What does it look like to be a loser in the workplace?

Waste wood is a popular word on the Internet in recent years. It is generally used to ridicule oneself and is useless. In fact, this word is mostly used to express positive energy, but in addition, waste wood also has Its derogatory meaning is that it is worthless. The "waste" I am talking about here only refers to the latter.

And why do I, an upright girl, call everyone useless? Take a look at the following "Nine reasons why a person becomes a loser" and you will know. PS: Guarantee that every sentence touches your heart.

1

Hesitant

We always say that a person does things without thinking, is reckless and impulsive, and his IQ and EQ are not on the same level. If this kind of person were a teammate, they would be tortured to tears every minute. But really, the only thing worse than recklessness is indecision.

People who waver like grass on the wall, no matter how strong they are in other aspects, are always easily squeezed aside by those who are determined in the race of life.

The development space of people who are hesitant is always limited. Just imagine when you go to interview a company manager, but you are always hesitant when dealing with things. How will HR evaluate you? Acting resolutely will inevitably make mistakes, but it is better than being hesitant and not daring to do anything. Whitehead said: "The fear of mistakes is the destruction of progress."

2

Procrastination

The plan is rich, but the execution is skinny. I believe many people will encounter this problem. They clearly arrange their work and life to be fulfilling, but in the end they just talk about it and list things, but they don't take action. They put it off again and again until the deadline.

Many times procrastination means avoiding problems and laziness. Magnify the difficulties in front of you, stay away from them, and find all kinds of excuses to escape with the mentality that it can take one day longer: "boring job", "harsh boss", "I'm too busy", "I can't do it every other day" It doesn't matter"...

As a result, we will fall into the quagmire of "work becomes more and more boring" and "life becomes more and more boring". Even if you feel very ashamed and regretful after a day, and vow to finish it tomorrow, the cycle will still start over and over again tomorrow.

The more lazy and negative you become, the more you will fall into the trap of regretting the past and imagining the future. The accumulation of time will produce a stronger sense of guilt and self-denial, making people more and more anxious. The famous thinker Romain Rolland said: "Laziness is a very strange thing. It makes you think it is comfort, rest, and blessing; but in fact, what it gives you is boredom, burnout, and depression."

3

Three Minutes of Heat

80% of failures in the world stem from giving up halfway.

People with "Three Minutes of Heat" have never experienced the joy that comes from persisting in doing one thing and succeeding, because the process of persisting is always boring and full of frustrations, and human nature is indolent. .

“At the beginning of every year, the first few pages of the notebook are filled with grand plans, and the back pages are almost blank...” “I bought a good book, but it’s a pity that I haven’t read it yet. Start reading..." "I made up my mind to work out and lose weight, but gave up after almost 5 days..."

Almost everyone has had the experience of "making ambitious plans and giving up in frustration. Plan” experience. Now think about it, is this true? You also try to think about it: Have you persisted in one thing from beginning to end?

4

Fear of rejection

Thick and fragile self-esteem.

Most of the time, the "pain" we feel in relationships is related to "feeling rejected."

Sometimes this rejection is obvious, such as the sudden departure of a lover; or being betrayed and alienated by a friend.

Sometimes this kind of rejection can also be very subtle. For example, you give the other person a smiling look, but the other person looks away; or you muster up the courage to send the other person a WeChat message, and the other person looks away. But it took a long time for him to reply briefly.

Like me, I am such a person. Although I am trying to change now, I still will not make demands easily when interacting with friends because I am afraid of being rejected; because I am afraid of being rejected, I will not make demands easily. No matter who you face, there will always be a sense of defensiveness and a sense of distance. To be honest, this is caused by my own low self-esteem.

A person who can put aside his self-esteem to do things is a goal-oriented and result-oriented person; and a person who puts self-esteem first, when doing things in interpersonal relationships, always focuses on what others think of him. attitude. Therefore, the more useless a person is, the more he will be obsessed with those insignificant bottom lines and small self-esteem.

5

Self-imposed limitations

Kill your own potential.

Some people often say this: I want to do A, but I’m afraid I can’t do it because of reasons B, C, D, and E.

Before they do it, they deny themselves and find a bunch of reasons for themselves not to put in the effort. All mediocrity and low achievement are the result of self-imposed limitations.

I have defaulted to a "psychological height" in my heart. This "psychological height" often implies to myself: I definitely can't do this well, so I can just do it almost.

This kind of psychological suggestion can help you block the frustration caused by task failure and temporarily maintain your sense of self-worth. However, it deprives you of the chance of success to "take another step forward." La Rochefoucauld said: Mediocre people always complain about things they don’t understand.

6

Escape from reality

To put it bluntly, it is: a daydream patient.

People who escape reality have 5 characteristics:

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① Frequent daydreaming - escapists are more willing to create a world of their own Small world.

② Like to live an unfettered life as one pleases - to put it bluntly, they yearn for a life of idleness.

③ Get addicted to games or fantasy novels - they can lead you into that magical and vast world and allow you to escape from daily real life.

④ Feeling that the real world is cruel - this is a common characteristic of escapists. When pursuing daydreams, they often suffer blows from real life.

⑤ Unable to face an uncertain environment - because only in the daydreams you create can you find a sense of certainty and security.

The tragedy of human beings is that they have high ambitions but short intentions. Most people block and kill Buddha when they are excited, and look down on the world in fantasy, but in daily life they cannot muster the courage to have a good conversation with their neighbor who drills the wall with an electric drill every weekend morning.

7

Always making excuses

It’s not my fault.

Once people make a mistake, their first reaction is often to defend themselves.

I recalled the people I have known for more than 30 years who like to make excuses, and found that they all have the same characteristics: no strong ambition, no persistent pursuit, and no firm goal in life. belief.

So, when they encounter pressure or difficulties, they do not take it or want to take it; when they encounter risks or challenges, they shrink back. Not taking responsibility and holding back forces them to make excuses.

Because making excuses is the easiest thing to do. This is a way to cover up your ignorance and then find self-comfort.

8

Fear

Prudent cowardice.

They always have this feeling at work: fear of being criticized by the leader, fear of others thinking they are incompetent, fear of others knowing their shortcomings, concern about others' evaluation, fear of making mistakes, fear of not getting enough of their efforts. to return.

I remembered a sentence: I dare not work hard to think about myself, for fear that I will finally know that I am not a jewel; however, there is a glimmer of hope in my heart, and I am unwilling to be with the rubble.

In fact, it is a weak mind and an unwillingness to face frustration.

Wang Shuo once said to his daughter: "Making soup is more important than writing poetry, one's own craftsmanship is more important than men, hair, chest, waist and butt are more important than face, and being a bastard with a strong heart is more important than anything else.

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9

Refuse to learn

You are not lonely, you just don’t want to learn.

Learning requires brains, and self-growth requires continuous It’s so painful to fight against yourself! It’s better to lie comfortably at home, play on your phone and watch movies, and then when you see that your peers have a higher salary than you and a better life than you, you lament your bad luck in your circle of friends.

“I have never seen people who work from morning to play every day and drag their tired bodies home feeling empty, lonely and cold. Most people are empty, lonely and cold, and they basically have nothing to do when they are full."

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