What is the sense of ritual for a boyfriend?

Why in traditional Chinese weddings, the bride wears a red hijab, and the groom can only pick it off after entering the bridal chamber. This is the sense of ritual. Although the man and woman had lived together for a long time, they hadn't seen each other for one night. When they saw the bride dressed up the next day, it really felt like they were seeing each other for the first time.

This is the sense of ritual. Although the process seems artificial and tacky, without these, what you see every day is the other person who picks his feet and wears slippers, where would there be love. The longevity of a relationship is closely related to the individual's self-discipline. The strong self-discipline of a man and a woman also needs a sense of ritual to cultivate. A woman is an animal that needs a sense of ritual, because she needs to use rituals to determine how deeply the other person loves her. Don't say that the promise is too vulgar. Without these two words, your confidence will be erratic and weak.

About the ritual of confession is the transition from "male friend" to "boyfriend". When it comes to confession, the sense of ritual that a girl pursues is "Let him tell me personally, 'Be my girlfriend'" instead of getting together in a daze, because she needs to be sure that this person likes me.

If I also like him, then from now on we will be a couple, a relationship that is different from before. A boy's confession is a sign that proves the relationship between two people has upgraded, and it is a kind of ritual; in the eyes of girls, if a boy doesn't even pay attention to his confession, then what guarantee is there that he will put more effort into managing and maintaining each other's relationship in the future? .

When a relationship develops for more than three months, it should develop from a purely emotional level to a contractual level. A relationship should be limited to three months. If it breaks up within three months, it proves that the two parties have not gone through the basic running-in period and are not the right people. After more than three months, we have fully understood each other and are full of confidence to continue the relationship.

At this time, a man might as well sign a love contract bravely, such as agreeing not to quarrel more than twice a month, not to break up easily, to give his lover more companionship, etc., to give love a commitment and a ceremony, so that Women feel more at ease. When a man dares to introduce the person you love to the world, this kind of love is more stable.

Haruki Murakami said: Ceremony is a very important thing. When walking, you squat down to help me tie my shoelaces. It is a ritual. When shopping, you remember the clothes I like and buy them for me. It is a ritual. On someone else's birthday, the first cut you make when cutting the cake is a ritual. Dropping the plastic packaging of new books is also a ritual.

In fact, ritual is to make something that is originally monotonous and ordinary become different. Rituals allow us to feel a sense of reverence for the things we care about. So we will see girls who pay attention to ritual, use good-looking tableware when eating, and use good-looking cups when drinking.

You need to wear new clothes during the New Year, you need to confess your love, you need to propose a marriage, you need a wedding dress, you need to prepare for romance on Valentine's Day, you need to give each other gifts on birthdays, you need to go home to be with your mother during the holidays, and you have to talk about a promotion and a salary increase. Every business deal requires a celebration. People think this is a hassle, but in fact, it is managing every day of life carefully.

Ritual is the attitude we express toward things we respect; what is the sense of ritual in love? It is a manifestation of the thought, energy and effort you put into this relationship. Love requires a sense of ritual because it is a woman's sense of security.

The true sense of ritual is not to do it for others to see, nor to make anyone satisfied or praised by anyone, but to clearly know that everything you do is what you want. Yes, only those who are serious about themselves can have a truly ritualistic life