Why are you so kind to your mother-in-law, and she still looks down on you?

The circle of friends saw the baby photo of the circle of friends show, and I realized that she had given birth to a second child, and it had passed the full moon. She refused to have a second child before, because when she gave birth to the boss, she said she had had enough.

She didn't go to work before she was born. She knows that she has no job, so she does as much housework as possible at home and even washes clothes for her parents. She has a sweet mouth and follows her mother-in-law. I usually buy gifts for my mother-in-law, especially when my birthday is grand. My mother-in-law just doesn't buy them, looks down on her, doesn't like the gifts she bought, and often throws them aside. And coldness.

Later, when her son was born, it was not her mother-in-law who took care of her, but Xiu's mother who was in charge of confinement. The mother-in-law didn't take care of her and didn't help take care of her son. Xiu buys diapers for her son, and her mother-in-law will say that she should not buy such expensive things, but should wash them herself with cloth, saying that it is very hard for her son to earn money by working.

After the confinement, she took care of the children alone and did all the housework, and her mother-in-law didn't help. Even her grandmother was taken care of by her granddaughter on the grounds that Xiu didn't go to work and had no income, and her mother-in-law didn't retire. Xiu had no choice but to take care of the children, grandma and housework. Cook in a different way every day, so that the whole family can eat delicious food. In the end, I often get tired of backache, but I still can't get the understanding of my husband's family.

Later, when the child grew up, she went out to work and engaged in insurance business. Soon she became the backbone of the company. Don't stay at home every day, don't look at your mother-in-law's face. With my own income and my own circle of friends, I travel from time to time, and even my mental outlook has changed. My mother-in-law was very polite to her and began to share some housework on her own initiative.

Now that she has a second child, her mother-in-law suggested it. Mother-in-law took care of the boss's diet and daily life, and took meticulous care in the next month, which made Xiu very emotional. She said that if she hadn't come out to work in recent years and had a good income, her mother-in-law wouldn't have such a different attitude towards her. She said that when the second child is older, she will go out to work and will not be a full-time housewife. When a daughter-in-law is unable to earn money to support her family, many mother-in-law look down on her because she thinks you have increased the burden on her son to support his family. Only when you have the ability to earn money to support your family and share the burden of your in-laws, can you look up to your mother-in-law and get her respect.

Some time ago, my father went to my cousin's house and came back to say that my cousin's daughter-in-law is good at dealing with people and is a good person. A large family (cousin and his wife, cousin's eldest daughter is a family of four, his son is a family of four, a total of * * * ten people) has been taken care of by his daughter-in-law and has a harmonious relationship. Get up early every day to make breakfast, and then buy food and clean up. My cousin has a headache and a fever. Will be caring and attentive, take her to see a doctor. On holidays, people's contacts are also well organized, which makes my cousin impeccable. Especially on my cousin's birthday, I specially celebrated her birthday. My cousin, who has worked hard all her life and never had a birthday, was so happy that her eyes were blurred when a birthday cake with candles and the words "Happiness is like the East China Sea and Longevity is like the South Mountain" was placed in front of her and asked her to make a wish. My mother always praises me.

My cousin has only one son, and all three daughters are married. Except for her eldest daughter, her life is a little worse. 18 has been living in her parents' home since she got married. The other two daughters are both buying houses in Guangzhou. Cousin/kloc-bought land in the town 0/0 years ago and built a three-story building. Her son, my cousin, invested in real estate with a real estate boss a few years ago and made a lot of money. In addition to buying a piece of land of several hundred square meters in the town, I also have a house in Huizhou, and I bought a suite in the county town the year before last, with a net worth of tens of millions. Living conditions at home are naturally good. Her daughter-in-law is a teacher. She usually works at leisure and has more time to take care of her family. In addition, she is an expert in financial management. After graduating from college, she began to study financial management. She bought a house for her parents before marriage through various forms such as government bonds, stocks, trusts and funds. After marriage, I will also help my cousin manage the real estate investment business. My cousin is a reasonable person. My cousin has no bad hobbies. Everyone says it is a blessing to marry such a good husband's family, and I think this blessing is her own, because she is a good wife and mother at home and can earn money to support her family outside. Go to the hall, go to the kitchen.

Usually, I see many full-time housewives pay too much for their families but don't get the respect their mother-in-law deserves. Some even provoked their sons, leading to discord between their sons and daughters-in-law, emotional crisis and being seriously abandoned by their husbands. At the same time, many people will say that a daughter-in-law should respect and understand her mother-in-law, and even cater to and please her mother-in-law. I don't think these are the most important. The most important thing is that you have the ability to earn money to support your family. Don't let your mother-in-law think that she wants her son to support you. On this basis, you can be virtuous, virtuous and well-run, and all the relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be solved.

The best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not to treat her mother-in-law as a mother, nor to blindly obey and please her mother-in-law, but to have the ability to earn money to support her family. Be a good wife and mother at home and earn money to support your family outside.