal.

His wife is used to his working conditions. Maybe we think he has worked hard, but if he is not careful, he may face the risk of being fired because of his low grades.

Why should you unconditionally give your brother 200 thousand for the money you earned so hard? Let's think about it from another angle. What do you think if you earn 1 million a year, but your husband wants to give your brother 200 thousand? Think about it, this time I gave 200 thousand, and next time his brother and daughter-in-law have something to do at home, I will give 200 thousand again

If your brother is really in trouble and needs his sister's help, as a sister, he should really help. But you can ask your brother to write an IOU and pay back the loan in installments. At least let your husband know that you cherish the money he earns, and don't waste it. And families should help each other, but not give unconditionally.

I don't know if I still remember the Mei Sheng family who were fans in the TV series Ode to Joy. She helped her family and brother unconditionally and sent all her wages home. Finally, she often became a moonlight clan, and even delayed her lifelong events because of her family.

Many things, the first time you help, there will be a second time, and then the third time, there will be a big hole in the back. Even Bill Gates can't fill it in. Who dares to give 200,000 directly and unconditionally?

Except for the divorce, half of the money he earned belongs to you, which means you have 500 thousand. Can you still find a man who earns millions after divorce? Even if you find it, will he give you 500 thousand?

As the saying goes, brothers pay the bill. Clear accounts make the family more harmonious. Again, if your brother is really short of money, you can lend him and help him in the form of IOUs, which will not hurt the feelings of husband and wife, but also help your brother. In addition, you can ask your husband to take your brother to make money, and you can return the money to you faster, so that everything is easy to talk about.

Generally speaking, as a sister, my brother is in need, so long as you want to help him. But I also advise you not to be so impulsive, and don't tell your husband about the divorce because of this. Think about it. If your husband really left you, have you thought about it? Everything is easy to discuss. 200,000 yuan is not a small sum. I suggest you discuss it with your husband first. Important decisions should be discussed by both husband and wife to avoid family discord.

You should divorce her. Because in your family, your status is too low, and there is no understanding and respect between husband and wife. You don't care in your husband's heart. You don't care at all.

NO 1: Let you lose face in front of your family.

Your husband's annual income is 1 million, and 200 thousand is one fifth of the money. Your brother's buying a house is a serious business, not eating, drinking, whoring and gambling, nor investing money indiscriminately. If you look down on your brother-in-law and don't lend him money, it's tantamount to hitting you in the face and embarrassing you at home. If he really loves you and cares about you, he won't contradict your face at all and will lend it to your brother without hesitation! It also seems that he has great face in front of his father-in-law's family.

I won't care about you emotionally either.

Since you have no position in the family and no right to speak, that is to say, a woman who doesn't count, forget it. After a long time, he will slowly cheat emotionally. Even if I don't divorce you, I will fuck other women he likes outside!

It's only a matter of time before you try. Because maintaining the understanding and trust between your husband and wife is gone! You can't light the spark of his love! That's why I don't respect you and don't care about your performance!

Get out of the shadow of marriage

In this case, do you think it is necessary to maintain it? Of course, in real social life, there are also such women who are afraid of having no position at home and would rather submit to humiliation for their children. It doesn't matter how many women their husbands are outside, as long as they don't divorce her and give her superior living conditions!

Everyone's money is meat. If you take it, your family will be very harmonious. If you don't take it, you will get angry and divorce. Home on one side and brothers on the other. Alas, being rich is also a sin. So is your husband. Help your brother. What will happen? You, too, can't get a divorce without help. It is unwise to divorce your husband for this. Whoever wants to help has to volunteer. Husband's ideological work can't be done. Nobody understands this truth, and neither will you. So, you can't get a divorce for this.

What's next?

People in this life, don't develop to rely on who. It's better to rely on yourself than anyone else. Let your brother understand this truth and grow up. Accepting anyone's help is temporary. What about you? I can only communicate with my husband. Support it when you get through it. Don't worry if you don't succeed. Don't always think about divorce. This is not right. Your husband's money didn't come from the wind. It is wrong not to help. If you can't help more, help less. You can continue to do ideological work, and there is nothing wrong with it.

The highest way is that you can convince your husband, and the best way is that your brother talks to his brother-in-law. Some things can be done, but there are obstacles everywhere.

I hope your husband is not only a money-making husband, but also a reasonable person.

Thank you for watching, Wen.

Leave early! Then 200 thousand is your divorce property. Look at people! If you work hard, I believe your husband will help look after the house! Nor is it a necessity for survival! Some people have no houses for rent for the time being! How capable you are of doing many great things! Always say that divorced people are annoying! It's not about money!

Actually, the answer to this question is quite simple. If your husband's parents or brothers want to buy a house, as a daughter-in-law or sister-in-law, are you willing to let your husband take out hundreds of thousands?

"Helping Brother Magic" has hurt many families that were originally harmonious. In fact, the biggest loser is the brother who is helped. I am idle or don't work hard, but my desire is not lower than that of ordinary people. Hands up, wind to wind, rain to rain. It seems smooth sailing and is loved by millions of people, but what will be the final outcome? Needless to say. There will always be a day when my sister can't help you. At that time, your brother may not understand you. Should your husband ask you for a divorce?

If you can't figure it out, both hands and feet are in favor of your divorce, keeping your original family and abandoning your temporary home.