I hate children walking around me, talking to me and trying to get angry. I am only happy when I am alone. What is wrong with me?

Mothers are more or less bored with their children. Many mothers have realized that this situation is due to "overwork" and "excessive occupation of their own alone time", and they have a strong resistance and boredom with the "occupied object" in their hearts.

It may not only be children, but when our physical strength and energy reach a certain limit, anything that requires us to pay and invest time and energy will make us feel bored. In fact, we were tired of ourselves at that moment, because you really want to spend time with your children, but your physical condition does not allow you to think that you are "not a good mother." This idea is the most severe criticism we give ourselves by traditional standards, which has caused depression and frustration.

Therefore, when we realize this kind of psychology, we should learn to "save ourselves", let ourselves out of the state at that time first, and remind ourselves never to vent our emotions on our children.

"Children around you" actually want to rely on you and seek a sense of security. You can hug him first, and then say to the child, "Mom is too tired to play with you now, but she really wants to play with you." Tell you what, let mom have a rest and let's set an alarm clock (10-30 minutes). Think of the alarm clock, and mom will play with you. You can continue to build the magic castle (Lego toy) that you didn't finish yesterday. Mom really wants to see the castle you built, okay? "Children will be satisfied when you say" I really want to play with him ",will feel at ease when you hear" mom will come to accompany me when the alarm clock rings "and will give them a" job "to do. This "job" is still appreciated by the mother, and most children will readily agree.

Then you take the time to rest or listen to music or surf the internet, as long as it can relieve boredom. And in the future, we should reach an agreement with our children, set a rest time for ourselves by setting an alarm clock, and let the children be alone for a while (under the condition of ensuring safety). The alarm clock represents the "third party authority" in children's minds, and children can abide by it. This method can cultivate children's independence, cultivate the spirit of contract from an early age, and win mothers time to relax and rest.

The solution is a compromise. In general, mothers should realize: never vent their emotions with their children, so as not to cause psychological harm to their children and be more attached to you; Second, give the child a full sense of security and tell him that you are willing to accompany him and reassure him; Finally, give the child a "task" to help him be independent and give himself time to recharge.

Mothers can try. I wish you all grow up together with the babies and be happy together [Rose]

You're fine. You are just tired. Moreover, this kind of fatigue can not be relieved by others' comfort, not by others taking care of your children for a while, or even by giving you time to leave your children and go out to play. This kind of tiredness permeates the blood of every competent mother who loves children and breathes deeply into the bone marrow. This kind of fatigue can't be confided, passed on, let go, but can't give up. As long as there are people in this world who call you mom, as long as you consciously hear this sentence, you will be so tired, so tired that you will cry and laugh. Don't ask me how I know. I have no time to type. Parents and boys are fighting again [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet]

I especially understand your feelings, because I often feel this way! I don't like being disturbed by children, but I just want to be alone.

First of all, we must make sure that we are normal and not sick! I have two children, the eldest 10 years old and the second is 4 years old. I have to admit that they occupy most of my time and energy. Every child will have all kinds of problems when he grows up. Eating, drinking, learning and entertainment may not necessarily develop in a good direction, but will produce emotions, children's emotions and their own emotions. As mothers and human beings, we can be angry, angry and anxious. Look at my picture, that's right. This is my daughter. Do you want to be angry with her expression? The background is like this. This is the summer for our family to play in Ledao Ocean Theme Park. As soon as the second child arrived, he was excited to play in various amusement areas. This one should always go home with a sad face, because he is afraid of the heat and doesn't like to play with his brother. Parents don't want to get angry.

Every day, children face all kinds of problems. Only we know how much suffering we have in our hearts, but we have to face and deal with it, because strong maternal love and sense of responsibility make us like mothers! No mother doesn't like the feeling of being alone. Try to ask yourself when was the last time you went shopping for dinner by yourself, and whether you were very happy. So girls, we are mothers, or the girl who loves to eat, play and love beauty! Forgive yourself and love yourself. Don't be ruined by life and lose yourself!

This sounds incredible. How many parents can't accept the intimate contact of their children? However, judging from the feelings of the questioner, the closeness and communication of children make parents very uncomfortable, thus stimulating bad emotions, just wanting to get angry and even hating children. When you are alone, you can relax and be happy without coping with the pressure of intimate relationship.

This can be traced back to his parents' childhood. When he approached and walked around his parents, he must have been pushed away and scolded when he wanted to chat with his parents, and he could feel that his proximity caused his parents' disgust, so he would have a direct causal judgment: because he was close to his parents and talked to them, he had to be trained. Once this relationship is established, similar intimate contact should be applied to this relationship, so when he becomes a parent, he will still act according to this theory: it is wrong for a child to be close to his parents, and parents can be angry and accuse him if the child does not leave quickly. At this time, adults themselves will have a little inner entanglement, that is, they will be willing to accept children's approach, but this is contrary to the theory that has been solidified in their hearts, and they will feel "betrayed" and the pressure will rise, so even if they want to get along well with their children, they will soon be suppressed. This kind of entanglement will also aggravate parents' discomfort and worsen their mood, thus making parents' attitude towards their children worse.

This situation is not uncommon. Among the parents who came to consult, many parents asked questions like this: I especially hate my child. He is always attached to me and is not independent at all. I was bored when I saw him. Some parents told me clearly, "I will pay attention to my child, don't hug his mother, don't stay with his mother for more than a minute ..." Others stressed: "As long as he bothers me, I will definitely push him away. When he comes back, I will push him away until he dares not come back. "

These are all biological parents. If they treat their children so cruelly, outsiders will find it unbearable: "What's wrong with such a small child that he wants you to hug him?" Why do you have to push him away! There is nothing wrong with this! "Parents also understand that there is nothing wrong with a child hugging, but he is extremely lacking in intimacy and cannot have the power to give love.

Therefore, what parents need is to be close to their childhood, go back to childhood and talk to themselves, and tell themselves that it is right to be close to the people they love, and this need should be met. Even if there were no parents to greet me at that time, I can greet myself like an adult now. Only when parents heal themselves first can they become a complete inner person and have the energy to hug their children and express their love.

Family education can be inherited, and the harm of one generation will be passed on to the next. No matter which generation heals itself, it can stop the injury and make the family happy.

Pay attention to Wang Hua's education, teach you to be a professional parent and help your children grow professionally!

Have you ever found that every time a child wants to talk to you, it is when she is not paying attention? The excessive behavior that needs attention will really drive us crazy, which is normal! In order to live, more and more modern people are anxious about the pressure of life. Think about it when the child has been wandering around you and wants to talk to you. Do we treat our children wholeheartedly?

Children are members of society. When he needs company, he will behave like this, which will attract your attention, establish contact, and then get emotional and material rewards. So think about whether the children are bored or we are not doing enough.

The mother's tone and behavior of speaking to her children determine their understanding and attitude towards the world! Give children more sense of security, focus on children, talk well, and start with your own children.

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question. I don't think it's your fault. Maybe you don't bother the children much, but you like to be quiet once in a while, or you are really tired of watching the children all the time. Taking care of children is really tiring work. Sometimes I want to get angry for no reason. Maybe I suddenly changed from doing what one wants to do to thinking about children first. Suddenly I feel that I don't live for myself, but for my children. Suddenly there is no personal space, and I feel that I have lost my freedom. The child is crying when you want to be quiet. I feel that there is no one around me to rely on. I can't just leave. As a mother, I must take responsibility. There's no way to move on with my life. So think about it when you can't stand it. Imagine that when the children grow up, you will be relieved to have a full house of children and grandchildren. There are too many ups and downs in life, and being a mother is equally important. For the sake of children, we must learn to adjust our mentality in life, try to avoid losing our temper in front of children, and try to control our emotions when they come up, because the name "mother" is to teach us to be a responsible and responsible person.

Other mothers always feel this way. Children are also very innocent, so they can only constantly adjust themselves, and don't let postpartum depression find you.

In fact, many mothers feel this way because it is really hard to be a mother. No one can share the bad feelings, no one can talk about them, no one can release them, no one can listen, and most importantly, there is no effective solution.

First, someone shares. The other half, or parents, grandpa.