Matters needing attention after attending memorial service

Question 1: What are the taboos and details when you come back from the funeral? These are superstitious practices. If you believe it, pat your clothes before entering the room, or shake your shoulders and beat your trouser legs. When you go out at night within seven days, you must light a cigarette and put it out after entering the house! Nothing else! Finally, advise friends to believe in science and materialism! Good luck!

Question 2: What should I pay attention to after attending the funeral? The dark color feels heavy and formal, and the white color feels a little jumping.

Arrive early and see what I can do.

When you arrive, don't be too light, be heavy and be serious.

Since it is a friend's funeral, you can comfort your friend, his mother and family.

If you are in the countryside, buy a wreath. After going, go to the nearby town and buy one.

With the ceremony, there should be a cashier or something.

The main seat may be at night.

Get ready to stay up late.

Question 3: What should I pay attention to after attending the funeral? The customs and habits of different nationalities and regions are very different, which is called "different customs in ten miles"

The old tradition of Han funeral is to pay attention to heavy burial, which is mixed with many superstitious customs. Coffin burial has been popular in Han nationality since ancient times. Funeral is grand and can be divided into three stages: burial, burial and burial.

The funeral is to dress the body and put it under the coffin. Before people die, they should summon spirits and bathe the dead. Funeral is divided into two steps: small funeral and large funeral. A small undertaker is a cloth used to wrap his body, silk is for the rich and jade is for the royal family. Great-coat is to put the body in the coffin. Coffins are called "longevity materials", male coffins are engraved with the word "longevity", female coffins are engraved with the word "blessing", and some coffins are engraved with the combination of the words "Fu Lushou". When he was dying, he put rice in the mouth of the dead man. This rich family owns jade, pearls, etc. , the royal family contains jade, modern silver, are called "rice". When you die, there are often some things buried with you. Generally, people have clothes, quilts and daily necessities, and wealthy families and royalty will have many valuable items buried with them.

A funeral is to stay in the funeral palace after the funeral. The mourning period varies from 3 days to 30 days, mainly depending on the mourners. In ancient times, coffins were buried for three months, up to seven months. According to the traditional customs of the Han nationality, children should mourn when their parents die, otherwise it is unfilial. Relatives and friends will mourn and pay homage to the deceased in the future, which is called "mourning" or "condolence". All mourners should mourn. In ancient times, the mourning clothes of Han nationality were divided into five types: Wei, Cui Zi, Dagong, Hong Xiao and Zhima, which were called "five clothes". They are made of coarse linen and fine linen, and wear different mourning clothes according to the relationship between relatives and friends, which is called "Pima Dai Xiao". In modern times, white cloth is often used for mourning. Modern cities generally wear white flowers on their chests and black gauze on their arms.

Burying is burying the body of the dead, that is, burying the coffin. Before burial, the old custom often depends on geomantic omen and chooses a cemetery, which is called "choosing good luck". Funeral is also called funeral. At the funeral, the ancient Han people were generally "dutiful sons", and undertaker sang an elegy. Elegy has evolved into elegy in modern times. Relatives and friends wrote elegiac couplets or funeral elegiac couplets, which evolved into wreaths of elegiac couplets in modern times.

In ancient times, the custom of offering sacrifices to people (mainly close relatives, near ministers and near servants, which remained until the Qing Dynasty) was gradually replaced by pottery figurines, and in modern times, paper figures were buried with them.

After the funeral, there are memorial ceremonies for the seventh, seventh, centenary and anniversary, and the memorial tablet belongs to the ancestral hall, which has changed from a ceremony for people at the funeral to a ceremony for "ghosts" and "ancestors".

In addition, the Han nationality also has the custom of "returning to burial", that is, transporting the bodies that died in other places back to their original places.

During the funeral, the relatives of the deceased should wear mourning clothes and wake in the mourning hall. In the ancient etiquette system of China, filial piety was divided into five grades according to the kinship with the deceased. There is also a word "five clothes" in modern Chinese to express the distance of blood relationship. Filial piety is made of white cloth, which is quite different from the custom of westerners wearing white clothes to make dresses. In the Qing Dynasty, an Englishman came to China for the first time. When he met the funeral procession, everyone was dressed in white, but his expression was painful, sad and strange. In ancient times, people sang elegies at funerals, and Tao Yuanming, a great poet in Jin Dynasty, wrote three elegies for himself before his death. The elegy of later generations evolved from the elegy of ancient times.

The scale of the funeral ceremony is closely related to the status of the deceased. In feudal society, there were strict regulations on funeral ceremonies for people with different identities and status. Princes, nobles and rich people often show off their power with large-scale funerals. In A Dream of Red Mansions, Qin Keqing died in Ningguo Mansion with a coffin worth several thousand taels of silver. Two or three hundred monks chanted, and the procession at the funeral was "mighty and unstoppable". The poor don't even have enough food and clothing, so naturally there is no "reburial". Sometimes you can only wrap the body with a mat and bury it hastily.

After the death of the elder, children and grandchildren should stay at home for 27 months, during which time they should stop socializing and entertaining. Officials must also leave their jobs and go home to be filial to show their condolences to their relatives. This is the so-called "shouzhi".

Examples of funeral procedures

Suppose someone died at the age of 8 1, male, military background, full of children and grandchildren.

Change clothes, wear military uniforms and long-lived shoes. Covered with yellow silk and white silk towel.

All the buttons on the clothes should be cut off, and the clothes should be tied with a cloth belt, but not with a "dead knot".

Initial plastic surgery: facial features reset, with a gold ingot or a coin in his mouth. Gold ingot in the left hand (all imitations) and dog stick (convenient chopsticks) in the right hand.

The body is tied with a red line, mainly hands and feet. If there are cats and dogs to take care of at home, you can't go near the body. (to prevent the soul of the deceased from attaching to animals) transported to the funeral home.

Set up a simple mourning hall at home

Portrait: I prepared an enlarged photo in advance and bought a special photo frame. Set the black ribbon.

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Question 4: What should I pay attention to when going to the funeral home? The most important thing is to pay attention to dress, don't dress too fancy and bright, pay attention to proper black and look serious. As for other forms, just follow the crowd. Nothing is too complicated. Take it easy. Good luck.

Question 5: What should I pay attention to after attending the funeral? Of course, you should pay attention to taking a bath. Clean up the soil on your feet before you enter the door. Don't bring dirt into the house, then take a hot bath to remove the dirt. It should be nothing. If you are not at ease, sprinkle a row of salt on the door.

Question 6: What should I pay attention to when attending a funeral? The first thing to attend a funeral is honesty. Don't join in the fun, and don't look fresh, otherwise it's easy to make impolite moves and be rude to the deceased and his family.

Clothing: Both men and women should wear dark clothes such as black and blue. Men can wear white or dark shirts. Women should not wear lipstick and bright scarves. Try to avoid wearing accessories. If necessary, consider white pearls or plain accessories and avoid wearing gold.

Text: It is forbidden to use words such as "death" and "misery" that are reminiscent of misfortune in funerals. As a condolence, you can generally say, "This incident really makes me sad. Please feel sorry for your loss. " "It's too sudden. I sincerely express my condolences. Please take care. " And don't cry loudly, and don't mourn for too long, which will easily lead to the sadness of your family. It's hard to stop.

Etiquette: The funeral venue is solemn. The words of mourners should be restrained. Talking loudly and slapping with laughter are disrespectful to the deceased and their families. Only by lowering your voice and behaving gently and steadily can you show your sincerity and grace.

Question 7: What should I pay attention to when I go home from the memorial service? This is just a psychological effect. There will be no bad luck. Think about things better.

If you can't get rid of superstition, here are some things for you:

1, the death of a loved one is actually a kind of "robbery". The disaster dissipated with the death of this man. For you, it's to avoid a robbery.

If you think everything is not going well, you can do good. If you visit your long-lost relatives and elders, the so-called good results will make you feel at ease and strong, and you can face everything calmly.

3, really superstitious, you can do happy things, the so-called rush to be happy, such as your own birthday, family birthday, please get together with friends and family, have fun, and your mood will get better.

Question 8: What should I pay attention to when I go home from a funeral? Don't go home to a crowded shopping mall, dilute my bad luck with the spirit of the sun and then go home.

Question 9: What happened after attending the memorial service can be said as follows: 1. See the last item of the fourth answer

Second, black pants. Show seriousness

Third, it is more appropriate to send a wreath. If a mourning hall is set up, it will still be sent to the memorial service site on Sunday. If you write, you can write something like "Comrade XXX is immortal". Generally, places that sell wreaths will write for you. They also have a lot of words.

Four, should pay attention to the following issues:

1, first of all, the problem of dress. You should wear black formal clothes. If necessary, you should also wear a black tie, which is unnecessary considering your age;

Secondly, you should arrive on time and let you know when you arrive. Don't be late.

3. Pay attention to your expression, and don't let a group of people laugh and pass;

4. It is also best to turn off the mobile phone at that time or turn it to the vibration mute mode;

You should also ask their relatives and friends about their own local customs, such as whether the gift money is included, and whether there are any special requirements for the amount of the gift money. For example, even numbers can't appear in some places, some places must be 9 in the end, and some places don't include gifts. This answers your first question.