Mother-in-law likes to put underwear and socks together in the washing machine, and so does the child's. What should I do?

Hello, I'm Jenny. I'm glad to answer your question.

I once had such a question, whether underwear can be washed with socks, because when I was away on business, the old man and the father of the child also threw all the clothes into the washing machine to save trouble.

I tried to stop it, but it didn't make any sense, because for the elderly, if they weren't doctors or other professionals, they would generally ignore it.

Later, when I took my baby to Dr. Lilac for a physical examination, I specifically consulted a pediatrician. The doctor's advice is also very simple. It is no problem to wash underwear and socks together, but you must add disinfectant.

That is to say, when underwear and socks are washed together, in addition to washing powder or laundry detergent, we also need to add disinfectant (not 84 disinfectant, but Verus, or Didi, a disinfectant specially used for washing clothes).

The doctor also told me about foreign cases. In some European and American countries, laundry rooms basically have self-service laundry rooms and rows of public washing machines. Everyone comes with clothes. When they see which machine is free, they put the clothes in and wash them, not to mention underwear, even their own and others'. The reason is that disinfectant is added to their washing powder and laundry detergent.

Secondly, it doesn't mean that everything will be fine with disinfectant. Always pay attention to the skin condition of your family, such as whether you have feet or not, and also pay attention to the weather.

Generally speaking, in the rainy season in the south, fungi and bacteria multiply and erupt in large numbers. In addition to adding disinfectant, it is also necessary to ensure that the washed clothes can be dried or dried in time.

If not, the risk of bacterial infection will increase in humid air, and it is not recommended to wash underwear and socks together.

Finally, when family members try to wash underwear and socks together after adding disinfectant, they should pay close attention to their skin condition, whether their feet and genitals feel uncomfortable or not.

If it happens, it may be that the family's immunity is relatively low, and it is not recommended to continue mixed washing.

To sum up, the premise of mixed washing is 1, and there is no skin infectious disease at home. 2. Add disinfectant. The weather will get better or dry immediately. 4. Follow up in time after mixed washing to see if there is any abnormality.

My mother-in-law used to be like this. I made a suggestion directly, that adults' underwear and socks should be washed separately from children's, and washed by hand.

And from the beginning of pregnancy, I was worried that vaginitis would affect my children. Every time I take a shower, my underwear and socks are washed by hand. After taking a shower, I hung up these clean clothes and persisted for a long time. In addition, I often ask my husband, and my husband and mother-in-law are gradually influenced by me. After taking a shower, they start washing underwear and socks together.

So at present, my underwear and socks are never washed together in the washing machine.

As for the children's clothes, they are all washed separately. After taking a bath, the children's clothes are washed by hand and dried by the washing machine.

If the mother-in-law doesn't listen to your advice, you can wash the children's clothes yourself and do whatever you want.

I'm Yang Ma from Hubei, and I'm glad to answer this question. First of all, I want to congratulate you on having a hardworking mother-in-law. At least she can help you wash clothes, cook and take care of the children. You are very happy, so you should have a grateful heart.

Old people have the idea that "water is clean", thinking that clothes will be clean after washing, so she thinks it is normal to put underwear and socks in the washing machine together. That's why she did it.

Secondly, it is definitely wrong for mother-in-law to wash underwear and socks together. My mother-in-law used to wash clothes like this, and I found out. In this way, I made my mother-in-law happily accept my suggestion and changed the bad habit of washing underwear and socks in the washing machine together. When I first found her washing them like this, I didn't make a sound. I secretly washed the child again and then told her by watching TV and chatting with her. A child whose little sister works has a serious skin disease. After going to the hospital, the doctor asked the children to wash their underwear, coats and socks separately to avoid bacterial infection. By the way, I showed my mother-in-law the pictures of bacteria and other harmful microbial infections stored in my mobile phone. My mother-in-law was shocked and said, "Alas! I usually wash it like this. Fortunately, my baby has no skin disease. I can't wash it like this anymore! " This is a real case, which happened to be used by me to communicate with my mother-in-law. By the way, I told my mother-in-law that underwear and socks can't be washed together in the future. It is very troublesome to get bacterial infections, skin diseases and so on. In this way, my mother-in-law and I reached an agreement to wash clothes. My mother-in-law never put underwear and socks into the washing machine again, and she readily agreed to my request.

In fact, the elderly sometimes don't listen to the younger generation, especially the daughter-in-law, but there is something wrong with the way of communication. As long as the younger generation communicates well with the elderly, pays attention to communication skills and makes sense with facts, the elderly will be very reasonable. After all, the old man also wants his younger generation to be good! I have finished answering this question, I hope it will help you!

My mother-in-law is such a person. After taking a shower that night, she wore clothes, underwear and socks for a few days. All the clothes at home, including the baby, were soaked in a bucket of water and washed by hand the next day. In order to save electricity, she never washes clothes with a washing machine except dehydration, and there is no need for her family to wash them alone, wasting water. A few times, it might be useful at first, but then it slowly changed back. I can't help it If you can't see the past, you should wash it yourself. Even in confinement, I bathe my baby every day and get up and wash myself. This is the best way to avoid unhappiness.

There is no requirement for others to do things. She is still her mother-in-law. We should thank the old people for helping to take care of the children and do housework. If you don't like it, try to make it yourself or buy an extra washing machine. Adults and children wash separately. Mother-in-law has been helping with children for more than 6 years. We have never had a red face or quarreled, but my mother-in-law is an old man who pays more attention to life. Her daughter's socks and underwear are separate pots, and our adults' underwear is also a pot for everyone. Just tell her how to use it when you buy it. In fact, old people are easy to communicate with, but you can't blame them. Never say that the old man is wrong, just say what to do better. This involves emotional intelligence. People with enough emotional intelligence and people who are not easy to get along with can get along with each other.

I once had a similar problem with you. Personally, I feel that no matter how close two people are, there will be differences and contradictions when they live together.

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At that time, my mother-in-law helped me with two babies. I only go home once a week because of work. I happened to find that my mother-in-law put dirty socks in the washing machine and washed them with clothes. Although she was a little angry, she patiently told her mother-in-law that socks were dirtier than clothes on her feet and could not be washed in the washing machine with clothes.

My mother-in-law promised well on the surface, but she went her own way secretly. When I came home another week, I still found clothes and socks in the washing machine. No way, I can only start with my husband and make it clear that if I find clothes and socks washed together, all socks will be thrown away by me.

At that time, Dabao had already gone to kindergarten. At the age of four, he also helped me supervise grandma's responsibility to wash socks and clothes separately. My mother-in-law did behave for a while, but she didn't care much, so I found the problem again. I can't help saying a few more words. Sitting on the sofa, she raised her feet unconvinced and said that she could wear socks for a day no matter how dirty she was.

OMG, I really don't mean how dirty the socks are. What I'm afraid of is athlete's foot with fungi. What should I do if I stick it on children's underwear? But the words "beriberi, fungus" seem incomprehensible to the mother-in-law who has never read any books.

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When we gently tell our mother-in-law these truths, the effect is not obvious. Learning to use people close to her mother-in-law to persuade and supervise her, although it can't be done overnight, still has a certain effect.

I also used a more "stupid" method, that is, everyone in the family bought a lot of pairs of socks, even if they changed a pair every day, it would be enough to wash them together when they came home from rest. With clean socks to wear, she can get rid of this little problem without washing by her mother-in-law. The most important thing is to make the tense relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law less rigid. Why not?

Later, due to physical reasons, my mother-in-law didn't help with the children, and I didn't have to worry about the problem that socks would be washed with clothes, not to mention the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would be affected.

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I have to admit that distance does produce beauty, especially after two people who are a little contradictory are separated. Because of the distance, the contradiction between two people will definitely be diluted.

Like me and my mother-in-law, we usually get along well, but we will have minor problems all the time. If we can't turn these small contradictions into nothing, we may turn small things into big things, and this vicious circle will continue until the relationship between two people becomes stiff.

Of course, it doesn't mean that there will be no contradiction only if we live separately. Being a family is also a kind of fate. We should know how to cherish fate, and learn to better handle problems with our families and solve them in a more peaceful and perfect way.

Only in this way can the family be more harmonious and life be more meaningful. Cherish what you have now and be kind to everyone around you.

First of all, it's simple to answer your question. I am also a treasure mother. I understand your love for your children and hope your children will be healthy and happy. It is also the daughter-in-law who can understand the difficulty of communicating with her mother-in-law. This is the same as saying nothing. If my mother-in-law says we are looking for trouble, family conflicts will come out.

Congratulations on having a diligent mother-in-law who can help share the housework.

I think the best way is to wash underwear, socks and children's clothes by yourself. On the one hand, I don't think it is appropriate for my mother-in-law to help wash underwear. After all, it's private and it's for the elders to help wash underwear. Second, children have poor resistance, and it is really bad to mix clothes. It won't take too long to wash these clothes, so I'd better work hard by myself. When washing, if the mother-in-law can casually say what a person washes, show the old man correctly and pass it on to her in the right way. I hope I can help you.

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First of all, thank you for taking part in answering questions. I have read every answer. I want to add a few words: 1. My mother-in-law is not a good person, but also willing to do things, that is, love. I didn't ask my mother-in-law to do the laundry. I always do it myself, whether it's children's or our own. We have lived together since we got married. For seven years, we have never quarreled or blushed. My husband doesn't need to worry about his mother-in-law at all. Someone suggested living separately. We are in the countryside. My husband has no brother, only one sister, which means that his in-laws only have my husband's son. It's not practical to live separately, and I don't mind living together.

My mother-in-law has been helping me with my children, and I thank her from the bottom of my heart. If she needs someone to take care of her in the future, I won't back down. No matter how good our relationship is, it is useless. After all, we are not our own mother and daughter. Usually, it is better to accept the advice we give to each other than to accept it. After all, everyone in life has their own way, and we will not force anyone to change. As far as I'm concerned, my mother-in-law will put the socks of the whole family, her own clothes and underwear, and the children's clothes and underwear in the washing machine, which is really unacceptable. I said it euphemistically once, and she said that she had wiped it before putting it in, but it was still dirty and full of bacteria, and the underwear could not be cleaned in the washing machine. Judging from her reaction, I seem to be too picky. Don't talk too much, for fear of conflict, but it's no use talking too lightly. After all, if you are not your own mother, it is easier to make enemies than to turn them into friends. I have always washed the children's underwear and socks by myself. Occasionally, she will wash them together, but in the washing machine. Go back to your hometown for a while, and Dabao is at home. My mother-in-law must have washed it then. I'm afraid I'll wash it again. After all, my mother-in-law is used to children, including my husband, so asking my husband to wash him must be reserved for her. I wash it myself at home. What if I'm not at home? Is that so? Leave her alone?

I respect my mother-in-law, and I sincerely ask this question. I hope you can give me your opinions. Please don't spray indiscriminately. Thank you!

Socks and underwear must not be washed in the washing machine with clothes. Generally, both of my family wash by hand, and basically wash by themselves. Bauer is too young, so I want to wash them! Talk to your mother-in-law first. If she does not change, she can choose to wash herself! If buying another washing machine is not enough, don't wash underwear and socks together. Let's wash them separately! So wash your own and children's hands.

These questions are too childish. After the founding of New China, almost everyone graduated from junior high school. I have been to the countryside, and rural girls also graduated from high school. Except in remote mountainous areas, everyone knows that underwear and socks can't be washed together, underwear can't be washed together with coats, and adults' underwear can't be washed together with children's.

I think those mothers-in-law are either ignorant or lazy and careless, thinking that the water is too clean to install clearly. In fact, washing together saves water, but some molds are contagious. Is water expensive or is it expensive to see a doctor? Calculate this account, it should be too detailed, and wash it separately!

Those mothers-in-law have become a habit for years, saying that she doesn't like it. If you don't have time to wash, and you have to go to work the next day, you can wash your child's underwear and yours at night, and wash the rest with your mother-in-law! This is the best way!