How to deal with people who attack their self-confidence?

First of all, we know each other's absolute malice, which is a very important gain, because before this happened, you were in the light and the enemy was in the dark.

Now that the other party has exposed his goal, you know who you have to guard against and what kind of people you have to face.

What's more, you have done this well enough, and you have the advantage of being "unique", that is, facts have proved that you are excellent. If the other party distorts the facts, it will eventually expose the clues. Furthermore, because you have the advantage of facts, you should not only prevent the other party from distorting the facts, but also pay attention to the flaws of the other party's distortion, and understand and use both methods and remarks.

So in this case, what we have to do is not only to make it clear that we are right, but also to prove that we are right: if the first two situations are an adjustment of mentality, then this situation is a confrontation between facts and human nature.

So, how should we face these remarks and attitudes, so that we are not affected, or minimize the impact? Specific problems, specific analysis. Self-confidence is hit, usually in three ways.

First, I did really badly and was criticized by others.

Second, it's okay to do it yourself. Someone deliberately disgusted you and embarrassed you.

Third, you did well enough, and some people distorted the facts to make others think that you didn't do well.

Next, let's analyze them one by one.

First, I didn't do well, so at this time, I was criticized, my self-confidence was hit, and my face would hang up. This is a subconscious performance of many people.

But what if we understand it from a different angle and with a positive attitude? For example, if a colleague criticizes you, then he is really right, which means that colleagues can't bear to see you make mistakes and don't want to cause bigger problems because you make mistakes again and again.

Then we don't care about the personality performance of our colleagues, or even the birth of the constellation. Understanding the valuable criticism of colleagues in a positive sense will make us understand that what seems malicious is actually a friendly suggestion. Instead, you will be willing to accept criticism: one more person doesn't want to see your jokes, and one less person wants to see your jokes.

Then second, I did a good job, but I deliberately disgusted you.

How to treat this situation?

If someone deliberately disgusts you, it must be your behavior, which has been "affirmed" by him. Either you are a threat to him, or he thinks he is not doing well, and you look better than him. This just proves your Excellence. You are better than him. On the surface, he criticized you. In fact, you criticized him with your actions! In fact, this kind of thing is not uncommon in our social life, especially in the workplace.

Many people attack you out of malice. In the final analysis, you did better than him. This blow to your self-confidence actually proves his lack of self-confidence. Some people, the more they lack, the more they should emphasize. Others are afraid that you are more than him, so they can only make you yield by beating you. When they understand this, they will understand their sadness.

Well, finally, the third point is extremely bad. Your Excellence has been distorted into inferiority by the other party. This practice is not only the second kind of jealousy, but also based on a clear hatred, with a clear blow, to destroy his competitors and discredit your achievements.