Stop losses promptly: Don’t be too sensible

Wedge

The night before the wedding, Zheng Yuan was crying over her long-distance marriage. Her mother opened the door and came in, hugging her gently to comfort her,

" Girl, don't be sad. Now is the time to marry someone else's family. If you miss me, come back. If it's not convenient for you to be pregnant, mom and dad will go there. In addition, mom has to tell you, don't watch all day long. In TV dramas, there is a lot of fear in the fight between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but there are also good things about it, right? Apart from other things, do you think your sister-in-law and I get along like a mother-in-law? Treat them like your biological parents, and treat them like me and your dad, that's all!"

Zheng Yuan's mother's words gave her great comfort.

Especially the last few sentences made her feel ridiculous.

Before getting married, because he did not have enough money to buy a wedding house, Wang Qi suggested that he should live with his parents after marriage and buy a house in two or three years at most.

He also said that his parents were not too busy, and there were people cooking and cleaning the house, so they didn’t have to worry about it at all.

Considering that her boyfriend is a local and her company is not far from her husband's house, so she doesn't have to rent a house anymore, she agreed.

Even so, when she thought of living with her mother-in-law temporarily after marriage, just in case, she kept searching online for several months on how to get along with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which was absurd to think about.

Aren’t my mother and sister-in-law a living example before me?

My sister-in-law is very considerate to her parents, buying clothes, cleaning up the house, taking her parents to see a doctor when she is sick, and guarding her day and night...

My parents are also kinder to my sister-in-law, knowing that she is very tired after a day at work. , always rushing to wash the dishes in front of her, her sister-in-law lost her hair, her mother bought hair care products, her sister-in-law had a cold and didn't want to eat, her mother used various tricks to coax her to eat, and she was more attentive than herself.

There are ready-made examples, but you are still worried that you will not get along well?

Zheng Yuan is full of confidence, and her mother is also pleased that her daughter is sensible.

However, despite this, the mother and daughter were still wrong.

It's true to compare one's feelings with others, but it also depends on the person. Some people will not appreciate it no matter how much you compare one's feelings to others.

1

After the wedding was held, when Wang Qi proposed a honeymoon trip, Zheng Yuan thought about it all night and decided not to go.

There are three reasons. One is to save money to buy a house; the other is that it is the National Day, and there are huge crowds of people when traveling. The traffic jam takes longer than the sightseeing time, which is not cost-effective; the third is that my parents-in-law have saved money all their lives and now they want to take it If you spend 10,000 yuan to travel, if you don’t say it, you will think that you are ignorant.

At first, after my sister-in-law married her brother, she did not want to go because she was afraid that her parents would be unhappy.

After the parents learned about it, they were extremely grateful. They forcibly gave their sister-in-law another 10,000 yuan and said, "You will be free for this time in your life. While we don't have children yet, we are not too old to move." Come on. Go and have a good time. If you don’t have enough money, call your mother!”

So, at the insistence of my parents, my sister-in-law and my brother went on a trip. They came back ten days later and brought some for everyone in the family! Gifts, clothes, scarves, and specialties...

"What are you laughing at? By the way, I really don't want to go on the trip? Then I told my parents that I don't want to go?"

Wang Qi woke up and looked at her laughing blankly. He hugged her and kissed her, interrupting her thoughts.

"Go."

With a smile in her eyes, she got out of bed and tidied the room.

She does not expect herself to be a good daughter-in-law like her sister-in-law, who is praised by everyone, but she should at least do her duty to her parents-in-law.

In other words, be sensible.

Although these two words are easy to write, they are not so easy to do. Especially during marriage, she read too many posts. Being sensible not only includes filial piety, dedication, understanding, etc., but also includes grievances——

No, doesn’t it mean that one family does not belong to the same family? ?

My sister-in-law and her biological mother get along so well, so she will definitely do well.

"Zheng Yuan, come on, it's time to eat.

"

Outside the door, the mother-in-law's voice was very high-pitched, showing happiness.

2

"Okay, Mom. "

She responded and walked out quickly.

"Mom, I'm sorry, I couldn't even help you. "

After sitting down, she took the chopsticks handed over by her mother-in-law and said politely.

"Why are you so polite? We are all a family. We, the old couple, must have accumulated great virtues in our previous lives to marry such a well-educated and good daughter-in-law like you. Qiqi said that you don’t want to go on honeymoon trip because you are afraid of spending money. Take a look, honey, I’m just saying, it’s not that a family doesn’t want to enter a house, the wife here really made the right choice. We, an old couple, have no ability and cannot make a lot of money. We have saved a lifetime by tightening our belts, but we still have something to gain. ”

The mother-in-law was wearing a floral T-shirt. Her chubby body and short hair kept shaking as she spoke. The wrinkles on her face were full of joy. She danced with the chopsticks in her hands while talking. , the rice grains in the corner of his mouth were knocked off the table in a few moments.

"Yes, yes. ”

My father-in-law didn’t like to talk much, but he couldn’t hide his happiness. He kept nodding in agreement, his thin face glowing with joy, and he would look at his mother-in-law from time to time while chewing.

Husband Wang Qi was so proud that he kept kicking her under the table and giving her a look that said, "Look, my parents love you so much."

"Mom, Dad." , don’t say that, this is what I should do. We are all ordinary people, so we have to save our lives. My parents have been beating me since I was a child..."

Zheng Yuan was embarrassed by the praise and said quickly.

"Mom knows, your parents are both intellectuals. We, the old couple, are just ordinary workers, and our income may not be as much as your mother alone. Educating children is naturally inferior to them. Look, how well-educated this child is? Yuanyuan, you don’t know that two months before you got married, my chest hurt so much that I couldn’t sleep. Your dad always said to me, go check it out. I said, what are you checking? The child is getting married, where is the spare money? It costs five thousand yuan. Now look, as soon as you walked in, Mom didn't feel so much pain. It's all your blessing~"

3

The mother-in-law said with a smile, then covered her chest with her hands and looked at Zheng Yuan with a slight frown.

"Mom, if you feel uncomfortable, you have to go see me. Old people are most afraid of a little pain. If you don't go see me, how much will you suffer if it gets serious?" Wait a moment. "

My mother-in-law said so, and I would be too ignorant if I didn't say anything.

"Mom, this is ten thousand, the gift I received yesterday. Take it to a doctor. There can be no delay. How about I go with you? "

As Zheng Yuan spoke, she put down her bowl and chopsticks and went into the bedroom. When she came out, she had a thick wad of cash in her hand. She took a few steps and stuffed it directly into her mother-in-law's hand.

"Hey, how can this be done? Is this what you got married to? Oh, okay, look, look, the wife here is ten thousand times better than the one from the opposite family! I have just entered the door...Qiqi, let me tell you, if you dare to bully Yuanyuan in the future, see if I don't peel off your skin...I, I really accumulated great virtues in my previous life..."

The mother-in-law was so flattered that she pushed her a few times and grabbed it tightly in her hands. She kept praising Zheng Yuan and then she turned down and shouted angrily at Wang Qi. She started sobbing as she spoke.

"Mom, you're welcome, this is what I should do. A family with old age is like a treasure. "

Seeing her mother-in-law like this, Zheng Yuan was moved and hurriedly advised her.

"Mom, don't worry, with you guys protecting me, how can I dare? If I want to bully you, are you three bullying me? "

Wang Qi hurriedly held his head as if begging for mercy. After saying that, he left his seat and sat directly on the sofa to watch TV.

"Okay, my daughter-in-law is so good. Just stay calm and rest assured. From now on, we can treat our daughter-in-law just like we treat our daughter. "

My father-in-law also finished eating and said with a smile.

"Okay, okay, mom won't cry anymore." Yuanyuan, just see how your mother treats you. ”

The mother-in-law wiped away her tears hard, her eyes full of love.

"By the way, honey, when do you think the hospital will open?"

The mother-in-law drank the soup in the bowl and suddenly thought of something and turned to ask her father-in-law.

"It opens at eight o'clock and they don't close the door. What? You go now?"

"Yuanyuan didn't say that just now? We can't delay. I'll go now and wait. You come with me after I wash the dishes."

The mother-in-law stood up and looked at Zheng Yuan who was drinking soup while she was about to put away the dishes.

Although she didn't see it, she could feel her mother-in-law's eyes. Thinking that her mother-in-law's body was important, she put down the bowl and said,

"Mom, you and my dad should go quickly. Now It's already past eight. I'll just take care of it."

"Is this okay? You just walked in~"

"Of course, go get ready." /p>

In order to avoid her mother-in-law snatching her, she pushed her mother-in-law into the bedroom and signaled her to quickly change clothes and get her bag.

What my mother said is indeed true. If you compare your feelings with others, your parents-in-law will treat you kindly.

Didn’t the scene just now illustrate the problem?

Isn’t it true that the mother-in-law refuses to see a doctor for the sake of their marriage and cannot bear to let her wash the dishes? Isn’t this a realistic interpretation of a biological mother and sister-in-law?

Although I paid 10,000 yuan, the happiness I bought is priceless. This is the happiness of the whole family, and there is nothing more pleasant than having fun.

Seeing her parents-in-law go out, Zheng Yuan was still in a state of excitement.

Is the relationship between parents-in-law very beneficial? How hard can it be?

They are old people, a little care and a little dedication can make them happy.

Being sensible, that’s it, it’s not difficult.

Especially when her neighbors said that she was not only sensible, but also overly sensible, she came to a conclusion, added an exclamation mark, and was proud of it.

4

"Do you know now? When you said you would live with my parents, you were not happy. Now you see, we don't have to cook the food, and we don't have to clean up the house. Well prepared. And I’m so nice to you, I bought you sheets...”

Before I knew it, I had been married for two months.

In the past two months, she had gotten along with her parents-in-law just like her parents and sister-in-law. She opened her mouth when food came and stretched out her hands when clothes came.

It is simply more comfortable than at home. You know, at home, her mother always scolds her for being lazy and not doing laundry. She is almost thirty and even asks her to wash her underwear and so on.

The only difference is that my parents never accept money from my sister-in-law, but my parents-in-law have secretly and overtly asked for money three times in the past two months. In addition to the 10,000 she took the initiative to give on the first day of their wedding, there are also They asked for 5,000 yuan in exchange for re-examination, replacement of furniture, and gifts.

What can this do?

My parents have a good income, but my parents-in-law can't earn much in their lifetime. Although they don't want this much money, they muster up a lot of courage in private.

These were her mother's original words. After thinking about it, she thought what her mother said made sense and stopped thinking about it.

"I sleep on the sheets alone? Aren't you there?"

She was satisfied, very satisfied with her mother-in-law's actions.

At the same time, I thought that the clothes on my parents-in-law had pilled and my knees and elbows were white. Furthermore, Wang Qi’s cousin was going to hold a wedding in two months. My parents-in-law didn’t even have decent clothes to attend. How can it be done without? After much thought, I started to pick out clothes for my parents-in-law.

"This one is only 498 yuan. The color is suitable for mom, and the style is very fashionable."

She asked her husband, pointing to a T-shirt worth nearly 500 yuan on the screen.

"It's too expensive. You can't buy more than 300 yuan to buy a house. Change it to another one."

Wang Qi only glanced at the price and rejected her.

"How can that be done? My parents have lived frugally all their lives. They are old and can't be so shabby anymore. Just this one."

Zheng Yuan refused and paid directly money, and also picked a 599 yuan shirt for my father-in-law.

It’s not wrong to treat your parents-in-law as your biological parents.

She felt more and more that her sister-in-law's actions were her role model, and she felt more and more that she had to work hard but was not doing enough.

"Yuanyuan, what clothes are you buying? Mom has them. Look, this one is good and not broken. It's not broken... It's such a waste of money... You are still planning to buy a house..."

On the day the courier arrived, she took it out to show to her parents-in-law. Although her mother-in-law was scolded, she was very happy and kept comparing herself with it.

"Tell me, what do you want to eat tonight? I'll make it."

The mother-in-law was happy, rolled up her sleeves and walked towards the kitchen and asked.

"Mom, you can eat whatever you want. I can do it."

Having a mother-in-law like this is enough, she doesn't want to be picky.

"Okay, Mom remembers that you like braised pork ribs, let's make it."

The mother-in-law went into the kitchen, and the father-in-law went back to the bedroom to try on clothes. She let out a long breath. , half lying on the sofa comfortably, well, this is the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they get along well and are more considerate than their own mother.

But Zheng Yuan forgot that there is a honeymoon period for newlyweds, and there is also a "honeymoon period" for parents-in-law and daughter-in-law.

However, this honeymoon period is usually only two or three months.

From the first day of the third month after marriage, Zheng Yuan faintly noticed that something was wrong.

My mother-in-law suddenly had wrist pain for no reason, and she couldn't touch it with hot water or cold water.

At her request, cooking and washing dishes naturally became her errand. No matter how late she got off work, the whole family would sit neatly on the sofa, waiting for her to do it. Eat and wash the dishes after eating.

At first, she thought that we should be considerate of each other. She had inconvenient menstruation, and her mother-in-law was also competing to wash the dishes.

The old man is feeling uncomfortable now, that’s for sure.

Although I am a little tired, fortunately, the family is harmonious and reunited is a blessing.

As time passed, she felt that was not the case.

5

She discovered that her mother-in-law, who had never liked square dancing, began to dance in the morning and at night, rain or shine.

My heartache is gone, my wrists no longer hurt, and I can move freely while holding the fan and dancing.

"The old man may just want to take a rest. Take a look and don't get excited yet. If it doesn't work, let's talk about it later."

My mother advised me on the phone, and she agreed after thinking about it.

I have always been very sensible since I got married, so naturally my mother-in-law will not treat me badly.

This at least shows that I am not doing a good enough job.

So, in order to be so-called sensible, she worked even harder.

In order to avoid being too late to make breakfast when she got to work in the morning, she deliberately set the alarm clock an hour early.

In order to fear that she would not be able to come back in time to make dinner in the evening, she cut the vegetables she wanted to eat in the morning, prepared them, and put them in the frost so that she could fry them directly when she came back to save time.

My mother-in-law said her wrist hurt, so she bought a massager for it, and she spent more than a thousand yuan without blinking an eye.

As for the parents-in-law, as always, after being polite, they peeled a piece of fruit for her or helped her wash the dishes.

In fact, these little things didn't make her feel anything. Instead, she was moved as before.

What really chilled her was the behavior of her mother-in-law on the day of Wang Qi's cousin's wedding.

That morning, my parents-in-law changed into the clothes she had bought in advance, and my whole body looked brand new and refreshed.

"Mom, my cousin is getting married, should I go to the wedding venue?"

Before her parents-in-law left, she suddenly thought of something and asked hurriedly.

"We have rules here. Sisters-in-law, brothers-in-law, etc. don't have to go. You can cook something at home. I changed the sheets today. You can help me wash them. Your father-in-law is not in good health. Well, it must be made of pure cotton, otherwise he will feel uncomfortable. There is no replacement for this outfit."

The mother-in-law kept looking at her clothes, and the father-in-law next to her kept urging her. I don't want to talk to her either.

“Oh, okay.

What about Wang Qi? He went out early in the morning, and he also asked me to bring the charger for him when I go with you. "

Thinking of Wang Qi's words when he left in the morning, she hurriedly asked.

"Oh, the charger? Then bring it, I'll just take it to him. Don't I just want you to give me a charger? Is it still worth the trip? This kid has so many things going on, and he doesn't know how to care about his wife at all. "

The mother-in-law smiled at her and blamed Wang Qi.

"Okay, I'll get it. ”

Without thinking, she took the charger and gave it to her mother-in-law.

Why are the customs here different from those at home?

Ordinarily, my husband’s and aunt’s Shouldn’t all the children be present at the wedding? Why can’t the whole family go?

Maybe it’s because of the rules, isn’t there a place where the daughter-in-law can’t go to the dinner table?

Thinking of this, she stopped thinking about it and washed the sheets for her parents-in-law. Then considering that her mother-in-law said she only had one pure cotton sheet, she hurried to the mall and bought another one.

6

"Zheng Yuan, why didn't you come over? ”

Since her husband has good relations with relatives, he invited her to join the relative group after she got married.

I just got home from the shopping mall, and a distant cousin-in-law was in the group@ She.

“Don’t I have to go? "

She asked in surprise.

"Who said that? You have to be there, unless something happens you can't come. Didn't your mother-in-law tell you? "

My cousin-in-law sent a laughing emoticon.

"No. Forget it, it's too late now. What I'm doing isn't done yet. ”

She had no choice but to put the newly bought sheets into her closet.

Finally, she understood that being overly sensible would not give you a kind smile and respect, but a kind smile and respect. It was a sign of neglect and indifference, and it was quite suggestive of being bullied.

Looking back on what her parents-in-law had done, it seemed that she suddenly realized that her mother-in-law was just letting her go. Just wash the sheets and buy them.

My mother-in-law asked for money to replace the furniture, but the refrigerator is still the same.

My mother-in-law said that her wrists hurt, but she didn’t hesitate to dance...

My mother-in-law kept praising her for being sensible, but she just asked her to do household chores such as cooking, washing dishes, and cleaning the house.

It turned out that from beginning to end, she was just a competent nanny.

My mother said that she was considerate of her daughter-in-law, but her mother-in-law only tried to exploit her daughter-in-law.

She was wrong, and so was her mother.

“What’s wrong? Why didn't you go there today? ”

In the evening, she didn’t cook. She was still lying on the bed, replaying what her mother-in-law had done in her mind. She slapped her face hard several times for her actions, because she used too much force. Fierce, the palm prints haven’t left yet.

“Your mother asked me to wash the sheets. Have a question? "

She asked angrily.

"No, it won't be?" I thought you might not be familiar with it, so I didn’t go there myself. I didn't call you either. It's my fault, my wife, it's all my fault... My mother did something unethical. I'll admit her mistake on her behalf. "

Wang Qi smelled of alcohol and kept apologizing to her.

"Forget it, it's all over. From today on, I am no longer stupid. ”

She sighed, not blaming Wang Qi. Since getting married, although he has been the shopkeeper, at least he still cares about her. Occasionally he will help her when washing the dishes, and sometimes he will help her when she catches a cold. My mother-in-law went to wash it.

After thinking about it all afternoon, she still couldn’t give up on her marriage for the sake of her parents-in-law.

After all, in private, Wang Qi was still good to herself. At least he’s not a mama’s boy.

“Honey, there must be friction in life, so tell me if anything happens. I know you are dissatisfied with how my mother handled this matter. Why don't you go out and have a quarrel with her with your arms crossed instead of feeling aggrieved? As time goes by, the conflicts become irresolvable.

”

Wang Qi comforted her rationally, but she no longer wants to do these meaningless tasks.

Whoever wants to go there can do it. If it doesn’t work, she can move out and rent a house by herself. , it’s better than my parents-in-law not treating me as human beings here.

"Yuanyuan, don’t do too much at night. We ate a lot there, and we’re not hungry yet..."

Through the crack in the door, the voice of her mother-in-law came from the living room

She got out of bed decisively and opened the door angrily, "I'm going to have hot pot with Wang Qi tonight, you want to eat. Just do whatever you want. "

7

After that, he went back to change clothes.

"Want to eat hot pot? OK, I'll go with you. "

Wang Qi saw this and knew that she was angry, so he responded immediately without saying anything.

She was glad that Wang Qi didn't ask, "Why don't you cook? Why are you talking like this? "These words.

At least this proves her suspicion that Wang Qi still cares about himself.

"How much money is it to go to eat hot pot? A meal with just a few vegetables and a plate of meat costs one or two hundred, which is such a waste. Have some at home. My wrist hurts so much today——"

The mother-in-law may have noticed that her tone was wrong, so she walked to her door and knocked on the door and said.

"Oh, mom, do it. You don't look too good. Are you going to have your period soon? Look at Mom's memory..."

She opened the door suddenly, and when her mother-in-law's eyes touched her gloomy face, she quickly changed her words.

Her mother-in-law still knew how to look at her face, so she continued talking. Heading to the kitchen.

But she didn't care about her meal, so she pulled Wang Qi out.

In fact, she wanted to break up with her mother-in-law when she opened the door. , asked her why she did this, but her mother-in-law's seamless expressions blocked her, and she didn't say a word.

As someone said, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a game, and mother-in-law wins. , the daughter-in-law has to be a cow and a horse; if the daughter-in-law wins, the mother-in-law should act according to the other party's face, not doing what she shouldn't do, and not saying what she shouldn't say.

From then on, she also became a mother-in-law at home. She turned away from the shopkeeper, pushed the bowl back to the room after eating, never chatted with them again, never answered a word to them when they asked anything, and did not touch anything except her own clothes and housework...

Gradually, she knew She has changed and become an "ignorant daughter-in-law".

She found that since she became less sensible, she felt much more relaxed, no longer under pressure, and no longer forced to do things she didn't want to do. , there was no time to embarrass herself, life seemed to become more cheerful, she had time to look up out of the window, look at the ceiling, and let out a long breath

At the same time, she was looking for a house. When she was about to move out, she also discovered that her mother-in-law had changed since then.

Maybe it was out of guilt or because she looked down every day. Her mother-in-law became very diligent and stopped dancing in the square. Then she started doing the same thing, cleaning the house, making breakfast, making dinner, washing dishes, and even giving her a cup of ginseng tea when she looked extremely ugly.

She finally understood that she had been too sensible for a long time. Not only will others ignore you, but you will also ignore yourself. People who always think about others are destined to forget to love themselves.

When she loves herself, others will focus on her. Where she is concerned.

When her mother-in-law’s brother celebrated his birthday, he went to the mall and bought her a festive dress.

“Yuanyuan, I’m sorry for you. . Mom really did something wrong before. I don't treat you as my own daughter. Mom knows that you are angry too. It's just that it's not good for us to be like this all the time. From now on, can you give mom a smile..."

Only after Wang Qi winked desperately did she agree to try on the clothes.

The mother-in-law started nagging and pleading.

The mother-in-law had been cautious and humble for several months, and finally said what she had not said.

But what do these words mean?

She understood that on the surface, she seemed to be repenting, but in fact she was just too tired and wanted to let her take over again. She wanted to achieve her goal with a dress that cost only a hundred yuan? What a great idea.

She also understood that as long as she smiled, everything in the family would gradually be handed over to her, and they would naturally linger on the sofa, waiting for her to call "eat" when she was ready. He gently said "Lift your feet" while waiting for her to clean, and asked "Is there anything else to wash" while waiting for her to wash clothes...

She didn't want to, she knew that this was her mother-in-law's desire to take advantage of the opportunity. Protect yourself and prevent them from moving away.

"Mom, Wang Qi and I will move out next week and have found a house. It will be between our two companies. In the future, if you want to come over, give me a call and I will cook for you. ”

She barely managed a smile, but her expression disappeared in an instant.

"Okay, as long as you are happy and mom agrees, I agree."

The mother-in-law agreed, turned around and raised her hand to wipe away her tears.

"Mom, look what you are doing. You are not going abroad. It is very close to our place. You and Dad can go if you want."

Wang Qi hurriedly stepped forward to comfort him.

"Honey, close the door, I'm changing clothes."

She deliberately shouted in the room. The moment Wang Qi came back and closed the door, she heard her mother-in-law keep chanting. , "Qiqi, do you really don't want your mother? Mom can't bear to leave you..."

She put her ear to the door, wanting to hear what her husband had to say. You know, from beginning to end, Wang Qi was the one who kept her here. The only comfort at home.

?"Mom, I don't blame Yuanyuan, people started to treat you as their own mother, what about you, what do you do...Fortunately, it's not far away, you can go over and see it whenever you want. Look, this is actually good, but there will always be contradictions if you are too close..."

Fortunately, Wang Qi was sensible and did not let himself down.

On the moving day, her mother-in-law trotted behind the car and shouted, "Mom will prepare Yuanyuan's favorite ribs in two days and send them to her..."

Wang Qi was jealous. , she did the same, turning her head and pretending to look at the scenery outside.

"Honey, do you regret it?"

"No regrets."

She replied. What my biological mother said was right, but the mistake was that my mother-in-law was not a person like my biological mother.

Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, whether they are sensible or not depends on each other.

Otherwise, targeting the wrong person and being overly sensible would be foolish.

(End)