How cold can a person be?

To what extent can a person be chilling?

It varies from person to person. Some people give their heart, but they are hurt.

Some people don't pay at all, even if they are chilling, they just laugh it off.

Some people reflect on themselves and forgive each other.

Chilling doesn't happen overnight, it's not a thing, it accumulates over time. Through one thing, through one sentence, as a fuse, it is like falling into icehouse at once, which is chilling.

Chill, from the beginning of hope to the last despair.

Chill, disheartened to you, feel dejected.

Bingxian is completely disappointed in you and completely see through it.

Bingxian, I don't care about you. I'm a stranger.

Cold, ignoring your existence, like air.

Chilly, my heart ached, and I sprinkled a handful of salt on the wound.

Cold, like a walking corpse, lifeless.

What things are easy to make the other person chilling?

1: infidelity.

Cheating, one-night stand, extramarital affair, ambiguity, etc. They are betrays to family and love, and they are disloyal to each other. At this time, many people's bottom line has been broken, and the other party is chilling. Divorce is just a good ending. Many incidents of hurting people and even killing people are caused by betrayal. Please be careful. Even if you don't love each other, please find another relationship after the divorce.

2. Attack each other's parents, family and friends.

The other's parents and family are all blood relatives. Everyone knows that blood is thicker than water, but some friends of the other side should never be attacked. They may have grown up together, experienced a lot of things together, received a lot of help, and played together as friends, so they were recognized as friends, including his people handling, personality and quality. Besides, birds of a feather flock together, you say. Don't let the other side feel cold because of this, especially those who are very filial, and their parents must not disobey, even if their parents are at fault. At this time, if you get angry at the moment and attack their parents, it is not only him but also you who are cold.

Don't say how blind you were, so I took a fancy to you.

Regret is useless, but sometimes you regret it as soon as you get angry and say angry words. If you say regret, it will really make the other person feel very cold. This sentence means that after so many years, you will regret it because you have been unhappy. After so many years, there is no love at all, and there is no other person in my heart. Put yourself in other's shoes. For many years, couples have no feelings and are cold.

Real chilling can't be expressed in words, and only those who have really experienced it can appreciate the hysterical pain. The most chilling thing for women is that they can't see the hope of life after going through many hardships with you. She once gave her heart, was hurt, reflected on herself and forgave each other. Repeat, repeat, repeat ... from hope to despair, disheartened, and finally completely chilling.

If a woman is cold, nothing you do will keep her warm. It is because she used to care so much that it is easier to get cold. All previous fantasies about you have turned into disappointment and despair; Once wordy, it has become indifferent and blind. Chilling is like a body without a soul. You are like air in front of her. What you do has nothing to do with her.

Women are cold-hearted, that's the decision!

Tell me about a good friend of mine.

In her early forties, she got a serious illness: years of diabetes, coupled with obesity, induced a cerebral infarction. For various reasons, she missed the best thrombolytic period, resulting in half a limb dysfunction. This happened before the Spring Festival that year.

Hospital, hospital, home. Then there is the long recovery stage. Speaking of this disease, friends have both the sadness of suffering from this serious illness at a young age and the joy of surviving. Spring has come, and everything is alive. After exercise, the limb function of my friend's affected side has recovered slightly. The longing for the future also ignited the hope in her heart bit by bit. But just then, she found that her husband was impatient with her. It is true that it was very hard to take care of her during her stay in hospital, but when she finally came home, her husband found that she used to wash clothes, cook and do all the housework, but now she has to do everything. Slowly, resentment and troubles breed, so dissatisfaction is expressed in words. For example, after a serious illness, she lost a lot of weight and her clothes didn't fit. She wanted to buy a new dress, and her husband frowned and said, "What are you buying?" For example, she casually said at the dinner table that this dish with garlic should not be delicious, and her husband frowned and said, "You can't cook it yourself. What are you picking?" Until one time, the two had a quarrel because of trivial matters, and the friend felt that his heart was blocked. In a rage, he turned and slammed the door. The moment the door closed, he heard her husband shout, "Go, go and never come back!" "

At that moment, it was freezing.

My friend is in the small garden downstairs, alone in the dark, crying loudly.

I have cried many times since I was ill, but I have never been so sad. It is said that there has been no dutiful son before the hospital bed for a long time, let alone husband and wife! It turns out that we are a bird in the forest. When it's calm, we can stand side by side. When the storm strikes, we are regarded as a burden!

Later, her daughter found her and advised her to go home. The next day, my friend felt headache and chest tightness, and went to the hospital to have a brain CT. The doctor found new signs of blockage in her cerebral vessels. . . When she got home, she said two words "divorce" to her husband. Her husband almost pretended to stay for a while, and then happily agreed.

After that, I had a friend, a small one-bedroom apartment, and a meager sick pay every month in the unit. He has been working hard and learned to do housework and cook with one hand. Wash clothes and take a shower. Instead, I lived a quiet life and my illness did not recur.

The most difficult thing in the world is human nature, doing nothing but singing and dancing; When things happen, you can see the truest heart. But the most important thing for people is their own strength, and there will never be anyone who can rely on them completely except yourself!

When you feel cold, add a coat to yourself. This coat is called "Qiang"!

My friend may see this answer. If you see it, please accept my blessing and tribute. Come on!

Remember when Sun Li was bitten by a college student she sponsored? I want to use my experience as a matchmaker and helping poor children to answer this question. Your photos are very good. A person is cold, either silent or indifferent.

14 years, I accepted the entrustment of four seniors I met as volunteers in the university, and helped them find two poor primary school students in their hometown, forming two pairs of 1 students. I am in charge of finding partners, matchmaking, visiting irregularly, and delivering things when there is a demand for physical distribution. In short, I am an errand boy.

At first, everyone was in harmony, the sponsors cheered, and the elders who sponsored the children finally realized their dreams. Every month, money will be directly transferred to the other party's account, and there will be a steady stream of clothes and books every quarter. Why so many? The four elders belong to a non-governmental organization, and we met when I was a volunteer. They asked the community for a lot of things, and many hands make light work.

Then something happened to a child's family. Her mother was ill and had to be hospitalized. She called me for help. I am against it in my heart, because I agree to subsidize the children, not the family. But I told several seniors, and they felt the same way. Later, we discussed that since people asked for help, in order not to affect the children, four people pooled 5000 yuan at a time. I was angry, but I couldn't help it. I am sad to see that my elders wronged me and asked for 1000 yuan. They scolded me and finally dragged me down.

Since then, the two families have come to me whenever they are in trouble. Over and over again, I told them many times that the reason was overwhelming, and they just wouldn't listen! Later, it developed into complaining, complaining and even threatening to refuse children to go to school. Every time because of these quarrels, several elders basically compromised. I was caught in the middle and looked at it in my heart. Until one time, I went to visit my children and found them shivering with cold in winter. I won't know until I ask. My parents gave their children's clothes to my uncle's cousin, who was herding sheep ... I was shocked when I asked him. Not only were things squandered, but the children's food expenses were deducted for a long time.

I was really desperate and wanted to kill myself! Want to cry, wronged, heartache! I'm sorry for the trust of my predecessors, and I'm sorry for their sincerity ... What's more desperate is that I can't find a hope to solve this problem even a little. What should I do in the future? If you reason with them, you will get complaints, insults and threats. Tell several elders that it really hurts their hearts!

Time and again, abuse, abuse, resentment. At that time, I was like a fool trapped in a prison, tied up all over and unable to find any light. Calm down. I am also heartbroken for several predecessors! I want to strangle myself.

That's it. It's a long story Besides, it's boring. What I want to say about this is that professional things should be done by professional people. We are too amateur to do this well, but we just want to do it with enthusiasm, but we ignore a lot. There is nothing wrong with the other party. The mistake is that we are too amateur! Today, we only discuss this topic.

People always have a little hope, don't they? Live with temperature, warm yourself and try to warm people around you. I am so cold that I want to degenerate all my life, but I am still struggling under the persistence and care of my predecessors. As long as your heart remains the same, there is always some sunshine to give you strength!

I have been with my husband for 23 years from the beginning to now. I have been loyal to him in my best years, but I have been betrayed one after another. In addition, married women in the city, female subordinates of the same company, waiters staying in hotels ... I once doubted my life and myself. How bad am I? As a matter of fact, I am quite ordinary, and I can be said to be the most beautiful of his friends' wives. I am very virtuous. I have patiently raised three children and never speak ill of my in-laws. I am a writer, not brilliant, but quite talented. I was treated like this, and I was speechless. I don't understand what's going on in this society. I don't know what's wrong with this man. I reflect on myself three times a day, and I can't figure out what is not good enough. Until one day, I finally realized that no matter how well I did, I couldn't get into his heart, because he never loved me, and only thought that I was the most suitable wife. I could be a nanny at home, a bed friend, and I could bring face when I was outside. The most important thing is that I will not do such shameless things as cheating. As a result, my heart is dying

I was born in a reorganized family with three half-sisters. After the father of the three sisters died, my father came to their house and gave birth to me. When I was very young, my family was difficult, but my sister was very distressed. With the improvement of family conditions, my sister changed her attitude towards me and began to crowd me out everywhere. My father is a foreigner, and my mother has no skills. They do whatever their sister says.

When primary school was about to graduate, my sister got married and recruited a door-to-door son-in-law. According to our custom, I call him brother. Since my brother came to our home, he has been very kind to each of us. At this time, my dad changed from retirement to resignation, and his salary increased year by year, which is relatively high in our local area. As my father's only daughter, I have no sense of superiority. I have been washing and cooking since the fourth and fifth grade of primary school, and I have to go to the fields to do farm work on weekends and holidays, and I often scold my sister. I've always been so careful about getting married, and my parents arranged my marriage. The day after I got married, my elder sister asked her son to take my father's surname, but it didn't change because of me.

After marriage, I resigned myself to doing business with my husband in other places. Although I am married, my responsibilities are still there. My parents asked me to go back when I was in trouble, when my parents were sick, and when I was busy with farming ... At that time, my father was old. I tried to curry favor with her in order to make her treat my father better. Those years were hard for me. In the case of raising my in-laws and two children, I save money for my family. And her two sons were raised by my father from birth to college graduation. In her spare time, she often imagines me going back to share the property with her out of thin air and playing tricks on me from time to time. My family didn't have enough money when they built the house. My sister would rather lend it to outsiders than me, and I am not allowed to borrow it from my father. When my father was here, I didn't use his money except to give our children some money. I didn't get a penny from him after he died. I don't even know how much money my father had. I spent a lot of money on my father and my family.

I feel sorry for being bad to her, but I feel wronged for being good to her, so I use this tangled and contradictory mood to maintain my relationship with her.

This year, my brother unfortunately got terminal cancer. I went to the hospital to take care of him as soon as I heard the news. My brother was paralyzed in bed a few days after his diagnosis. I put down my daughter who is in Grade Three and my son who is in Grade One, and went back to my parents' house to take care of my brother wholeheartedly. When he was better, he went home to see the children. My husband took care of me when I was ill. We are all giving and contributing, even my brother's brothers and sisters can't catch up. Naive, I thought my sister would be moved by this incident and her attitude towards me would change. As a result, I found that I was wrong. She is used to my kindness to her and thinks I should do everything for her. Four months later, my brother left, and finally my sister turned against me for the 1000 yuan she should have taken. The true story of the farmer and the snake happened to me, and I was too sad to say how I felt at that time. I cried for two days, maybe it was chilling! Now my only hope is to treat her calmly from now on, just like I treat every stranger around me, and it has nothing to do with her from now on.

In the early 1970s, a beautiful and touching marriage infected me. In a military training base, a squad leader of the People's Liberation Army is conducting bombing training for female militia in a rural commune. Under the careful guidance of the squad leader, the female militiamen threw grenades in the designated direction one by one, and the explosion of grenades resounded through the training ground. When it was the turn of a tall female militia, an accident happened. Because she was nervous, the Grenade didn't go out and landed at her feet, risking white smoke. Just then, a voice came: get down. With this cry, I saw the monitor pouncing on the stunned female militia. There was a loud noise and the Grenade exploded. Everyone present was unscathed, and the monitor of the People's Liberation Army lost his left arm. I remember clearly that our school and city called on people to learn from this hero.

The story is not over. Later, they became a husband and wife in trouble. Female militia moved from the countryside to the city. The superior organization not only solved the urban hukou for her, but also arranged the employees of state-owned enterprises for her.

In the early 1980s, the flood of reform and opening up hit the whole of China. The monitor of that year was promoted to battalion commander, and the simplicity and gratitude of that female militia have faded. She filed for divorce, and after many times of mediation by the army, it was still invalid and divorced.

The person who learned about it called her: the saddest ingratitude.

The process of chilling is formed by one hurtful word after another and one unpleasant thing after another. From the very beginning, don't worry too much, think on the bright side with kindness, help if you can, and try to understand tolerance until you find that others are taking advantage of your kindness, pushing your luck and not being grateful. ......

There is a saying: conscience is eaten by dogs.

I heard a story about a couple who ran a company and made a lot of money. They are very kind and often help poor families around them and help some students.

Many years later, a sponsored female student couldn't find a decent job after graduating from college, or they helped find a position in their own company.

At first, the girl was honest and practical. The couple liked her and thought she was a goddaughter. They often go to live in their house, and the hostess is very enthusiastic.

Soon the hostess felt that the girl seemed to have something to do with her husband. When she put forward her opinion, she was scolded by her husband and thought her idea was dirty, so the woman believed her husband and stopped doubting.

Soon the girl became the treasurer of the company. When the hostess went to the company, many people kindly advised her to be careful. At this time, the hostess felt that things were important and wanted to show her husband. She doesn't want to have a showdown with her right away. She wants to divorce and marry that girl. ...

At this time, the woman discovered that the company's property had already been transferred ... the woman was strongly divorced. But not long after, the man was fooled by the girl. The man tried his best to go back to the company to find the girl, but found that he couldn't find anyone else. ...

The woman was generous and found a divorced husband to comfort her. The couple were cold and ashamed.

Therefore, wolves sometimes raise themselves, only give them food to grow, but don't teach them to give up eating people and be a kind wolf.

From chilling to disappointment, from disappointment to despair, Rome was not built in a day. A good relationship is the accumulation of love, and a bad relationship hurts too much to forgive. It's hard to shake hands with someone who has hurt you too much in this life! It's harder for you to forgive all the injuries! Language violence is the most lethal, like a double-edged sword, which hurts people on the one hand and hurts themselves on the other! The depth of love, the cut of hate! Love is heartbreaking, love is gone, dreams are heartbreaking, can you pick up the fragments of memory one by one, and you and I are safe and sound? I am a particularly fragile person, which can be described as blx. I've heard the sound of heartbreak. It's beautiful. Some things some people have been hurt to the extreme, scarred and torn to pieces; Heartache should be remembered that it is everywhere and pervasive, and disgust is the most hurtful blessing. From initial frankness to hypocrisy, from sincerity to perfunctory, from no regret to no regret, from familiarity to strangeness, it is a few words of understanding, from no regret to regret, from coldness to heartbreak, indifference and indifference, unwilling to mention the sad past, say goodbye, and never see it again. In this life, I can't forgive those who have hurt me deeply. After all, it is difficult to let go of strange relatives and friends. It's really beyond words.