The students have a problem with the head teacher. What should they do?

The fifth grade has been in class for a month, and the primary school class has changed to the head teacher, who is an older teacher. It is estimated that her teaching style is not the same as that of the previous teacher, and the primary school students are not adapted; Moreover, the teacher's temper does not seem to be very appetizing for primary school students. Previously, primary school students occasionally expressed their dissatisfaction with the former class teacher in one way or another, but the number of times was rare. The situation is different this time. Pupils are very dissatisfied with the head teacher. 1 1 On the first day of the month, we had a big fight because of this problem. My point is: in any case, teachers should be respected and teachers should not be insulted. Pupils are angry and fight back, thinking that the class teacher is not good, giving lectures is not good, and it is not good for students. This question makes me very depressed. On the one hand, the current primary school teachers are really irresponsible because they have no pressure to go to school; Second, primary school students are now in their early adolescence, and they are somewhat rebellious. I just hope to wait until the pupils calm down before talking to them. At least respecting teachers is one of the most basic standards. The following is a post I found on the Internet about how to deal with the contradiction between teachers and students. Save it for study. It is a good educational opportunity when children have conflicts with teachers. At this time, you should see how to solve the contradiction, so that the children can benefit the most, and then analyze and solve it according to the specific situation. The following is my life experience: my little nephew who went to junior high school came back from school and said to me with a sad face, "It's over, it's over." Our English teacher will not be kind to me in the future. I made him angry today. " I asked what happened, and my nephew told me, "The English teacher criticized his classmates in class, and what he said was too ugly. When I told the teacher that I shouldn't treat my students like this, the teacher was very angry and criticized me. " I said, "That's not certain. You study well, and the teacher always values you. The teacher won't care about you. " Then I analyzed with my nephew: teachers are human beings, and they also have shortcomings or deficiencies. It is his duty and his task for a teacher to teach students. But he also has shortcomings and mistakes, which we have already seen and should be pointed out. It's his business whether he accepts or not, but you haven't done anything wrong. Don't be too sad. If you have the opportunity, you can find a teacher to further explain your reasons. However, you should learn to respect the teacher and not criticize the teacher to his face. On the one hand, because the teacher is an elder, students should respect him. On the other hand, the teacher is also an ordinary person with his self-esteem. You criticized him in front of his classmates, which made him feel embarrassed. The next day, the nephew took the initiative to find the teacher to admit his mistake and lifted his unhappiness with the teacher. My nephew is very happy. Therefore, when there is a conflict between children and teachers, we should first find out the causes of the conflict, and then gradually guide children to learn to solve the conflict according to their own feelings and abilities, so that children can benefit from it. Make peace, Mei Zi is in a meeting and receives a call from the head teacher and the son of junior high school. The teacher at the other end of the phone shouted angrily, "Take your child away, no one can control him at school, so don't come to class tomorrow …" It's really puzzling. Even if the child makes a mistake, the class teacher can't treat the parents in this tone, can he? I am very unhappy. I tried to interrupt her roar several times, but I held back. Because I don't know the ins and outs of things, if I quarrel with my teacher on the phone at this time, it will definitely intensify the contradiction. After work, I get up and rush to school. From the fierce words of the head teacher in Yu Nu, I understand that it turned out to be a very small matter. In the afternoon, the English teacher asked the students to practice the dialogue one by one, and then made a spot check. As it happens, my son and his deskmate were randomly selected. My son recited English sentences that he should have recited, but he couldn't pick them up at the same table. The English teacher asked his son to recite them for his deskmate. The son said, "You didn't arrange for me to recite the part he (the son's deskmate) wanted to recite." After class, the English teacher called his son to the office and criticized his son for his bad attitude, disobedience and contradiction with the English teacher. At this time, the son's class teacher couldn't stand it anymore, and scolded his son, who slammed the door angrily. In my opinion, the responsibility for this matter is not entirely on the son, but also on the teacher. I said to the class teacher, "I will persuade my children to apologize to you when I go home tomorrow." But the head teacher insisted that his son write an in-depth examination before going to school tomorrow. At this time, I had a good impression on the head teacher, but because I didn't see my son, I held back. When I got home, I saw my son, who had always been gentle, looking angry. Before I asked him, he said angrily, "transfer me tomorrow, or I won't go to school!" " Hey, it's all about me. I said to my son, "What's the matter? And tell your mother that I will judge her. " Later, I learned that my son kicked the door of the teacher's office and returned to the class. The class teacher was so angry that he chased his son in the class and said, "Go away, don't come to class tomorrow." The son thinks that the head teacher scolded him. Anger is not small. What shall we do? Neither side will give in. As parents, if you add fuel to the fire, it will only intensify contradictions. After dinner, I saw my son's anger disappear a little, so I told him gently, "As students, we should respect our teachers. My mother's head teacher at school is now my mother's friend. No matter how the teacher criticizes you now, even some bad attitudes are for your own good. Although you are not wrong about the cause of this incident today, my son is in a better mood because of your bad attitude ... ". Finally, he asked, "The teacher said I wouldn't be allowed to attend class tomorrow. What should I do? " I said, "No, teachers have no right to keep students from class. I'll argue with the teacher. " After that, I called the class teacher. On the phone, the class teacher insisted that his son write an in-depth examination before going to class, although his attitude was better. I said, "neither I as a parent nor you as a class teacher have the right to stop children's classes." This is a compulsory education law, and we all have to abide by it. In addition, as a teacher, you can criticize students, but you should not scold them. Junior high school students are in adolescence and have a big temper. As a parent, I have worked with my children. As a class teacher, should you calm down? " I can only sum up this conversation with my teacher in one word, and that is "angry words". She doesn't want to give in. I argued. Anyway, the final winner is me. The next day, my son went to class as usual. After this small storm, the relationship between the son and the class teacher gradually became harmonious, and the class teacher often gave his son a "small stove" after class. After my son graduated from junior high school and entered high school, he always went to visit the class teacher with his classmates on holidays. Qian Chao, whose parents want to be a fireman, just came home from work this afternoon, and the child's class teacher called to "complain". Said that the child not only didn't clean up when he was on duty, but also contradicted her. As soon as I put down the phone, the child said with some resentment, "It's not that I don't want to clean. Obviously, I do. Some students deliberately put garbage in the health area regardless of public morality. The class teacher said that because we didn't clean up, we were detained, so that the class couldn't evaluate the advanced mobile red flag, and we had to be punished for working for a week. I can't swallow this tone! " I suddenly felt the seriousness of the situation, but I soon realized that if I scold my child now, the contradiction between the child and the teacher will get deeper and deeper, and if mediation is improper, it will develop in the opposite direction. So, I reached out and touched his forehead and said with understanding and tolerance: "The teacher's work is very hard, and now the social pressure is great. You see, a family can't manage a child well. She has to take care of dozens of children. How can she be perfect? Be tolerant. You are now in a rebellious period, adults think you are a child, and you think you have grown up. I believe what you said is true. Can you take a step back and take cleaning as a kind of leisure? A job that gives the brain a rest? If not, can you find a teacher in a good mood to tentatively explain to her and treat the teacher as your parents with polite tone and expression? As a parent, I sometimes criticize your mistakes. Do you hate me too? You should understand and respect the teacher and treat the teacher with a normal heart ... "The child finally nodded thoughtfully. When there is a conflict between children and teachers, as parents of children, we should keep a clear head and not simply attribute the problem to whether the child is at fault with the teacher or the teacher is at fault with the child. If you do this, it is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. After parents hear the teacher's fault from their children, the most taboo thing is to listen to the truth and lose the best opportunity to educate their children. Parents should first let their children reflect on whether their words and deeds are appropriate. Parents can let their children compare their classmates' performance with their own, so that children can naturally know why they are treated unfairly. Treating children's "complaints" in this way will help children find their own reasons and help eliminate their dissatisfaction with teachers. Parents can't tell their children directly after hearing their children's shortcomings in study, discipline, relationship with classmates and personal habits from teachers. The reality is that most parents often say, "I heard what your teacher said ..." In fact, this kind of education is often counterproductive. The correct way is that parents should pay more attention to their children's performance and strengthen education in this area after hearing the teacher's reflection on their children's performance at school. Instead of directly "selling" teachers. Educated parents don't catch a child's shortcoming and let him get rid of it at once, but give him time to make mistakes and opportunities to correct them. Harmonious teacher-student relationship is conducive to children's happy study in a pleasant environment and to their healthy physical and mental growth. When children and teachers have conflicts, it is actually a good time for parents to create such an atmosphere for their children. Of course, if you meet a teacher who has seriously violated the teacher's ethics, that is another matter. Think about it, teachers are normal people, and sometimes they have mood swings. Therefore, in many conflicts between teachers and students, teachers have certain responsibilities, sometimes even the main responsibility. However, children's learning, especially the review of senior three, is urgent. So in most cases, parents will take the practice of wronged their children. However, this practice often brings greater contradictions. So, how to deal with it? Today, we give several principles: parents should not avoid the teacher's own problems and blindly blame the children, which will make the children's emotions more out of control. Usually, it is better to analyze the event itself directly with the child. You can even stand on the child's side first and help him speak. Because, this will make children feel that you and he are one, or at least more neutral. Children will trust you more, and then your suggestions and ideas will be accepted; After parents and children have reached a tacit understanding on this matter, they will help their children analyze the situation as friends when they are at ease, so that they can see what mistakes and blind spots they have besides their emotions, and make them easy to accept "criticism"; Finally, let children learn to look at the problem from the teacher's point of view. Maybe he will have some small opinions at this time. When necessary, encourage him to get out of the shadow of the teacher, try to turn his opinions into motivation, and strive to surpass the teacher in his studies. In addition, when dealing with such problems, parents should ensure their children's emotional stability. At the same time, don't rush to solve the problem as soon as you come up, and fully communicate with your children. In fact, children at this time are not afraid of you yelling at him, nor are they afraid of you yelling at him. What he is most afraid of is that someone can understand him, identify with him and really communicate with him, so that the grievances and dissatisfaction in his heart can melt.