What should you do in the face of your mother-in-law's difficulties?

First, my mother-in-law didn't marry her mother. Legally speaking, her mother-in-law is your mother. Many girls naturally regard their mother-in-law as their own mother after their initial enthusiasm. But be clear in your heart: your mother-in-law is not your biological mother. In other words, you can't be willful and coquettish in front of her like your mother. You shouldn't expect her to care about you as much as your mother does. You know, she is good to you, probably for her son's sake. I hope you can be kind to your son, or I'm afraid my son will lose face. You don't expect much from your mother-in-law, so you won't be disappointed by her strange behavior. Distance produces beauty, and keeping a certain distance from your mother-in-law is good for your future relationship. Second, a daughter-in-law should be a needle in cotton. Some girls will behave themselves when they arrive at their in-laws' house, in order to leave a virtuous impression on each other. If you meet a powerful mother-in-law, she will make rules at once. In fact, in a family, only one person has the final say. No matter how docile you are, you should stick to your principles on key issues and let your mother-in-law realize that you are the real hostess of a small family. Third, the strategy of encircling the city from the countryside In order to please her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, Cecilia Cheung first got on well with her sister-in-law. The daughter-in-law in "Spicy Grandma" is to make grandma (mother-in-law's mother-in-law) happy first. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may easily be in a hostile position, so it may be easier to get rid of the people around her mother-in-law first. Of course, the most important thing is to get your husband on your side. Some girls will say that their mother-in-law is not good in front of their husbands. In fact, this is the stupidest way. You know, in my husband's mind, most mothers are inviolable images. Even if my mother is old and a little paranoid and confused now, she won't admit it. Therefore, it is more important to make your husband realize that marriage with you is the happiness of the rest of his life. Fourth, put yourself in the mother-in-law's shoes. Some girls feel that their mother-in-law is particularly unreasonable, interfering in the internal affairs of young couples and finding fault. In fact, you can put yourself in your mother-in-law's shoes and feel that some of her behaviors are excusable. After giving birth to her son, my girlfriend sometimes says, I feel depressed when I think that in a few years her son will listen to her for a woman who doesn't live in the world, but her own words are turned a deaf ear to the old lady who raised him. Mother-in-law may feel that her daughter-in-law can't take care of her son, or worry that her son's daughter-in-law's living habits are unhealthy. In her eyes, her son is always the one who needs to be taken care of. Maybe when girls become mothers, they will understand a mother's heart better. What should you do in the face of your mother-in-law's difficulties? 2 1. When I first got married, my mother-in-law was still embarrassed to say anything, so when they looked at her daughter-in-law, they would say something strange to her daughter-in-law and then make her realize. Under normal circumstances, my mother-in-law makes it very clear, as long as she is not an innocent daughter-in-law. I told you on purpose, but I'm embarrassed to say it when I understand it here, so I can only sulk. After a long time, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will soon appear. What should you do when your mother-in-law says you? That's right, play dumb! Li Juan's mother-in-law lives a very comfortable life. She came to see her daughter-in-law, usually Huimian Noodles, a cabbage. It's rare to cook braised pork once, which makes everyone unhappy. My mother-in-law bought a piece of meat and cut it into 28 pieces. She didn't eat any of it herself. She likes to watch her son and husband eat it, but her daughter-in-law only eats meat for dinner and makes 13 at once, which makes her very angry. Yaping gave her mother a piece of meat, and her mother-in-law immediately said, "I don't eat, I'm not greedy." If I eat less, my son will eat more! " ! At that time, Li Juan immediately recognized the meaning of her mother-in-law. This is because she ate too much meat! But Li Juan didn't take her mother-in-law's words seriously. You say yours, I'll play dumb as long as I don't call the roll. It's not that I don't earn a salary. Eat meat by your face. Li Juan won the game completely. She was full and left her mother-in-law angry. what do you think? 2, calmly deal with the "smiling tiger" Many mother-in-law have said the same thing, "I will definitely treat my daughter-in-law as a daughter", but after living together, I discovered that some mother-in-law really just do superficial work, but when doing things, their behavior has completely changed. Such a mother-in-law is particularly good in the eyes of outsiders, and people can say it, but it is quite difficult to deal with in the eyes of daughter-in-law. First I scolded you, and then I said kindly, "Don't you think?" "I just said it casually!" Let her say all the good things and bad things, and the daughter-in-law is so angry that she can't say anything. How to deal with such a "smiling tiger" mother-in-law Ma Yaping is a typical smiling tiger. She doesn't like the attitude of her daughter-in-law, and she doesn't like her son being directed by her daughter-in-law, so she often scolds Li Juan in front of her son. First, Li Juan was called worthless. When she wants to explain, she will immediately say "I'm just saying", plus her extremely kind smile, it's invincible! The old lady not only scolded her daughter-in-law in front of her son, but also did the same thing to Li Juan. Li Juan sat on the sofa watching TV, and her mother-in-law wanted to clean the TV, but she kept nagging while cleaning it, saying that she satirized Li Juan's unsanitary condition, which embarrassed Li Juan. Li Juan was about to explain when the old woman said, "Don't you think so?" Li Juan felt embarrassed and wronged. Yaping's mother is an old lady who loves to speak ill of others and has many things to do, but when she said the last sentence with a smile, people were powerless to fight back. People with a little low experience really can't cope! In the face of such a mother-in-law, the only thing you need to do is not to be led astray by her and stick to your principles. No matter what she says, just tell her your attitude. She said that, and you didn't speak, which means you were bullied. You still think she is right. When you speak, you seem ignorant. So explain your principles to her and let her decide for herself. There is nothing wrong with it! 3. Household appliances should be prepared. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often caused by small things in life, such as washing dishes and washing clothes. In the play, Li Juan has been spoiled since childhood, and she can't do any housework. After she got married, she never washed dishes and cooked. But after her mother-in-law came, she was forced to wash the dishes, which made her very wronged. And the first conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was also caused by washing dishes. There is no good way to avoid this situation. After all, nobody wants to work, right? Don't worry about money if conditions permit. Now as long as all kinds of machines are installed, housework is no longer a problem! Dishwasher, garbage disposal machine, washing machine, sweeping robot, etc. With these appliances, you don't have to worry about washing dishes, washing clothes and mopping the floor, and the housework is cut in half in an instant. As for cooking, whoever has time will do it. Don't be wronged. If you don't do it, don't eat it if you can! 4, not used to smelly problems Some mother-in-law was quite good when you first got married. After a while, they became more and more insatiable. Why? Because everyone can't understand each other's temper at first, they will tolerate each other in the process of getting along. As a daughter-in-law, I will try my best to please the elderly. At this time, some mother-in-law began to ask you with the attitude of their elders when they saw that you were bullied. Only then did I find myself in a dilemma In the face of such an old man, when you find a problem, you should stop at once and tell your in-laws clearly about your attitude. Don't blindly obey, or their bad habits will increase! Li Juan was once severely taught a lesson by her in-laws about having children. Li Juan was so wronged that he cried. This is the bottom line for in-laws to test Li Juan. As a result, Li Juan came out as if nothing had happened the next day and called his parents with his mouth open and his mouth closed as before. This in-laws are easy to talk to when they see their daughter-in-law, so there is no bottom line for their in-laws to have children! In the face of this kind of in-laws who like to push their luck, the best way to deal with it is to do it according to their own ideas, regardless of other people's ideas and opinions. If they have a problem, please respect yourself. After all, everyone is equal! If you can stick to this attitude, they will at least know how to respect your wishes when they speak and do things in front of you in the future, instead of being as unscrupulous as before. 5. Don't be kidnapped by morality. Why is the daughter-in-law often in a passive position in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Because in-laws, even people in the whole society like to kidnap others morally! As a daughter-in-law, as a younger generation, we must unconditionally obey the elderly for whatever reasons and excuses. You can't have your own ideas, you must be filial to the elderly. This is moral kidnapping! My in-laws have never raised my daughter-in-law, which is not good for her, so please don't draw too many frames for my daughter-in-law to beg others! Please don't say how much money the husband's family spent to marry his wife, because they didn't do it for her at all! I hereby declare that I am firmly opposed to asking for a large amount of bride price when getting married. The bride price is just a form, which reflects the importance that the husband's family attaches to the bride's family. Under normal circumstances, how much money the husband's family gives, the family will take it back when the daughter gets married, or even more. If you really want a lot of bride price as a daughter-in-law and don't bring it back, then don't haggle with your mother-in-law, because you are not qualified from the beginning! However, there are indeed many young people who need a lot of bride price to get married, including houses and cars, but you should prepare all these things for your son, and it has nothing to do with his daughter-in-law, so when you complain, please blame your son for being unreliable, or yourself, in short, don't blame his daughter-in-law! Marriage should be based on love, and then talk about responsibility with feelings! After marriage, the mother-in-law is good to her daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law will naturally be good to her, because no woman marries to fight with her mother-in-law, please be clear about this! Mother-in-law can say that her daughter-in-law has done something wrong and even criticize her, but please don't kidnap her daughter-in-law morally if nothing happens. After all, people have no obligation to carry on the family line for you, just listen to you and be filial to you for your son. People's kindness to you is based on your attitude towards others! As a daughter-in-law, needless to say, just let your in-laws understand this truth. Therefore, as in-laws, if you want to live in harmony with your family, please be kind to your daughter-in-law and let others feel that her in-laws are their home. Otherwise, you old couple are really not qualified to ask your daughter-in-law for anything! Although people are young, please give them the minimum respect, because this is the premise for you to be respected by others! As a wife, you must respect your in-laws. Now that you have decided to get married, don't give others trouble. If you really meet unreasonable in-laws, it is enough to have a clear-cut stand and be reasonable! Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with. This is a problem that has not been solved for thousands of years. Every family has its own way of getting along. When your family is unhappy, you will know what is going on by looking at the happiness of others. Don't always complain, it's more important to look at your words and deeds first!