What if the mother-in-law prefers boys to girls?

What if the mother-in-law prefers boys to girls?

What if the mother-in-law prefers boys to girls? For the elderly, there is always a preference for boys over girls. So in life, there is a mother-in-law who is particularly patriarchal. What should she do as a daughter-in-law? If you want to know, the following is what I do to my mother-in-law, and I hope I can help you!

What if the mother-in-law prefers boys to girls? 1 I have been married for three years. My daughter is two years old and my husband is five years older than me. When I first got married, my friends and colleagues advised me to think it over. I don't understand why I am such a person who is nothing like me, but I think he loves me. I am afraid that a man who works better and earns more money than me will get bored and find an affair after a long time, so I firmly married him.

Although the married life is sweet but noisy, I know he loves me. He has been working hard for me and has learned to make progress. After the daughter was born in the second year, because parents preferred sons to daughters, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began to appear at home, and things became more and more serious. I never thought about having a second child. His parents were very angry, and his mother publicly scolded me in the community, so I had to hide in my room. For him, I put up with it and made up with his mother afterwards, but his mother still spoke ill of me everywhere as before, which made me feel bad.

Once, he was angry and looked at me like an enemy. Now our relationship is getting colder and colder. We have been sleeping in separate beds for a long time. Sometimes he will say something nice, but I always feel that he doesn't love me. How can I save our marriage? Because I don't want my children to live in a single-parent family. Thank you.

Reply:

As for your question, I think it is actually a very common social problem. At present, there are still many elderly people who have a preference for sons over daughters, which is deeply rooted. Unless we show respect, we can't change the old man's mind. You should face it with tolerance. After a long time, children gradually grow up and understand, and parents naturally like it and gradually compromise.

The baby is your own. You should show your love for your child first, so that the child can get the fatherly love he deserves, although I don't know what your husband's attitude towards your child is. No matter how others treat your children, you should be kind to your children first.

There is no important communication between you and your mother-in-law, and between you and your husband. Please communicate with your husband first to see if he agrees not to have a second child. It is an important process for a husband to try to convince his mother-in-law. In addition, if your mother-in-law has a problem with you and speaks ill of you outside, you can try to communicate with her. You don't have to be too firm. On the surface, you have to compromise her first.

If you can't have a second child because of economic conditions, it can be said that the time is not yet ripe. Let's ease the contradiction between the two people first. People's hearts are all meat. If you still complain about her in front of your husband, it will affect the contradiction between you if she knows. Moreover, complaining can't solve any problems, but only deepen the misunderstanding and contradiction between two people.

We women must always understand that mother-in-law is her husband's mother. On the other hand, if your husband complains about your mother in front of you every day, I'm sure you will feel very uncomfortable. So, if you complain, his position will be very embarrassing. A person who has raised him for decades, he can't fully show the attitude of "two families" in front of you. People are short rather than long, because she will hear it sooner or later. As for what she said outside, there is no nutrition, anything that excites you, filter it out.

I believe your husband still loves you. Try to put yourself in his shoes, learn more about his psychological activities, complain less and praise more, and advise you more. If you want to save this marriage, don't sleep in separate beds. No matter how big the contradiction is, it will not be deadlocked to the point of such a break. Conflicts should be resolved in time, otherwise it will become the fatal point of marriage.

What if the mother-in-law prefers boys to girls? My mother-in-law is old-fashioned, so you should understand her. Because my mother-in-law has been through it, you can tell her about the harm of son preference and your own ideas. I believe she will change.

Giving birth to a child is like walking through the gates of hell for a woman. Giving birth to a daughter is no less painful than giving birth to a son. If a woman is in pain and suffering, but she still has to pay attention to whether she is a man or a woman, and she has to bear indifference and blame for giving birth to her daughter, then it will be sad and burdensome for a woman to give birth to a child.

I heard an angry story recently. When Xia Xia, a friend's best friend, gave birth to a baby in the hospital, the palace mouth opened slowly and her stomach ached all day. She begged her husband to say, "Please let me have a caesarean section. I can't stand the pain! " "

At this time, the mother-in-law pulled her husband out: "Son, don't be silly. Caesarean section can only give birth to three children at most, with three to four years in the middle. What if it's a daughter this time? " In this way, just because of her mother-in-law's words, just because she wanted more children, Xia Xia suffered in the hospital for 20 hours and almost fainted.

Especially after learning that Xia Xia gave birth to a daughter, her mother-in-law who had planned to retire early with her grandson returned to her hometown in the county the next day. And her husband is lukewarm to her, and he doesn't even want to change a diaper for his daughter for the next month. I really can't imagine that China still has so many patriarchal ideas today. They only want one son in their lives. Even if this son is a loser, he is lame, deaf and stupid.

It is understood that most of them are able and willing to accept the cost and result of having a son. But who knows, in these patriarchal families, it is not only parents who are really hurt, but also hard-won sons who are spoiled as waste, and daughters of other people who are oppressed everywhere.